i'm leaving the radqueer community.
hey everyone. i won't be quirking for this so it's more accessible to screenreaders and because i consider this to be a serious discussion.
to make it plain and simple, i'm leaving the radqueer community. i've been here for what i approximate is one year or over, and there have been many fun memories. i met some wonderful people, such as bundee (who introduced me to the concept), gazleen (my loving partner), harley, tweekerz, and so on. it's with a heavy heart that im deciding to put this community past me and move on.
awhile back, i was involved in some drama that i regret deeply and am still learning and improving from. it's been several months since it took place, and it truly wasn't my intention to hurt anyone with my actions. i apologize. i haven't said it formally, but i will now that i have a blog to say it on.
since the drama took place, i've been banned from pretty much every radqueer server, blacklisted in public servers regarding my interests, harassed, and even threatened with doxxing. this community truly isn't a place where i feel safe anymore and it's causing me a lot of stress to be involved in it. i want to focus on my mental and physical health more and i believe this is becoming a distraction/active trigger.
i no longer feel safe in a space that, for awhile, i considered the only place that i would ever be accepted.
i don't believe that this community is what it used to be and that the radqueer label itself has lost its original definition. most people from the community claim to be anti-harassment, but i have witnessed several cases of harassment within this community, directed towards me and not. there was an exposé-esque document published about me where they managed to dig up my old abandoned tumblr accounts from years ago. this is a huge violation of my personal boundaries and makes me feel unsafe.
am i going to become an anti? no. but i don't wish to call myself radqueer anymore or be associated with it.
i'm going to archive all the terms i've coined, and you're still free to use them. i just ask that you stop looking for me, seeking me out, or trying to stalk my personal life. please.
thank you for the memories.