i’m a mess

ne/nem/nir—check out my pinned post! underage dm me if you’d like, I’m lonely and shy

[watermelonismysexuality]

pronouns: ne/nem/nir

so mine are actually neopronouns! these are pronouns that are customized and aren’t ‘normal’ pronouns like she, they, him, i, etc. some non-binary people use them but anyone can if it makes them more comfortable!

i figured out i might be genderqueer and these pronouns made me much better than any others.

this post actually talks about these and explains them very well.

but in short, the way to use them is:

ne is my friend. i am friends with nem. nir favorite color is yellow. that shirt is nirs. ne is happy with nemself.

thanks for reading this!

[softgrlfriend]

that’s enough emotions for a whole year. ciao

[insertchaoticenbyname]

The earlier in the year you reblog this the better it gets

[lilithritter-deactivated2021021]

It’s only the 3rd day and I’m totally over all the emotions.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[headspace-hotel]

[oozins]

[prideknights]

How the LGBTQ+ Community Conquered 2020 ⚔️🏳️‍🌈

2020 has not been the easiest of years for us. From wild bushfires and hurricanes, to a global pandemic and elections, this year has put a toll on all of us. 

But we want to look at the positives that happened in the LGBTQ+ community in 2020 to remind us all that there has been light in all of this darkness and that we should look forward to the wins which will greet us in 2021.

January

Northern Ireland legalised same-sex marriage

Utah bans LGBTQ conversion therapy for children

New Hampshire allows a third gender option on driving licenses 

February 

Croatia makes fostering children legal for same-sex couples

Switzerland votes to ban homophobic discrimination

March 

Virginia bans conversion therapy for children 

Gay panic defence removed as a defence for committing a crime 

April

Same-sex marriage legalised in Sark, UK

May

Germany bans conversion therapy for children and adults who were pressured into receiving it

Albania bans conversion therapy

Zambian President pardons 3000 people who were jailed for being homosexual

Costa Rica legalises same-sex marriage

June

The US Supreme Court ruled that LGBTQ+ people are entitled to protection from discrimination based on their sexual orientation and gender identity

July

Montenegro voted to legalise same-sex civil partnerships

Gabon decriminalizes homosexuality 

Sudan abolishes death penalty for homosexuality

Scotland becomes first country to teach LGBTQ+ history as part of their curriculum 

Mexico City bans conversion therapy 

August

South African marriage officials cannot legally reject same-sex couples

In Australia, Queensland has banned conversion therapy

September

Inheritance laws in Hong Kong now fully cover LGBTQ+ people

English schools now teach LGBTQ+ inclusive lessons

October

In Mexico, the state of Mexico has banned conversion therapy

Pope Francis shows support for LGBTQ+ acceptance and civil unions

Canada reintroduces bill banning LGBT conversion therapy

November

Nevada to protect same-sex marriage in state constitution 

Sarah McBride became the first transgender state senator

Italy’s lower house of parliament approves bill protecting LGBT+ community

In Canada, Yukon has banned conversion therapy

December

In Mexico, Tlaxcala legalised Same-Sex Marriage

The UK lifted restrictions on blood donations from gay and bisexual men

Uruguay has also lifted restrictions on blood donations from gay and bisexual men

Bolivia holds its first same-sex civil union

The LGBTQ+ community has made a lot of progress in 2020 and that will only continue into 2021! As a community, let’s push forward and make the next year an amazing one! Stay proud! ⚔️🏳️‍🌈

[lolipoploveify]

[inuzukahana-deactivated20210106]

“I don’t believe in the death penalty.... unless it’s for pedophiles and rapists” then u DO believe in the death penalty and you’re def doing some mental gymnastics if you can’t understand that this will still negatively impact minority groups. Men of color, especially black men, have historically had false accusations of rape leveled against them by white women that resulted in them being unjustly murdered. Transfems are often made out to be pedophiles and rapists. Gay men & bi men are often made out to be pedophiles. Meanwhile, white cis male rapists get off basically Scott free and cis female rapists/pedophiles are hardly even acknowledged. The death penalty is never defensible as it doesn’t even deter people from committing crimes that are considered punishable by death & allowing it will always provide the state an undue amount of power over citizens that will be primarily exercised over marginalized peoples

[neutral-wizard]

If you don't see the issue with giving th stay government power to sentence someone to die then you need to sit down and fucking think about the exorbent amounts of corruption in politics at any level, not to mention the massive racism problem and joke of a criminal justice system.

[headspace-hotel]

Basically: debate isn’t even about whether anyone deserves the death penalty, not really. What it’s really about is whether the government can decide who deserves it. Our “Justice” system is extremely corrupt.

[bedbugbiting]

My face is having uncontrollable spasms. Great. It hurts really, really, really bad.

I think part of why I have trouble explaining pain to the doctor is when they ask about the pain scale I always think “Well, if someone threw me down a flight of stairs right now or punched me a few times, it would definitely hurt a lot more” so I end up saying a low number. I was reading an article that said that “10” is the most commonly reported number and that is baffling to me. When I woke up from surgery with an 8" incision in my body and I could hardly even speak, I was in the most horrific pain of my life but I said “6” because I thought “Well, if you hit me in the stomach, it would be worse.”

[bomberqueen17]

I searched and searched for the post this graphic was from, and the OP deactivated, but I kept the graphic, because my BFF does the same thing, uses her imagination to come up with the worst pain she can imagine and pegs her “10″ there, and so is like, well, I’m conscious, so this must be a 5, and then the doctors don’t take her seriously. (And she then does things like driving herself to the hospital while in the process of giving birth. Probably should have called an ambulance for that one!)

So I found this and sent it to her. Because this is what they want to know: how badly is this pain affecting you? Not on a scale of “nothing” to “how I’d imagine it’d feel if bears were eating my still-living guts while I was on fire”. 

I hate reposting stuff, but I’ll never find that post again and OP is deactivated, so, here’s a repost. I can delete this later, i just wanted to get it to you and I can’t embed images in a chat or an ask. 

[derryderrydown]

This is possibly why it took several weeks to diagnose my fractured spine.

[petralemaitre]

Pain Scale transcription:

10 - I am in bed and I can’t move due to my pain. I need someone to take me to the emergency room because of my pain.

9 - My pain is all that I can think about. I can barely move or talk because of my pain.

8 - My pain is so severe that it is difficult to think of anything else. Talking and listening are difficult.

7 - I am in pain all the time. It keeps me from doing most activities.

6 - I think about my pain all of the time. I give up many activities because of my pain.

5 - I think about my pain most of the time. I cannot do some of the activities I need to do each day because of the pain.

4 - I am constantly aware of my pain but can continue most activities.

3 - My pain bothers me but I can ignore it most of the time.

2 - I have a low level of pain. I am aware of my pain only when I pay attention to it.

1 - My pain is hardly noticeable.

0 - I have no pain.

[airagorncharda]

It’s also really important to get this kind of scale to people who have chronic pain, because chronic pain drastically lowers your perception of how “bad” any kind of pain actually is, and yet something like this pain scale is extremely user friendly. 

For example, if someone asked me how much pain I’m in at any given time, I’d say hardly any, and yet I’m apparently at a chronic 2.5, and it only goes up from there depending on the day. 

There’s also a similarly useful “Fatigue Scale”

[jedijenkins]

I haven’t been below a 5 on this scale for 4 years 

[nerdgasrnz]

Here’s the fatigue scale

[sunny-day-sky]

Fatigue scale image desc:

10: can barely move; can’t talk

9: can barely move; can talk

8: can move, but can’t do much more than watch TV

7: can watch TV and play a game on my phone simultaneously

6: can do work on my computer lying in bed

5: can get around the house, but definitely couldn’t go out

4: can run a light errand

3: can get in my 10,000 steps, making my fitbit happy

2: can do three or more activities in a single day

1: going clubbing!

[eruvadhril]

See also the Mental Health Pain Scale by Graceful Patient:

Mental Health Pain Scale transcription:

MILD

1 - Everything is a-okay! There is absolutely nothing wrong. You’re probably cuddling a fluffy kitten right now. Enjoy!

2 - You’re a bit frustrated or disappointed, but you’re easily distracted and cheered up with a little effort.

3 - Things are bothering you, but you’re coping. You might be overtired or hungry. The emotional equivalent of a headache.

MODERATE

4 - Today is a bad day (or a few bad days). You still have the skills to get through it, but be gentle with yourself. Use self-care strategies.

5 - Your mental health is starting to impact on your everyday life. Easy things are becoming difficult. You should talk to your doctor.

6 - You can’t do things the way you usually do them due to your mental health. Impulsive and compulsive thoughts may be hard to cope with.

SEVERE

7 - You’re avoiding things that make you more distressed, but that will make it worse. You should definitely seek help. This is serious.

8 - You can’t hide your struggles any more. You may have issues sleeping, eating, having fun, socialising, and work/study. Your mental health is affecting almost all parts of your life.

9 - You’re at a critical point. You aren’t functioning any more. You need urgent help. You may be a risk to yourself or others if left untreated.

10 - The worst mental and emotional distress possible. You can no longer care for yourself. You can’t imagine things getting any worse. Contact a crisis line immediately.

[kingspadedying]

These are so important! SO SO IMPORTANT SHARE THIS AND SAVE IT TO SHOW YOUR DOCTORS!

[agardenofideas]

@good-ho-mens please share this

[lokeanrampant]

These are important and super helpful. These are the best I have ever seen. They make SENSE.

[popokko-deactivated20210315]

*finishes a roll of wrapping paper* oh shit free weapon

[popokko-deactivated20210315]

*bonks myself in the head* *bonks myself in the head* *bonks myself in the head* *bonks myself in the head* *bonks myself in the head* *bo

[wizardposting666]

[choryllis]

My Professor: “The author used superfluous words here.  Don’t do that in your own essay.  Know your audience.  When was the last time you used the word, “pine”, as in to long for, in an everyday sentence?”

Me, a tumblr user:

[transgender-er]

Me, a queer:

[ojibwa]

the crushing guilt of being unproductive vs the exhaustion of being burned out. fight.

[quousque]

Plot twist: if you are tired and burned out, resting is literally the most productive thing you can do. You ain’t gonna get shit done when you’re burned out. If you do, it’ll take three times as long, take even more energy out of you, and will also suck because you were too tired to do it well. When you’re too tired to do the things you want/need to do, resting is the first step.

[manawhaat]

IF YOU ARE TIRED AND BURNED OUT, RESTING IS LITERALLY THE MOST PRODUCTIVE THING YOU CAN DO.

[moomoozuzu-deactivated20220918]

Ya'll be like "Shang was having a bi freak out, realizing he was into Ping". NO HE WASN'T. He already knew he was into men. His bisexual freak out was when he realized Ping was Mulan and hey maybe he's into girls too whatdoya know?

[moomoozuzu-deactivated20220918]

Legit you think a bi man who has always been in such a male-dominated space like the army hadn't already figured out that he liked men? Come oooonnnn... It's women he has rarely had contact with and has no idea how to talk to or flirt with (you fight good) I WILL DIE ON THIS HILL.

[moomoozuzu-deactivated20220918]

In "A Girl Worth Fighting For" Shang has zero lines I REST MY FUCKING CASE.

[gottalovecatss]

[moomoozuzu-deactivated20220918]

[taproot-bread]

[youhaveaguineapigwhere]

[unioncarbidesuperfan66]

heely doc martens

[queergraffiti]

“we’ll be ok”, above a trans symbol

found in my highschool bathroom

[beanixwright-deactivated2022030]

hot flaming take i’m abt to slap you with: it’s not acceptable to punish children for their grades, no matter the circumstances.

[beanixwright-deactivated2022030]

lost a follower for this one!

[transarsonist]

Any situation in which the grades are "bad enough to punish" is a situation in which your child is already struggling, and needs, more than anything, your support and affection.

If you punish them you will teach them nothing but how to loathe