We never got used to Egypt.

Click here before sending an ask 30s longtime BT Chabadnik and mother of 2

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

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We are STILL not under contract. It’s actually ridiculous.

Seller’s realtor keeps laying on the pressure to “just sign” despite our interests in certain things not yet being protected. It’s such transparent pressure tactics I’m kind of embarrassed for her.

The latest is that we should “just sign” despite [unresolved issue over which we would have zero leverage after signing the contract] because the seller is “getting frustrated by how long it’s taking” and it’s “separate from the contract”(??).

I mean. MAYBE he actually said that but if so it’s kinda a him problem.

The place has been on the market since December. To our knowledge there have been no other offers since we’ve been involved (and I’m sure the realtor would’ve tried to leverage that if there had been). The very first question I asked the realtor when we went to see it the first time was why it hadn’t sold yet. She said because the seller has been using it as an Airbnb so he had no motivation to settle for less than asking price because it was making him money in the meantime. She insisted over and over that he would not even entertain the very thought of any offer below asking price because his urgency to sell was so low.

So first of all that proved to be false because he eventually did cave and accept $10k below asking.

But anyway which is it? He has no urgency at all to sell, or he has enough urgency to be frustrated that it’s moving slower than expected? It can’t be both, lady. 🙄

Also, this is a situation where we requested a reasonable credit from the seller for [issue] (not even the full cost of addressing it). If he’d agreed to it, we would have signed the contract by now. He instead CHOSE to propose a time-consuming and complex alternative way to address [issue]. So I honestly don’t know that I even believe the seller has expressed frustration to the realtor, but if he did, again, that is truly a him problem. At any given moment he is free to go back to the seller credit option! If it’s worth the time savings to him to make a little less money on this transaction. And if not, he and realtor are gonna have to sit tight. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

If you had a friend that cancels plans that you set up but expects you to attend events that they planned, would you be offended?

It's been a while since I got an ask this style, so reminder that I don't respond to asks requesting me to weigh in on extremely vague interpersonal situations as if I were the person in the situation. This is not a good use of my time and this is not a good use of your time because no one can possibly give decent advice with this little context about the people and situations involved.

Also it seems like YOU are offended if you're sending this, so why does my hypothetical reaction matter? I'm not the one in the situation.

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I’m so achingly jealous of people who leave jobs under such positive circumstances that later on some other position opens up and they go back.

A position at a prior employer recently opened. I’d be great at it, and it would entail a mild raise. It’s more along the job function that I’d prefer to be doing than my current job is, and I have deep institutional knowledge already that would give me a big head start on the duties over someone else.

But. 🙃 I left because the big boss, who is still the big boss, decided that my position at the time wasn’t necessary - even after my direct boss spent literally like 4 hours trying to convince him otherwise. Lo and behold several years later my “unnecessary” position has been basically reinstated (not this one I’m talking about now, a more junior one).

So in another world this would be a super exciting unanticipated opportunity to go back to a place I once loved. But in this world there’s no way I am leaving my current job in the hopes that my worth will actually be recognized long term this time by that same man. And honestly that really just sucks.

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

A guy from India approached my husband in the hotel lobby to ask if he’s Jewish and then excitedly proclaimed that he’d never met a Jew before and proceeded to tell my husband some things about himself and ask absolutely nothing about my husband/Jews. Congrats on losing the Be Normal About Jews Challenge sir.

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

Take 2 of the day: Hispanic maintenance guy at our American hotel asks my husband on the way out of our room, apropos of nothing, if we’re from America.

We are in the neighborhood my husband grew up in, a dozen miles or so from the home his father grew up in. 😐

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Completing the trifecta of the trip: Asian flight attendant on our domestic US flight between my husband’s American hometown and our American place of residence asks my husband in a friendly tone, after taking his drink order, if we are traveling back to Israel

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

@anon I’m not really sure why you’re responding to my reply on another blog’s post with information the OP of that blog would want, not me, when the information isn’t sensitive. Go tell them there instead of making me the middle woman!

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

I was hangry when I wrote this so it came across sharper than I meant, but that said, this is the 2nd time very recently that someone has responded to a post on an ask blog that I don’t run by sending me an anon. I’m not your messenger for replying to other people’s posts without using your own name.

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

@anon I’m not really sure why you’re responding to my reply on another blog’s post with information the OP of that blog would want, not me, when the information isn’t sensitive. Go tell them there instead of making me the middle woman!

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

Begging all people who host for sleeping on Shabbos to have a clock in the guest room 😩

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

6yo: “I want [4yo] to be next to me.”

4yo: “Why? Hashem is holding your hand, you just don’t feel Him. Hashem is always holding your hand. Hashem holds onto everybody’s hand.”

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

A guy from India approached my husband in the hotel lobby to ask if he’s Jewish and then excitedly proclaimed that he’d never met a Jew before and proceeded to tell my husband some things about himself and ask absolutely nothing about my husband/Jews. Congrats on losing the Be Normal About Jews Challenge sir.

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

Take 2 of the day: Hispanic maintenance guy at our American hotel asks my husband on the way out of our room, apropos of nothing, if we’re from America.

We are in the neighborhood my husband grew up in, a dozen miles or so from the home his father grew up in. 😐

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

A guy from India approached my husband in the hotel lobby to ask if he’s Jewish and then excitedly proclaimed that he’d never met a Jew before and proceeded to tell my husband some things about himself and ask absolutely nothing about my husband/Jews. Congrats on losing the Be Normal About Jews Challenge sir.

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[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

“If you haven’t gotten around to buying your high holiday tickets go do that now” on the 1st day of Elul is actually hilarious, not because it’s not a reasonable thing to say for people who attend shuls that do things on NORMAL TIMELINES, but because our shul has not even sent out the link to the able to do that and probably won’t do so for at least a couple more weeks. Because why would people do things ahead of time.

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

My MIL has been complaining to my husband about which airport I booked our flight to visit them to come into. Because it's the one that's further from them.

What I need you to understand is that my in-laws live so close to equidistant from 2 airports that the specific traffic conditions of any given moment can change which one is the longer drive away. 😐

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

she might have a health related issue that affects her cognitive thinking.

Any given person might but I know too many people like this for it to be all of them.

And it still gives me secondhand stress regardless of the reason behind it.

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I am so secondhand stressed by people who don’t read things and are just. Going through life not knowing what’s going on! Like the mother in 6yo’s class who is constantly asking questions about the school calendar even though not only was it sent to her by the school in 2 different places, but also I sent it to the class chat and pinned it to the top. She didn’t know until just now that tomorrow is the last day of camp. How are you planning your life like this!!! Getting the pre-school-year email with the calendar and the supply list and all the other info is the best feeling. I read it immediately and put all the things in my work calendar and it makes me feel so settled and prepared. How do you live like that!!!! Just having no idea what’s going on all the time and not even having the wherewithal to find information yourself without relying on someone else to dig it up for you!!!

[wenevergotusedtoegypt]

4yo’s school sent a welcome booklet that was clearly made with AI. It’s apparent that a real photo of the classroom was fed into said AI in the process. In the background there is a set of what SHOULD be portraits of the Chabad rebbeim hanging on the wall. But the AI apparently thought about what would be hanging on a preschool classroom wall and came to the conclusion that it would be children. So the portraits are, in the end, pictures of children in the style of specific familiar rebbe portraits 😐

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