bro you serisouly don't think the pelvis and child birth dialogue was cringey and inappropriate way to talk to a woman? i thought you were better bro.
I don't know when we started to assign new meaning to words. I must have missed the message. Yes, I do find the dialogues cringeworthy, but I don't find it inappropriate given the context of the character and its place within the film. If I agree with the statement you made, would you say or agree that these following lines are tasteless? Vulgar? Do you think it's lewd? Or how about rude?
கட்டில் இடும் சூட்டோடு தொட்டில் கட்டு அன்னமே...
முல்லைக் கொடி தரும் அந்தப் பிள்ளைக் கனி வேண்டுமே...
I invite you to ask what causes you to feel uncomfortable when you hear a fictitious character's words? Why do the dialogue in Animal change the physiology of your body to the point that your stomach gets tight, whereas the equivalent of the same words packaged in a more appealing manner elicits a different reaction when you hear the song in Ejamaan?
I believe that taking personal responsibility is the most powerful position anyone can take, regardless of their external circumstances. You are responsible for how you view and respond to those circumstances, and that is especially true in situations in which you feel offended.
Most often, I think, people misinterpret what they don't know about themselves with what they are unaware of, and this leads them to become agitated when they see or experience the unawareness.
Are there any possible similarities between Ranvijay's character and yours? Is it possible that he is a shade of you? A composite of you? Or better yet, an accurate reflection of your own? What's the difference between Ranvijay and Tyler Durden?
Would you say that from your perspective, hearing a certain dialogue or watching a certain image that is deliberately designed for entertainment purposes and then to tie all the associations that come along with it to the creator of the film or an individual who tends to like the film is a form of prejudice itself?
Let's consider a neutral example like a religious symbol. It doesn't matter whether it's the Sanskrit Om, the Dharmachakra, the Cross, Swastika, Star and Crescent, etc. I see them as they are. There are symbols. Obviously, there are associations with them, but why should I investigate those associations especially if I'm not acquainted with the person who's wearing it?
You see, I firmly believe that a visceral reaction depends on how much you allow yourself to be affected. Ask questions if you are uncertain or conflicted about something you hear or see. Perhaps you will learn something new. If, however, you're still offended, that's your choice, and I respect your choice.
As a final note, I would like to express that I am not trying to corner you, nor is that my goal. Having more conversations is the only way to move forward, so I really appreciate your feedback. My point is that we can find ANYTHING offensive if we choose to do so.
Much love,
V.
