i have to do everything myself in this house

⚧ em. he/him. writer. transexxual. ☭ 🇵🇸

[catboybiologist]

After some years of HRT I've been left with this deep, low simmering rage. Because what do you mean it was always this easy to be happy

[catboybiologist]

I take a shot once a week, and even if that was too much, I could do it as pills, and so many of my problems just evaporated overnight.

And not one person thought to bring it up.

When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.

Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.

HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?

No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.

I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-

When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.

Anyways. Support trans kids always and forever.

[catboybiologist]

And if anyone comes swinging in here with "but Sierra you don't have to take HRT to be trans this is toxic" I'm going to fucking scream, because that is the status quo. "Just do this without doing this" has become a "give them an inch" refrain when making ourselves "acceptable" to the cis. Of COURSE you don't need to take HRT. I'm only reminded of it a dozen times a day.

[ahotknife]

— MOLLY BRODAK

[idiot-haul]

Why is it referred to as coming out of the closet? 

[idiot-haul]

It could be coming out of anything. What wasted potential.

[idiot-haul]

Coming out of my cage and I’ve been doing just guys

[femmeilya]

ilya on estrogen. you agree.

[making-friendos]

One must imagine Sisyphus happy

[wyzwolenie]

[nourishedbytime]

It’s insane how every headline is like ‘Cubas power grid collapses’ as if it’s something passively happening out of the blue. As if it isn’t the u.s. energy/oil blockade on Cuba causing this, as if it isn’t the u.s. cutting off Venezuela’s oil exports to Cuba, threatening others w punishment should they provide support to Cuba. But no the power grids just randomly collapsing no agent no nothing according to these headlines and articles. & perhaps they’ll make the very astute observation that it seems like the u.s. created the conditions for this to happen (who would’ve thought?) but only as an afterthought, sandwiched between two paragraphs about how disruptive and unfortunate and pitiful these blackouts are, with quotes cherry-picked to exploit the Cuban interviewees’ pain while maintaining the myth that this is all happening in a vacuum and there is somehow no rightful resistance against the empire

[marxismopportunism]

also the wording is inaccurate. you wouldn't normally use "collapse" to indicate a blackout. from what im hearing, there's been nationwide blackouts a couple times now and the power is brought back. the conditions are far from ideal but cannot help but think the wording is meant to signal that cuba itself is close to collapse when it has plans in motion to sustain core functions domestically with its own capacity as well as aid from allies.

[absenthiium]

my only certainty and consolation in this cold, cold world is that if my best friend and i were fictional characters people would be writing about us fucking nasty all over the internet all the time.

[megapope-deactivated20220531]

you sad little pervert

im happy big & sexually normal

[mapetitefeedeslilas]

[olliemnjones]

This Is some art I’ve made for Decomposer, a graphic novel written by Mason McDonald. The book is well on it’s way to being finished but we’ve set up a Kickstarter to help us complete it. I’d really appreciate if you’d have a look at the page and consider helping us out. Thanks!

DECOMPOSER: A Graphic Novel

A parasite that has taken over the mind and body of a realtor in southern Appalachia yearns for the impossible, to be human.





[gaylor-moon]

[grippy3000]

fun fact one of the world champions in pepper-eating contests is a trans woman and she actually faced significant backlash because people somehow thought she had a biological advantage. to eating spicy pepper

[grippy3000]

update bc i went back and checked: her name is brianna “the chilli queen” skinner and she set a record in 2017 by slamming back 23 carolina reapers consecutively. she only stopped when told to by the referees, and the next year she stepped down out of boredom. queen

[pettyartist]

Here's a picture of her, by the way

And her super supportive wife

[nentuaby]

The championship, it should be noted, is unisex. Apparently being a trans woman gives you an innate biological advantage over both cis men and cis women.

[vexwerewolf]

The innate biological advantage of being cool as fuck

[geryone]

Fifty Days at Iliam: The Fire that Consumes All before It, Cy Twombly (1978)

[montmorencyyy]

i physically cannot stop making these (round 1, 2)

[intersexelphie]

I want to boost everything this person has said and add on.

The reason I call myself a tomboy now, despite it being seen as a childish word and having had someone swear at me over it because ‘tHeRe’S nO suCh thInG as BoY thInGs anD giRL thIngS sHut uP’ is because I couldn’t call myself that or be like that when I was a kid. It was seen as a negative thing and I was already bullied enough. “Looking like a boy” was the worst thing that could happen to a girl.

And I’m not even 26 yet. We aren’t talking 30+ years ago, we are talking 2000s and even 2010s. It’s only since trans people have become more accepted in the past few years that gender nonconformity has too.

And the people who helped me accept my gender nonconformity more than anyone else? Were trans people. They taught me, “there’s nothing wrong with how you feel. You’re still a valid woman no matter what you wear, how you have your hair or what you’re into ❤️”

And don’t even get me started on how people treat gender nonconforming men. JK Rowling has a lot of nerve to be like “uwu boys can wear dresses and only us gendercrits accept that!” when she has, even in recent works, made femininity in men a negative trait, as well as making masculinity in women a negative trait also.

A lot of people still don’t accept gnc people even now. Just last year I had someone tell me they’d never let their daughter “dress like a boy”, and I’m always terrified to walk into a bathroom in case the next JK Rowling is in there, sees my gender expression and pepper sprays me or worse.

“There’s no such thing as boy things and girl things.” I don’t need to be told that and I’m sure 99% of trans people also don’t need to be told that. Tell that to the society that hates us both instead of actively encouraging that hate.

[androgynealienfemme]

Gonna point out the og tweet thread is now full of terfs saying that life was better for gay people in the fucking 80s, that it was super easy for them to be a tomboy in the 70s and 80s and therefore it must have been that way for everyone, and that it was totally acceptable to be a gnc gay person in the 80s! 🤪

They’re rewriting history as we speak to try to argue trans acceptance is making it harder to be gay and gnc for youth than it was to be gay in the 80s. This is a blatant lie.

[trans-mask-left]

The fucking 80s??? As in, “aids crisis” 80s?? As in, “the government actively avoided funding research to help gay people” 80s????

Man I knew terfism was brain rot but I didn’t think it was this bad.

[socialistexan]

Actually I'm not going to just keep this in the tags

[elodieunderglass]

To go back to the tomboy experience OP described, as that was most of my gender growing up, I think if you didn’t grow up as one, you probably didn’t notice the “time” element. There is a very precisely delineated window of time in which tomboys are allowed to exist, and there is no way to continue past it. “Tomboy” is a very small and very precise allowance of gender, tied to time, and everyone including the child knows that it starts after 6 and ends at 12, or the most obvious onset of puberty.

After that, Tomboys go extinct forever, and you only see them echoed in the “girl disguises herself as a boy for military reasons” thing. A strange folding of spacetime: the idea of the “phase.”

The idea of fluidity and phases is occasionally enforced by the majority in surprising ways - you’ll note that it never really works in a minority’s favour. The revisionism of the legitimacy of a “phase” is interesting in political ways I haven’t fully thought through yet.



[hometoursandotherstuff]

[bloodshotgun]

True Detective (2014) + Disco Elysium