Okay. So I am really really over hearing about Miley Cyrus.
And more than that. I'm really over other peoples opinions of her. But since only 2 people even know my blog exists...I will vent my frustrations here and assume they won't bother anyone else who may feel the same way I do.
Why am I disappointed in the whole situation, you nobody may ask?
A) Yes she's a role model...blah blah blah....kids look up to her...blah blah blah..social responsibility...blah blah BLAH..
B) The whole response, especially from grown women (some with, some without children) is "OMG, I would never let my daughter turn out that way.".."Dear daughter, don't be a Miley."..."10 ways to make sure you're not raising a Miley Cyrus."
And my only response to those people can be: How about instead of drilling discontent at her actions into the heads of children...we fill them with a loving compassion that helps them reach out to the Mileys of their generation?
Instead of pointing out how wrong or inappropriate she was...why don't we teach our daughters to look at the acts of others (whether it be dancing on a VMA stage or the sound of a girl throwing up in a middle school bathroom stall) as an earnest desire for someone to reach out to them. For who they are. No matter how bright or dark their past has been.
Because let's just be honest. Anyone throwing around claims about their daughter is living in serious denial.
Mom, your daughter will faulter. She will sin. She will be shamed. She will be embarrassed of the choices that she made. Whether it be sexual or otherwise.
So who do you want to be there when you daughter needs love and guidance the most? A room full of girls who YOU taught to shun behaviors you've deemed inappropriate?
Or will you raise the daughter who walks over to her when the world has kicked her legs out from under her, wipe off the lies they've spit at her and will show her some compassion?
Because let's just be honest.
I've done my own VMA dance.
And so have you.
We don't need less Mileys. We need less daughters being taught that some actions warrant grace and other don't. Fewer daughter that believe that you abandon people when they do things you don't like. We need more daughters being taught to love unconditionally.
So one day, when Annabelle comes along, you can bet we'll teach her this:
The greatest of these is love.
And you do
all that you can
every day that you have
to honor that kind of love.
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