Not long ago somebody asked me my opinion on casual sex and I said that some ppl arenāt built for it on an emotional level but do it anyway and feel used.
Iād like to add that casual sex is just plain dangerous for women. Morally, who cares? Iām not into purity, saving yourself for marriage, or any of that. I firmly believe people should have sex when they feel like having sex in a consensual situation.
However, I would feel like Iām doing a disservice to any young women considering casual sex if I didnāt say that shit is potentially dangerous.
Out of all the men in the world, a lot of them are manipulators if not actual rapists. You have the violent rapists who are the minority but then you have the ones who will coyly try to make you wasted to lower your defenses, you have the ones where you consent to one thing and they take your defenseless during the act to force you into something you did not sign up for. Whether that is removing a condom, letting another man or men into the room, doing a sex act youāre not comfortable with, recording it and later disseminating it. This stuff is sooooo common!
And Iām not even gonna get into the ones who will say what you want to hear to get you to have sex. And then rescind it immediately afterwards.
Casual sex is physically and it is emotionally dangerous for women. Period. Any woman who has lived on a college campus knows this either firsthand or thru the experiences of their friends.
You donāt know what kind of man youāre dealing with if you know little about him, if you havenāt spent time with him. Even if you feel you do know him, youāre still at risk because some men are great actors. But when you donāt know him you really have zero idea what youāre getting yourself into.
Am I saying donāt have casual sex? No. I am saying know the risks. Really understand the risks. Because it is a very dangerous world for women and sexual exploitation is as serious as it is common. Donāt think it wonāt happen to you.
