I'm genderfluid and asexual amd my mom gives me so much shit for it. We were at Sonic yesterday and we had a male bellhop and after he leaves my mom said,"Hes a cutie Chey you need to get a cutie like that." and this knocks me down because i know she doesn't support me but i reply with,"I don't need a cutie i have myself." The genderfluid thing is a little difficult too because she tells me that i need to look more like a girl on the days i feel like a male. Its just really hard sometimes.
「 Mmm … I may not be the best person to give advice about gender, but I will do my best without stepping on any toes. 」
「 This does sound like a difficult thing to endure regularly. First and foremost, your gender identity and sexual orientation are valid and important, and nobody should convince you otherwise. They’re a part of who you are, and what makes you you. If their words do end up getting to you, it’s okay to ask for reassurance. You will always be valid. 」
「 Now, your self-assured response about your asexuality is spot-on, I like that a lot. It’s hard not to take peoples’ words to heart, especially when those words are coming from your family. You are marching to the beat of your own drum when you dress the way you’re feeling, and that drum beat makes you comfortable in your skin. Maybe try explaining it like that to your mother when she mentions looking more like a girl when you don’t feel like one. Or if she mentions you finding any other cutie other than yourself. 」