How the fuck does tumblr include polysexual (An orientation more made up and stupid than pan) but not a lesbian flag? That’s so fucking stupid. Don’t even get me started on the fact that ace is there :/
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How the fuck does tumblr include polysexual (An orientation more made up and stupid than pan) but not a lesbian flag? That’s so fucking stupid. Don’t even get me started on the fact that ace is there :/
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Lesbians choosing not to use the most common and recognizable lesbian flag in their pride posts: valid!
Non-lesbians making that decision FOR us in their pride posts: Not Valid!
Don’t get me wrong; it’s perfectly fine to critique and educate others on the problematic origins of the lesbian flag, no matter who you are, as nothing is immune to criticism, but it should also be noted that the original flag has since been changed, modified, and distanced from its original creator, in regards to both meaning and physical design. For many lesbians, it is a very important symbol. It is also the most recognized and well known one. It is not up to non-lesbians to choose whether or not we get to identify with it.
When a lesbian chooses to not use the most well-known lesbian flag, it is our own, personal choice, as choosing which flag to identify with is a very personal thing.
When a non-lesbian chooses to not use the most well-known lesbian flag, it is them making that decision FOR us, speaking OVER us, and it is contributing to lesbian erasure.
~*The modern usage, meaning, and design of the lesbian flag, are all intracomminity issues*~
The lesbian flag is important to many lesbians, and it is a symbol that only lesbians can choose whether or not to identify with.
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lol WHY ARE SOME PANSEXUALS LIKE THIS. I’m sorry but bisexuals had used the word bisexual to refer to attraction beyond the gender binary for decades before you were born. Learn your history fer cryin oot lood!
I’m not gonna go into how this is also offensive to nonbinary people like myself, but y’all are free to peruse my blog for that.
telling bisexuals we’re “actually gay” is biphobic
telling bisexuals we’re “actually straight” is biphobic
telling bisexuals we’re “actually pan” is biphobic and i am increasingly convinced that pansexuality is just the newest strategy of trying to erase bisexuality out of existance by rebranding it as “more woke” pansexuality
Everyone and their mom gave their opinions on why we should change the lesbian flags whether they themselves were lesbians or not and no one batted an eye, but then when people started to point out that the ace flag has a problematic history and should maybe be changed suddenly there was outrage and it was "the evil exclus destroying the ace community" shit again and I'm not saying it's because inclus are lesbophobic but it's because inclus are extremely lesbophobic.
The whole "does amatanormativity exist" debate is so FUCKING stupid because the answer is simple. Does society as a whole expect people to engage in romantic relationships? Yes, but only cishet romantic relationships. Does society as a whole expect people to engage in sexual relationships? While this one is more affected by factors such as gender, religion, etc, the answer is yes, but only cishet sex.
Homophobic society does not want gay people participating in gay sex and romance. A bigot is not going to go, "well if you're not gonna have STRAIGHT sex, at LEAST have GAY sex!" because that's not how things work at all. Homophobes and transphobes would rather LGBT people be ace than to have LGBT relationships.
"Amatanormativity" is inseparable from (cis)heteronormativity because homophobic and transphobic society does not want LGBT people to date, have sex, get married, or start families. LGB people and straight trans people celebrating romance and sex in their own community (which they historically have been/currently are oppressed for engaging in) is not amatanormatity.
I'm sick of people trying to push this narrative that "allo" LGBT people have privilege over ace/aro people. "Allosexual privilege" does not exist. Get the fuck over it.
“why are lesbians against the word queer but not dyke???” probably bc straight ppl haven’t decided to make it a politically correct term for lesbian yet lol
like the day straight people start calling us all dykes instead of lesbians like how they say queer instead of lgbt is the day i swear off using dyke forever. n buzzfeed will let us know when that day comes
If you’re not a guy you can’t be gay for men
Aros who date are still valid aros
Aros who are in relationships are still valid aros
Aros who are married are still valid aros
Aros who experience other kinds of attraction are valid aros
If you’re a person on this list then I want you to know you’re a valid, wonderful, important part of this community and nothing anyone says can change that.
And if you disagree? Then tbh just get out. You’re not welcome on my blog or anywhere near this post.
good post, just one thing:
‘aros who still date and are in relationships’
please dont date people if you have no romantic attraction to them. that will genuinely hurt the other person and you are leading them on. if your partner knows you’re aro and is okay with it, proceed.
one thing i feel a lot of people dont understand is that the function of an identity is to show how you are different from others - and thus every single id has implications for other people
for example, demi is defined as 'no sexual attraction until there is an emotional bond', and the reciprocal is 'sexual attraction without a bond' - the reason demi is a shit identity is bc it makes this huge assumption that everyone else wants to fuck on sight, essentially
this also applies to bs like 'aces can have sex without being sexually attracted to someone' bc it implies that everyone can have sex without sexual attraction (ie, gay men with women or lesbians with men) which is both incorrect and frankly borderline shit conversion therapy people would say
identity does not exist in a vacuum it exists in the context of our society and if ur id makes shit fucked for everyone else than the onus is on you to Not Do That rather than on everyone else to be silent and let you be a piece of shit
A few years later:
The Tumblr Model never disappoints.
What is LGBT:
Lesbian people ✅
Gay people ✅
Bisexual people ✅
Transgender and non-binary people ✅
What is not LGBT:
Otherkin ❌
Furries ❌
Asexual/aromantic people ❌
MOGAI ❌
Pedophiles ❌
Zoophiles ❌
Crossdressers/drag queens ❌
Intersex people ❌
Cishet allies ❌
C’mon guys, I shouldn’t have to say this. It’s common sense.
this is why there will never be fucking “”solidarity”” between bisexuals and pansexuals, y’all are straight up fucking biphobes and you know it. BISEXUALITY ALWAYS MEANT ALL.
The (new) pansexuality is literally built on putting down bisexuals, spreading misinformation, and general misunderstanding. So no, we can’t have “bi/pan solidarity”, current pansexuality itself was made as/is a way to avoid us, fetishize trans people, and diminish us.
Bi has never been a limited orientation. Bisexuals are lovely <3
literally how hard would it have been for jkr to say something like “listen I was writing it in the 90s, I was inexperienced, I was writing from my own point of view, I didn’t realise how underrepresented a lot of people are, I wasn’t thinking about anything other than the plot, I accept that it’s a little sparse on the diversity front, I can try to be more self aware with my future works” etc etc instead of.. this nonsense
Examples:
(https://twitter.com/kaaauthor/status/946567604935606272)
(https://twitter.com/camphalfblood/status/1072912158441259008)
I get so tired every time I see an asexual education piece that insinuates everyone who’s not ace is a-ok with, and totally not confused and alienated by, the depiction of sex, romance and sexuality in popular media, including pornography, and also never questions if said media depictions are distorted by patriarchy, capitalism, homophobia, racism, etc.
given how many cishet people have expressed their confusion and alienation to me, it might be beneficial to ask whether anyone actually relates to depictions of sexuality and romance in popular media
lol WHY ARE SOME PANSEXUALS LIKE THIS. I’m sorry but bisexuals had used the word bisexual to refer to attraction beyond the gender binary for decades before you were born. Learn your history fer cryin oot lood!
I’m not gonna go into how this is also offensive to nonbinary people like myself, but y’all are free to peruse my blog for that.
telling bisexuals we’re “actually gay” is biphobic
telling bisexuals we’re “actually straight” is biphobic
telling bisexuals we’re “actually pan” is biphobic and i am increasingly convinced that pansexuality is just the newest strategy of trying to erase bisexuality out of existance by rebranding it as “more woke” pansexuality
this is original rainbow pride flag. as in the original-original, made in 1978 by gay artist Gilbert Baker. It had eight stripes, each symbolizing a quality that Baker attributed to the LGBT/gay experience. (in those times‘gay’ was far more of an umbrella term than it is today. ‘gay community’ could refer to gay men, lesbians, bi people, or trans people. q*eer identities were often less clearly defined and less separated from each other than they are now. lack of internet and lgbt-related literature and education also meant that many people simply did not know the “right” terms to describe themselves). An alternate version without the pink and purple, the one that most people know today, was created because pink and purple fabrics were expensive at the time. However today those colors are perfectly affordable, and in my opinion we should absolutely begin to bring back the original pink and purple stripes, out of respect to Gilbert Baker, who popularized an incredibly iconic lgbt symbol (the rainbow), and his eight color meanings: sex, life, healing, sunlight, nature, magic, and serenity.
this is the transgender pride flag. while technically transgender is included under the original rainbow flag (the rainbow flag is not the gay man flag. that is a misconception. it was created to be the LGBT community as a whole pride flag), some people wanted to create a smaller flag that specifically symbolized the T part of LGBT, to be used in more specifically trans-related situations. so in 1999, trans woman Monica Helms created this flag and it caught on quickly. the pink and blue symbolize a journey from female to male (and vice versa), and the white represents transitioning and also the people who fall in between the genders (nonbinary).
this is a goddamn atrocious disaster. aside from being a design nightmare (read: incredibly fucking ugly), it is very disrespectful to the creators of the two flags that have been cut up and butchered into whatever this is. the symbolism of Monica Helms’ iconic blue-pink-white-pink-blue pattern is totally lost when you chop it in half and awkwardly bend it over. the rainbow portion doesn’t even include the pink and purple colors.
the people trying to push this flag claim that they added the black and brown stripes “include” LGBT people of color, and added the trans flag to “include” trans people. I don’t deny they had good intentions. Inclusion is great. But why did they see poc and trans people as not already included in the LGBT communtiy? Are LGBT poc …not LGBT by themselves somehow? and they need a special mention to pull them back in? Should we have LGBTB: lesbian, gay, bi, trans, and black? Japaneseness or blackness or being of any other race does not disqualify you from being LGBT, nor is blackness/etc inherently LGBT in itself. Therefore it makes no sense to put it on a pride flag made for lgbt people.
In the same way, trans people are already included in the rainbow flag. Again, it was never the gay man flag. It is the LGBT community flag. The T is for transgender. It’s a massive butchery of both flags and their intended meanings.
Think about what those black and brown and trans-colored stripes add to Gilbert Baker’s symbolism. You have pink, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, purple… and also white, light pink, light blue, black, and brown? Your flag now symbolizes sex, life, healing, sunlight, nature, magic, serenity… and transgender and POC? I find this strange and very divisive. Are LGBT POC not as magical as LGBT white people, in and of themselves? Are trans people not as spirited or natural as cisgay/bi people? Why should there be a need to specify that they’re included, then? To say: “this flag is for magical, healed, natural, spirited, serene people… oh yeah, and also trans and PoC too.” It just heavily implies that you think they are not as good or as q*eer as cis white LGB people to me, whether you intended it that way or not.