[youarenotalone101]

my experience with rose

i feel like it's finally my turn to say something. i've kept this to myself for so long but seeing people still love rose, and now that she's finally gone i can't stay quiet anymore.

i was 15. the whole time i was so confused. she would constantly talk sexual with me, telling me about her fantasies and making comments i didn't even understand yet. she asked me to call with her, and on those calls she'd always bring up sexual stuff. i didn't know what to say. i just remember feeling weird, uncomfortable like i had to just sit there and go along with it even though i didn't want to.

eventually i blocked her. she blocked me back, and then i deactivated. since then tumblr hasn't felt safe for me. every time i see her name or people saying how much they love her it brings all of it back.

i think this is the last time i'll ever be on here. i don't even know why i'm writing this except that i just want to finally be heard. i've carried this for so long in silence and maybe it doesn't even matter anymore but it matters to me.

the worst part is i barely have any screenshots because i deactivated my account back then. that makes me scared no one will believe me. it scares me that most of this only exists in my memory and maybe only i will ever know what truly happened.

sometimes i feel like maybe i'm being dramatic. like maybe i overreacted or made it bigger than it was. but then i remember how sick it made me feel, how confused i was how i didn't even know what to say when she would start talking sexual with me. i was 15. that shoulve been enough for her to know it was wrong

i don't know. maybe i'll regret posting this maybe people won't believe me, but at least i finally said it out loud.

please i beg, interact with this any way i really want to feel heard it feels like im being dramatic but then I remember how much it still bothers me.

tags for awareness@cvnntagious @darksturnz @y3sterdaysproblem @passionfruitchris @nickssidewitch @humpster35

[cvnntagious]

Not in any way victim shaming but I’m not the only person to have this perspective. I understand that Rose talking inappropriately to someone underage was wrong. I’ll be the first to admit she was fucking disgusting. But why are these literal CHILDREN interacting with an ADULTS blog who’s entire writing list is 18+? With all due respect. When I was that age, the very last thing on my mind was ‘oh! I know what I’m going to do! Go and follow this tumblr that only posts things I’m uncomfortable with!’ Make it make sense🤦🏽‍♀️

Surely if you weren’t comfortable with sexual language, you wouldn’t be perpetually interacting with someone who uploads sexual stories and content and actively following and commenting on their posts?

If you’re going to act grown, people are gonna assume you’re grown!

With all due respect, not one person on this app forced you to follow or interact with Rose. You made that choice all on your own!

You (and any other child who has no business reading fucking written PORN stories written by legal adults) need to remove yourselves from blogs that offer adult content.

Go play with a fucking doll or something

this is such an ignorant and completely wrong point of view, so if others you know also have it, please tell them exactly what i’m about to say: to say you’re not victim blaming then immediately start blaming the victim is very odd to me. regardless of the minor choosing to interact with rose, she is the one who needs to make and respect boundaries. it’s up to her to find out the people she’s talking to’s age, and decide whether she wants to continue talking to them or not based on that, as well as how she wants to interact with them — the problem is that rose knew that was a minor, and still continued to talk sexually. there’s no way to control the media people consume, but you can control the things you expose them to in private.

at the end of the day, no matter what, minors are going to read, watch, and sometimes even engage in sexual things. there’s no way to stop that, and it’s actually completely normal to explore your sexuality through media as a teenager. whether a minor choses to read, like, reply, reblog, smut / other pornographic media or not, no eighteen plus blog should be asking a child about their sex life in any way. in no way is it up to the minor to steer clear of said adult. while i agree adults and minor friendships on here are very strange and complicated considering many adults running these blogs to write / talk about sexual things, it is still up to the adults to choose who they interact with and how. i simply cannot stress this enough.

there’s also a huge difference between reading smut and an adult talking about your vagina with you. any minor is going to be uncomfortable with an adult talking to them like that, whether they read, or even write smut, or not. and when said minor tells an adult they they are, in fact, a minor (assuming it slipped the adult’s mind to ask before making that comment), it’s now the the adults job to stop that conversation immediately, with an apology, and either never talk to the minor again, or set boundaries right then and there. rose making an excuse, then proceeding to pressure the minor into writing smut not long after, is more than inappropriate. having assumed a blog’s age is not an excuse, nor justification.

[youarenotalone101]

i’m really trying not to talk about this and just move on but i need to get this off my chest. rose dmed me and manipulated me in ways that were really inappropriate and made me feel trapped. the only exposure i had to inappropriate content was through her dms i never sought it out myself or did anything on my own. it wasn’t me choosing to see anything sexual it was her crossing boundaries and pressuring me.

we were already mutuals and had talked for a while, so it felt impossible to just cut her off. i knew she’d blame me, saying things like “why did you keep texting me?” or “i’m bad at social cues.” like no that’s manipulation not an excuse. i felt trapped unsure if setting boundaries would make her lash out or twist it on me.

what makes it worse is that she had so many followers and always posted about how “everyone is welcome” and how her blog was a safe space. she seemed like someone you could trust. in reality privately she was the complete opposite. she pressured me to talk about things i wasn’t comfortable with made me go on Instagram calls, and created situations where i felt like i had no way out.

this isn’t about minors “choosing” to see sexual content. this is about an adult abusing the trust of someone younger amd creating unsafe situations. it’s her responsibility to respect boundaries recognize age differences, and stop when someone expresses discomfort. none of that happened.

i’m trying to move past it but i also want to make it clear: i didn’t do anything wrong. i didn’t seek out sexual content i didn’t encourage it and i was vulnerable in trusting someone who publicly seemed safe. what happened was inappropriate manipulative, and unacceptable. the responsibility is entirely hers.

[youarenotalone101]

hey, how are you holding up?

impending doom is consuming me right now but ive been productive lately so it cancels out! thank you so much for checking in :) how are you?

[youarenotalone101]

lying about this is so fucked up. genuinely seek help. if you were truly hurt and concerned you would also go to the authorities.

on behalf of victims too scared to speak up because of people like you, seek fucking help and go to therapy.

this message is really upsetting because i’ve only ever spoken my truth. lying about something this serious would NEVER even cross my mjnd. so for yiu to say that to me feels really unfair. i did tell my older sister what happened but i’m scared to tell my guardians because this is such an uncomfortable and heaviy situation for me to bring up at home. me posting wasn’t for attention or to hurt anyone it was to help others who may have also been scared to speak up about rose

telling me to “go to the authorities” ignores how difficult it is for a lot of victims to do that esp when theyre young and still trying to process what happened to them. it’s not that easy. sometimes speaking online feels like the only way to start healing and to warn others and that should be respected

you don’t get to decide what did or didn’t happen to me. i understand ppl have different opinions but spreading ANONYMOUS hate toward someone who is already hurting doesn’t make things better for real victims it just silences them even more. i hope instead of tearing others down you can try to understand why i spoke up in the first place.

[youarenotalone101]

https://www.tumblr.com/youarenotalone101/792789361010802688/thank-you-so-much-for-taking-the-time-to-explain

I can confirm to you that this is false. Someone else is messing with you. Which is really unsafe knowing that this person who’s doing that have ur email.

thank you I will keep this in mind!!!

[youarenotalone101]

so today I literally got this email saying that rose is trying to take legal action against me?? what??? I’m actually shaking rn. I didn’t even do anything wrong, I was just standing up for myself after what she did to me. now I’m sitting here freaking out thinking I’m gonna get sued or something 😭😭

I don’t even know how this works, I’m only 15. like can she actually do that?? it feels so unfair bc I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone, I was just trying to tell the truth. idk what to do, I just feel so scared and stressed out.

[cvnntagious]

first of all, this is a disgusting way for her to handle things, and it’s likely a tactic to scare any other victims out of saying anything as well. that said, you have nothing to worry about !! you did nothing illegal by sharing your story. she’s only putting herself at risk of legal consequences by taking this to the authorities knowing she spoke that way to you.

my assumption is that she’d try to sue for defamation, which means nothing because everything you’ve said about her is true. and even on the off chance that (not saying you’re lying whatsoever, but just to consider all possibilities) the screenshots aren’t real, more often than not defamation cases only go through the courts in cases of businesses or public figures — to sue someone for defamation you need real data to fight with. you can’t sue simply because someone made stuff up about you, said lie would have had to visibly (meaning could be seen statistically) decreased your net worth in one way or another; for businesses that could mean people are no longer buying from you. for influencers that could mean you’re getting less views / interactions, therefore lessening the amount of money you make from those views, and / or it causes you to lose brand deals. for celebrities it could mean things like losing acting jobs, being shooed off by your label, etc. and / or losing brand deals … so on and so forth. the only way defamation cases are approved for normal people is if the lie takes you out of a job, or hinders you from getting one later on. once again, the main factor is income. now this isn’t to say there hasn’t been other reasons for a judge to take on a defamation case, but it’s highly unlikely, and none of said reasons are simply because someone lied on the internet about a practically anonymous blog.

[youarenotalone101]

thank you so much for taking the time to explain all of that, it really helps me feel a bit calmer. i’m just so overwhelmed because it’s hard to tell what’s real and what’s meant to scare me if she’s just trying to intimidate me it honestly makes me want to stay and keep sharing my story. but if it’s actually true and i should delete the posts then that’s really scary to even think about. i’m still trying to work up the courage to figure out what to do next and i think the safest thing is to show the form to someone anyone who can confirm whether it’s real or not before i make any decisions:( your support really means a lot to me thank you for being so kind and helping me think through this!!!!!

if anyone has the ability to tell if this form is legit or not please let me know <\3

[youarenotalone101]

heyy hope you are doing okay after what happened and you should be proud of yourself for telling your story! It's is absolutely disgusting what rose said to you and I hope this never happens again to you or anyone else as you didn't deserve that.

I am sososo proud of you for telling your story and helping raise awareness for things like this and I'm sure other people are too!!

You should never doubt yourself for reaching out because it was the right thing to do.

And even if rose wants to get the authorities involved she's gonna be the one in trouble not you! You didn't nothing wrong and never forget that

I'll always be hear to listen if you need to talk about anything!

thank you so much that really means a lot. i was honestly so scared to say anything but hearing this makes me feel a little less alone. i keep doubting myself and wondering if i did the right thing so your words honestly help more than you know. you’re right i didn’t deserve it, and it feels good to finally hear someone else say that. thank you for being so supportiv it actually makes me feel a little lighter <3

[youarenotalone101]

Just saying that if legal action was being taken against you, you wouldn’t be able to talk about it bcs it’s literally against the law. Maybe it doesn’t work like that everywhere but you would receive something in the mail, not an email. There’s no way people know what ur email is when it’s literally private and not posted on ur account…

honestly, i don’t know. it could just be rose trying to scare me. the only explanation i can think of is that my facebook marketplace is tied to my email, and since i used marketplace before, and spoke about it with rose because I was trying to buy sony angels. maybe that’s how she found it. i know at one point i might’ve implied i could be over 18 because of marketplace, but the truth is i told her multiple times i was 15. she knew my real age, and that should’ve been enough.

[youarenotalone101]

so today I literally got this email saying that rose is trying to take legal action against me?? what??? I’m actually shaking rn. I didn’t even do anything wrong, I was just standing up for myself after what she did to me. now I’m sitting here freaking out thinking I’m gonna get sued or something 😭😭

I don’t even know how this works, I’m only 15. like can she actually do that?? it feels so unfair bc I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone, I was just trying to tell the truth. idk what to do, I just feel so scared and stressed out.

[youarenotalone101]

i hope your post was nothing but the truth, rose said she’s taking this to authorities and you will get contacted for a statement :(

she can take this to authorities. I did nothing wrong😭 she is trying to scare me off this platform. please can you dm me where you got the info that rose is saying she’ll do this?? have a great day!

[youarenotalone101]

You're gonna be okay, i promise. I was in a similar situation as you, its a really hard thing to overcome but one day i promise you YOU WILL. Youre strong and i believe in u

thank you so much i appreciate you more than ever🩷🩷🩷

[youarenotalone101]

Doxxing is illegal. If parties directly affected by roses actions aren’t willing to go to court, the doxxing will sweep this entire situation under the rug. Also, any sort of doxxing will contradict wrong doings in general. Any account can be traced back to the owner. Please be careful.

doxxing isn’t illegal where i’m at. i would never doxx someone like rose did. i would just want her school contacted or anyone who has power in her real life to ensure no one goes through the same trauma i endured

[ariestrxsh]

Petition to contact roses school about her behaviour

I'm torn on this one. Like, I understand where you're coming from. I just don't know at what point we're going too hard. I don't condone anything she did, and I do want the behavior to stop, but my goal is to keep minors safe and for Rose to understand where she needs to do better, not ruin all and any future prospects she may have if that makes sense. I think it's really up to what the victims want to do.

[youarenotalone101]

i get what you’re saying but rose already knows the difference between right and wrong she’s proven that by exposing other people for doing the same kind of inappropriate things she’s now doing herself. she’s talked inappropriately with minors, including me. if it were someone else, rose would be the first one to call cps, the police, or blast them online. so why should it be different when it comes to her? tbh i would feel very validated if her school was contacted, because it would show that what she did is being taken seriously. but regardless i have no power over that <\3

[youarenotalone101]

did rose delete her acc?

no she just changed her name and deleted her posts

[youarenotalone101]

bro those screenshots made me so uncomfortable 🫠🫠 i am so sorry you had to deal with that love because wtfff

its alright! i just want her to be held accountable ☹️ bless your heart!

[youarenotalone101]

Hi, I am so sorry about what Rose put you through. She's disgusting for that! I especially hated the way in the messages that after you told her that you were a virgin and a minor, she was like, "You should've told me that sooner." Like no!!! It's crazy that she didn't ask before sending that! None of that was your fault, and it was 100% on her to ask your age before saying something so out of pocket and inappropriate!

thank you so much for saying that it really means a lot. I’ve been going back and forth in my head about whether I somehow should’ve done something differently so hearing you say that helps.I’m glad you see how wrong it was, because it makes me feel a little less alone in it

[chrisstvrns]

hii I’m really sorry to bother you I just wanted to reach out because I recently shared my story about how Rose groomed me. I’m sending this to people because I genuinely don’t want her to hurt anyone else, and I believe it’s important she’s held accountable and removed from this app for good. Thank you for taking the time to read this. 🤍

i just read your post and i am in utter disgust. i am so sorry this happened to you, that is beyond inappropriate and disgusting. i will reblog your post to spread awareness. i hope you're okay, you truly did not deserve that. 🤍

[youarenotalone101]

you don’t owe me anything so it means the world you took the time to read my post and respond! bless your heart!🩷