Do you know what I really hate?
When people criticise your hobbies while they are not any better!
Today I showed a friend of mine my Newt Scamander POP figure and my father said
: Why would anybody be stupid enough to buy this expensive shit? You couldn't even recycle it!
Uhm, excuse me? Maybe because that merch wasn't made to be thrown away? Maybe because I like to collect merch as a hobby? (I have like 15 figures from one piece, one from Vista which would usually costs more than twice compared to the other ones)
Maybe because I like to surround myself with the things I adore and appreciate?
It is true, merch can be expensive, sadly there are many people like him that don't really understand it. Don't get me wrong, my parents tolerate it because I am using my own money and not spending like two millions on it every year.
The fact why this makes me really angry is that exactly that sentence came from the man who has like 500 not cheap tools in his garage! I mean it, inside there it's worse than freacking Narnia! There is even a spare table hanging down from the ceiling...
Most of them are there doubled or even more and these don't see daylight for years already...
The merch I own is cleaned when needed, always organized and is not bothering anyone because it is laying around the house or even blocking the way like his stuff. Still, nearly everyday I hear sentences like that, especially from him. It's okay that he can't understand why I am collecting manga, merch figures, wands from Harry Potter and Fantastic beasts just like I can't understand his way with his tools.
But I am not throwing my opinion at his head every time I have the opportunity!
Some people collect books, games, photos, merch, tools, clothing, shoes or tickets from past shows like the cinema or theatre (my sis is doing that)
Some have expensive hobbys like riding or go on vacation nearly every year. And that is okay! Why? Because it is their fucking business!!
Even if you can't understand someone's desire for a certain hobby, please don't throw in your opinion over and over. I understood you the first time when you told me that, so why are you repeating yourself over and over? These words are like an arrow that was shoot directly through a very important part of someone else, people can suffer really much because of it. It was their desire for something they really loved and cherished, how would you react, if someone did the same to you? Giving up your hobby because someone else didn't like it? Because there was a disagrement with someone you maybe didn't even know?
I did not
Once he even told me that I should find other hobbys so I could find more friends
I was SO hurt, because these words came out of the mouth from a person I love and respect. But that was the moment I decided to give zero fucks and went to the next merch store
I enjoy the merch in my room because they are a constant reminder that once I got in contact with the movies or books they belong to, I found a new part of myself!
Harry Potter? I want to be a witch! I didn't know I would enjoy these kind of storys!
Fantastic beasts? Give me that case! In my dreams I will be a magizoologist!
One Piece? Pirates that are beating government assholes? Sign me in!
Akatzuki no Yona or Sailor Moon? When they can be strong, so why not me as well? You can always outgrow your past self!
Everytime someone said this cruel thing to me, it felt like someone is spitting on the important things these storys and people taught me.
When someone is doing this to you, don't listen, just like they often do. There is ALWAYS going to be someone like that! Don't change for someone else, because they think you or your hobbys are different or strange.
Show them how strange and different you can be because you are giving zero fucks for their opinion! When this is called strange, then I am!!!
But be careful, the strange ones shouldn't be messed with, because we are the most creative ones :)
Phew...I really needed to let that out...