[ ALEXANDER ‘XANDER’ GRAHAM. 30. MALE. HE/HIM] is here! They’ve lived in Silver Lake for [ 3 YEARS ] and are originally from [ LONDON, ENGLAND ]. They are a [ CHEF ] and in their downtime love [ SWIMMING ] and [ DAY TRIPS WITH HIS DAUGHTERS ]. They look a lot like [ DANIEL SHARMAN ] and live [ ON REDCLIFF ST ].
Hi everyone! So this is my boy Alexander, goes by Xander most of the time if he can get away with it.
Xander is one of three kids born to Lucy and George Graham, Xander spending most of his life growing up in London. His mother was a retired heiress/socialite and his father came from old money. Xander was honestly never expected to amount to much beyond relying on family money and doing whatever career came easiest, but things didn’t exactly turn out that way.
He started cooking with their chef when he was small, the woman letting him add in spices and stir occasionally until when by the age of sixteen, he was doing half the cooking with her, testing new recipes and creations.
Decided to go to the Le Cordon Bleu, despite the begging of his parents for a less stressful, more menial career. Became a sous chef for a few years after finishing, working his way up and by 25, was working at using his trust fund to open his own restaurant with friends.
That was when he got some news. His mostly casual girlfriend of two years had called them off a few months back, until one night he got a call she was in the hospital and asking for him. She’d had a baby, their baby. And she couldn’t do it just yet, couldn’t be a mother. So she asked Xander to either sign over his parental rights or take her. In one of his best and most impulsive choices he has ever admitted to making, he took her. And Elara Jane Graham entered the picture at 6 pounds, 11 ounces of brown curls and blue eyes.
The next four years were a cacophony of learning to raise a child while developing and opening his restaurant. Days filled with a baby strapped to his chest as they looked over menu concepts and tile samples, nights of a teething infant or restless toddler as they went on and on. His best friend moved in with him to help with Elara and keep him sane, and Xander had never been more thankful to the people he’d surrounded himself with.
Viridian had opened to success, and within a year his business partners were talking expansion, new locations and more more MORE. Los Angeles seemed the perfect spot, so he rented a house out in SIlverlake to start exploring local options and area and just...didn’t leave. Elara was all too happy to move to a place filled with sunshine and nearby beaches. It was when he was in Los Angeles that he got a call from his younger sister, and he was on a red eye to Paris within the hour.
Women had a habit of handing him babies, it seemed. His sister had hidden her pregnancy from not only him but their parents while away for a few years in France, too ashamed to admit to them all they’d been right about the awful man she’d been seeing. But she had her whole life ahead of her, and was willing to be the cool aunt if it meant she wasn’t the mother. In her words he’d already done it once, what was a second time? And so within a span of twenty four hours, he became a father once again, signing the papers to adopt Juliette Graham as his own.
That was a little over a year ago, and while he still spends certain days in phone meetings and location scouting for the extension location, he’s taken a step back of sorts.
Being a dad of two is very different from a dad of one, so he’s taken the time to adjust their little family and devote a lot more time and energy into being there for the girls. Six months ago while deciding none of the processed baby food in the shops were anything Juliette would actually eat, he stumbled into making his own baby food blends and when they were a hit among his few mommy friends, began to sell them each week at the local farmers market at their suggestion. It’s become a thing, a steady flow of side income and enough to keep him pleasantly busy.
So here he is, single dad two two girls, Elara now six and Juliette now one. In a (slow) process of opening a new location and making baby food by night. But he’s grown to love his life here, doesn’t quite miss London and it’s constant pace just yet.
WANTED CONNECTIONS:
General: Friends!
Fellow parents to commiserate with!
Casual hookups
drinking buddies
swimming partner ( does laps every tue & thur the man loves a schedule)
Anything and everything please throw it all at him!
Specifics: (eventual requested connections?)
BEST FRIEND: he/she moved in with him back in London when Elara was just an infant, and he’d never been more thankful. They’re family to him, and he’d do anything for them.
SIBLINGS: He has one younger brother and one younger sister, the sister being the birth mother to juliette and who he adopted her from.
EX GIRLFRIEND: Elara’s mother, the two were casual for a few years before she gave him Elara, haven’t spoken much since.