If you're still facing failure, I have a simple solution. Forbid failure to exist in your life.
Failure only exists because you allow it to exist. It's very simple. Your brain doesn't differentiate between success and failure; it only shows you what you tell it and what your past experience was like.
You insist that your brain only shows you success. Even if you think things are bad, that's just your assessment, it's completely neutral, I swear. Insist. Persist.
In fact, it's really very simple. Failure is just something you assign a negative evaluation to, but for your brain, everything is neutral. Reexamine your opinions and views. You'll immediately see the changes.
Live like the protagonist who has all the boosts. You already have what you want, and failure doesn't exist.
I literally banned bad grades, and now I only get good ones, even if I do nothing.
Please forbid yourself from failure, forbid it as something so insignificant that it is not even worthy of being present in your life.
Only you on the pedestal, and then your desires, and especially your failures. Shine, girl!
- it is rumoured that human beings have an attention span shorter than a gold fish' . can you believe that such intelligent , amazing creatures as us can't even concentrate for more than 7 seconds ?
000 , just a short notice
- i apologise for taking so long to post ! life has been so busy and im sorry I left you guys ! also ty for 200 + followers ! i love you guys !
001 , don't have multiple tabs open
- stop having multiple tabs open ! this can cause frequent distractions and decreases your attention span !
002 , minimize multitasking
- just as previously stated , multitasking can help you lose focus on what you're trying to focus on !
003 , create no phone zones
- you don't need to take your phone everywhere with you ( at home ) , create no phone zones to reduce screen time and additionally regain more of an attention span ! no phone zones can be in your washrooms , kitchens & gardens , in those places you can focus on more important things other than your phone!
004 , say I'll do it after [x]
- if you had planned on doing something , do it. just because Jess or Ella asked you to call + play dress to impress + watch tik toks with them , doesn't mean you abandon your work. tell them you'll do it after [x] ( your work ) and just watch your attention span increase !
005 , automate school hours on school
- this chapter is just about using school for work and not for your phone !
006 , be okay with boredom and be curious
- if you're on a road trip or if you're waiting at a doctor's appointment , remember that your phone isn't your last resort ! for entertainment , try and look outside , imagine who has visited the area hundreds of years ago and how much it had changed or if you see any people , imagine their story ! be curious & imaginative !
007 , consume longer content
- watch long form videos til the end ; don't watch it on x2 speed ; don't read comments as you watch it ; don't skip past it ; watch it to its proper ending ! once you get used to focusing on long form content , your attention span will improve !
008 , consume to absorb , not skim
- when watching long - form content , don't skim past important details , watch it to absorb its content + not to get an uninformative gist !
- your mindset is one of the most powerful things in the world . how you depict the world , what you believe , can absolutely change it all . .
001 , respect yourself
- so most of you attend school , right ? whenever you talk to the teacher , you call them by their honorific titles or speak to them with respect . or if you meet a stranger , you greet them and ask how they are. now , forget about teachers or strangers , imagine you are greeting a member of the royal family , you curtsy or bow towards them with a great amount of respect. you are a member of the royal family. every single morning , look in the mirror and tell yourself you deserve a great amount of respect and you deserve the freaking world . don't expect anybody to love you if you don't even like yourself ! look at your room. is it messy ? if so , go clean it right now because having the place where you sleep , study and lounge be messy is extremely disrespectful to yourself. not having the respect or even a frick to clean after yourself is disrespectful to you and you might not even realise it. treat yourself like you're the most precious thing in the world because honey , you are .
002 , stop being lazy + pathetic
- you may be still searching on how to stop being lazy or how to get back up. do it. I don't care if you're tired because whose fault is that ? some people can not afford to be lazy. the financially struggling can not afford to be lazy. the single parents can not afford to be lazy. the workers can not afford to be lazy. you sit around on your butt all day watching tiktok or reading tumblr blogs or whatever to do absolutely nothing. God has given you the gift of life , out of billions , you were the one to be placed on this earth and you spend your life doing nothing ? don't say you're unlucky or your life is terrible. that's absolutely pathetic. let that be your motivation. it's okay to take breaks or rest but please get back on track. only the privileged can afford to be lazy.
003 , don't follow people around - you're not a dog
- have you watched ' mean girls ' ? had you seen gretchen and karen ? did you notice how they follow regina ? don't be like them , don't waste your time , your life on following someone like they own you. don't seek someone's attention like you live off of it ; you don't ! it's also disrespectful to yourself because you're lowering yourself to the position of a dog or any other pet , following it's master to the end of their time. life is only once. use your time on something more important.
004 , idgaf
- please don't care if somebody hates or dislikes you. they are just jealous. no seriously , they spend most of their time obsessing over you and your life just to " hate on it " , they're jealous , hun. also face it , we are all going to die , life is too short to care about it , you are way more important to just worry your pretty little head on some obsessive parasite !
" so and so said this about you - " okay.
" they said this - " okay.
okay. idgaf.
005 , life is survival of the fittest
- your future matters. your teen years go way too fast and before you know it , you're already grown up. get a decent education. get to the top.
my mother always tells me I am pretty , I am smart , I have potential and I actually do. at the age of 10 she would already know what private university she would attend and she would have that as her number one goal. 5 years later , she travelled away from all of her family , her friends , her home to reach her dream ( the uni ) and she did. she knows others who have done the exact same as her who are billionaires and others who haven't who are financially struggling. throughout her parenting ( the first couple years were an extremely tough time for her ) journey , not one person , not even her bestest friends had come to our home offering gifts or money , not even for her kids. everybody else is focusing on their own families and their lifes ! if you have an opportunity , take it , like my mother had + be prepared ! because at the end of the day , in 10 years , your " friend " will not pay your rent.
006 , your mind is blind but not deaf
- your brain has no eyes of some sort that can lookout and know what's happening. whatever you tell your brain is happening , that's what it will believe , e . g ::
♡ " I'm ugly " then you'll be ugly. you'll perceive yourself as ugly.
♡ " I can't achieve anything " then you won't. you'll get nothing done in your life.
instead , tell yourself affirmations in the mirror , remind yourself that you're absolutely stunning ! it will come true !
007 , every setback is a blessing in disguise // see the bright things in everything
- now I do not care how bad something was , or how much it had impacted you , that is a blessing in disguise from God. God has your back. God is with you 24 / 7. He is greater than everything in the entire world. Don't ever erase that from your mind if something as small as not being able to go to your bestie's bday party or having strict parents. When I moved to the other side of the world , I felt like my life was over. 2 months later , I realised how toxic some of my old " friends " were and I got amazing opportunities where I live now. " When a door closes , another one opens " that is one of the most truthful sayings ever.
008 , don't wallow in your own self pity like a pig
- did you lose a competition or your partner broke up with you ? its okay to feel sad and you can cry about it but afterwards , get up. Move on. im sorry but nobody really cares. "oh my life is so unfair" so is everybody else's ? Get over it , please ! you can try another competition and your ex was clearly not for you so move on. nobody will care because they have their own problems to deal with. they may say sorry or give you a pat on the back but that's it. It won't change anything. they will be a whole lot ahead of you whilst you're still in the same spot in life , wallowing in your own self pity. whether you like it or not , life moves on and nobody cares , ml ♡
009 , set boundaries
- do you not like it when someone makes fun of you or touches you in a way you don't like ? you do not have to endure that , honey ! set your boundaries and if someone breaks them , take a break / leave them ! if they cannot respect your boundaries , they don't deserve you ! ♡
010 , drop toxic people
- it doesn't matter if you've been friends with them since kindergarten , or you don't want to seem mean. drop toxic people. this includes "friends" who just talk about themselves and say things like "oh , my life sucks" all the time , put everything in a negative mood. they don't deserve you. don't ruin your mental health over someone else , ml ! ♡
sorry if I sounded mean , I'm just trying to be honest !! ♡
an everything shower is a weekly necessity for all. let me give you an ultimate guide on how to do it . .
body : :
- what to do with your body in your everything shower !
001 , dry scrub ( daily )
- once you have hopped into the shower , get your loofah // brush // scrub and start scrubbing your body. this can get rid of dry skin !
002 , soap bar ( daily )
- now , use a bar of soap to wash your body !
003 , shower gel ( daily )
- next , pour a decent amount of shower gel on your loofah // brush // scrub and wash your body !
004 , exfoliator // scrub ( weekly )
- grab your exfoliator and apply it to your skin , this helps remove dead skin cells and makes your skin smoother !
005 , body wash ( daily )
- apply body wash to your skin , it is less harsh than shower gel but both still needed whilst showering !
post - shower : :
- this is what you need to do after taking your everything shower , as soon as you leave the shower !
001 , apply lotion ( daily )
- apply lotion // cream on your body , something like cocoa butter or the kwailnara milk body lotion may help !
002 , baby oil & vaseline ( daily )
- afterwards , rub baby oil and vaseline on your body to make it softer !
003 , body oils ( daily )
- now , put on body oils on your body !
004 , fragrance ( daily )
- add body mist , deodorant , perfume etc !
hair : :
- disclaimer : : this is what helped me with my african // curly hair but you anyone can follow too ( p . s I wash my hair every few days ) !
001 , wash ( on routine )
- turn on the tap and let cold // lukewarm water run in your hair , massage your scalp as you do so !
002 , massaging ( on routine )
- make sure to massage your scalp with a scalp massager but optionally , you can use your hands ! this can help promote hair growth !
003 , conditioner ( on routine )
- apply a sufficient amount of conditioner to the ends of your hair !
004 , shampoo ( on routine )
- add shampoo to the scalp of your head. make sure to massage your scalp as you do so !
005 , relaxer ( occasionally )
- if you want to add relaxer , you need to have added the ingredients before the shower but if you have , wash it out of your hair !
006 , hair masks ( weekly )
- apply the hair mask of your choice ( I use the tsubaki hair mask - if you have low porosity hair I do not recommended it for you ) and leave it on for 5 - 10 minutes , once you're done , rinse it out !
007 , hair oil & other products ( on routine )
- once you're done , dry your hair and start to brush when dry. separate your hair and apply hair food , oils etc. once you're done , I'd like to have heat protection on my hair before I straighten it.
skin : :
- this post won't go into full detail about skincare but here is my routine : :
001 , prep ( daily )
- start by washing your hands , add your skincare accessories , light some candles , play some music and washing your face !
002 , double cleanse ( daily )
- apply your oil - based cleanser then your water - based cleanser after !
003 , toner ( daily )
- now you can apply your toner pads or regular toner !
004 , serum ( daily )
afterwards , apply serum !
005 , moisturiser ( daily )
- then add a moisturiser of your choice to your face !
006 , additional things ( on routine )
- after my routine , this is the time when you can add lip scrubs , lip masks , eye masks , face masks , etc !
you're reading this blog to stop procrastinating whenever you want to workout , or just get back on track in general. you are not alone as many others go through it too , but here I'll give you tips to avoid procrastination.
our plan : :
001 , push through
- in my eyes , procrastination is not a curse that randomly shows up in your life or something that pops up and runs away , it is something you bring up on yourself. let me explain it this way : :
imagine you are Sabrina , you love hanging out with your friends and playing with them. You stretch and study and read books in the morning everyday. One day , your best friend wakes you up early to go somewhere , meaning you forget to do your productive routine that day. Soon , one day of missing out of your productive deeds turns into a destructive habit. Eventually , you miss out on your routine and feel a sudden dread whenever you want to. That is procrastination.
It's okay to play with friends or watch a movie but don't let that get caught up in your life ! your routine should be like a ritual that you practise everyday , no matter the circumstances ! starting to do something once a day can slowly lead up to a repetitive habit whether that is lounging or being productive ! procrastination is just a re - embodiment of your actions.
002 , plan it all out
- don't workout or stretch or practise pilates by waking up and doing it at any time of day , depending on your mood. creating a repetitive habit means you need to do it at the same time of day for a scheduled time period. make sure to plan rest days to prevent burnouts !
003 , rest
- make sure to rest at least once a week to prevent burning out. remember that your muscles need to rest !!
004 , romanticize it
- romanticize moving your body to make it enjoyable ! listen to music , wear comfortable clothes , cute accessories , add candles - anything to make working out fun !
005 , find great workout channels // excercises
- find great workouts that aren't too // not intense enough for you ! find ones that work and are not just popular on tiktok !
♡ I extremely recommend hinafit for pilates , stretches and workouts !!
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