hate that tumblr has turned identifying as a femme into an aesthetic more and more, that aesthetic being one of white thin cis pink obsessed coquette girlies (which there is nothing wrong with this aesthetic in general i enjoy various aspects of it, i mean look at my blog) but itās bad when people who donāt understand what being a femme is and is truly about and they start identifying as femme and think thatās all it is /an aesthetic/ and itās even worse when these lesbians correlate it to kink and sexualize butches without their consent and demand them to be doms/daddies etc. because if youāre doing that youāre not a femme, thereās no one way to be a femme and there is no dress code, but to be a femme you must love and respect butches and studs and not treat them like pieces of meat or sex toys for you to ogle and use and then throw away. itās gross. stop it.