happy.

finally learned to be over him and happy without him. he's b.

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Thought I was overdue a happy update from 2018.

I know I'm over B now, with all my heart. I'll still feel affection, but not of the same kind. Instead, my heart is now dedicated to my boyfriend, who helped me with that final bit of getting over him. He also knows about B, and has some idea of what I mean, which has convinced me even more that I can feel safer with him than I ever would with B. B also has his own girlfriend, which I think is an interesting end to things.

It gets better, and it will hurt. I don't know if I've lost my connection with B this year though, but I hope I haven't, and I'm trying to make sure I haven't. He's still an important figure in my schooling education, and time will tell.

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I think this is the end of the road for this blog for me, as of right now. I'll still be checking it (and maybe checking in) from time to time, and currently have no plans of deleting, but I just don't think it's really what I need now. I've been getting very inactive, and I know I will take a very long time to get over him, and that the fact is inescapable. Still, as for now, I don't have much to add to this community, and I don't think it's quite where I need to be. Maybe one days I'll become active again, but I don't know. If you guys want to send something to my inbox though, I'll still be happy to answer! ♡

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I think I'm really getting over him this time, or just accepting I don't really mean that much. In a way it stings, but I have also never been this unattached for however long this has been going on. Those feelings of panic when he doesn't reply aren't there in the same way either. It's more my natural desire to feel accepted rather than a feeling of failing him. It doesn't hurt, and it doesn't make me feel insufficient anymore. I just feel at peace.

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If you are an active tc blog repost this for a question or two in your ask.

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I love asks.

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It's problematic how much I overthink things, but this time it feels like it isn’t the case.

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Reblog if TCC members can straight-up tell you their stories without any judgement or hate.

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is it ok if you do a fluffy imagine w a f!high school student/m! geography teacher??

As soon as you walked into the class, you knew you weren't going to last the entire hour. Your head was pounding, mouth parched, and the room was stuffier than usual. As you went to blow your nose, a wave of dizziness hit you, and suddenly you were feeling even worse, and class hadn't even started yet."Okay, class. Today, we're going to be discussing sedimentary rock patterns. Can anyone name an example?"Normally you could, but as your head continued to weigh you down with a mental fog, the answer just disappeared from your mind."Correct! Now why do they form in these areas?" he asked, pointing around various areas of the board. You blinked, trying to articulate a sentence. Sedimentary rock patterns form... because... "Yes! Now, (Y/N), because you've been oddly quiet, do you know what causes the rock layers to form?""Uh..." You couldn't do much better than that. This class was burning you up even more, and as you took a deep breath, your vision wavered yet again and your TC looked concerned."Actually, it's a good idea if you all can explore that deeper! Get onto your laptops, take a look into different layers and their formation, and we'll discuss in ten minutes!" he called, before immediately rushing over to you. "Is everything okay?" he asked, eyes caring as he rested a hand gently on your shoulder. Slowly, you shook your head as a wave of dizziness hit again, before he gently eased you out of your seat."I'll take you to the school nurse. You can't stay in class in this state, especially if you're not feeling well. No buts," your TC said sternly, and as his hand found its way to your forehead, he grimaced."You've got a fever, h-""It's just a warm classroom!" you tried protesting weakly as he took your unopened bag, and your TC shook his head. "The entire class is cold and shivering. Winter typically doesn't feel like that on anyone's forehead," your TC retorted, and you let out a weak laugh."Guess you got me there. I'm just sick of rock patterns maybe," you said, trying to nudge him as you left the class. However, you felt a little unsteady on your feet, and so your TC took your arm and put it around his shoulders, before his went under yours to steady you."With the way you're acting, anyone would think I'm on my deathbed already," you muttered."I just want to make sure you're going to be okay. That's not such a crime now, is it?""I don't know, (TC/N). Maybe it should be if you're going to jeopardise my education. I could be learning about geological factors!"Your TC snorted, as he eased you through the office and onto a chair."You'd more likely be like a dormant volcano.""That was a horrible joke," you said weakly, as your TC went to the front desk. He told them that you were sick and that you needed to be taken home, and then he started guiding you to the nurse."She's going to give me a lollipop. That's the cure for everything at this school. It'd be more effective feeding me grass," you said.Your TC stayed silent, instead taking the time to place your bag carefully on the floor before helping you lie on the supplied bed."I'm off now, since I have a class to teach. Hope you get better soon though," your TC said softly."Thanks for bringing me here, (TC/N). Now go teach a rocking lesson," you muttered, and you felt your hand go in his."Anytime you need it, I promise. Just glad you'll get rest." He gave your hand a gentle squeeze, and left his there a second too long before rushing off, glancing back one last time to smile at you there, feeling better than ever because of him.

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Moving away from the serious nature from the last post, figured I should update and explain a little better:

It was just a weird day two days ago and it caught me at a time when I was really stressed. B was most likely as stressed as I was as well, so he wasn’t in much of a mood to tolerate a lot and I wasn’t in the headspace to realise that and process logically. Afterwards, he just was a little snappier and I was in a mood from it, but things turned around after a while.

Things are good with me now, I think we’re still as good as always, and we had some good jokes today. B even made what I think was a serious suggestion for offering me a stronger leadership role next year? It’s one I’ve been wanting since last year, and he may end up with some control over it so lets see how that goes! Also he is not taking any responsibility for anything I see or hear that is bad on this one YouTube channel he recommended.

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He does care. One way or another, he does care. It will never be romantic, and my heart is learning to accept that, but it means a lot all the same.

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Do yourself a favour and imagine your TC in flannel.

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While I acknowledge a TC is a pretty sucky thing to have in regards to its implications and the reality of the situation, I also don’t think we talk about positives that have come out of it enough. 

One example I have is just getting involved to know them better. When I first started school, I was barely involved beyond classwork. There were all these clubs that I didn’t touch, and I didn’t attend any of the events. Now though, I’m doing a lot in my spare time and I’m going to admit that some of it came from having a TC. I wouldn’t be doing as much extra-curricular without him, like helping out in the school show through a chance meeting and a hope to spend more time with him, to co-running the club he once ran. While I like to think some of these opportunities would’ve come around without him, I doubt I would’ve been able to hold as much influence in relation, and get to know people I wouldn’t have talked to otherwise.

Because of my TC, my ability to communicate with teachers also accelerated at a far greater pace. It’s shown me how easy it can actually be to talk to them if you have something to say, and want to talk to them. Not only that, but through talking to him, I’ve learned a lot of interesting and relevant things, such as situations with our education, to pathways to get the grade I want. 

Personally, I don’t like being stuck in a loop of wanting one of the last people I could have, but I can’t say it hasn’t grown me as a person in ways which have helped me either. Having a TC isn’t an easy or particularly fantastic experience, but there’s still some strange positives to it, and I just want to know if anyone feels the same way. This experience doesn’t have to be completely negative, and for me, it wasn’t.

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I think the crazy thing is that I know it would be so hard being comfortable publicly dating my TC, and that the concept to start with is insane, but I still wish it would happen?

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Honestly my TC could punch me in the face and there’s a good chance I’d apologise.

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Okay but I got a photo of B where he actually looks more like a boyfriend than my teacher and I think it’s making getting over him like 20x harder.

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19: How does your TC act around you? and 25: Would you kiss your TC? What would the situation be like? please. :)

19: How does your TC act around you? He acts a little bit hesitant in regards to physical contact, but when we’re talking alone, it’s so easy to get along. When there’s others in the room though, things get a bit more stuttered and he freezes up a little more. He’s generally pretty sweet and banterous though. 

25: Would you kiss your TC? What would the situation be like? Maybe I would kiss B, but I could never say for sure. Definitely not during school. I guess it would have to be a situation where it’s clear feelings are reciprocated, and then the rest just comes with the moment.

Thanks for the ask! Original post is here.

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Hey guys! I’ve been away from wifi the past few days and so I haven’t been able to do much, but I’m now going to finish off another imagine req while I have the time!

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So i kinda stumbld across on your blog and this isnt me, but a freind of mine has a crush on one of our teachers.... im a bit worried for him because im sure the teacher is married Anyway, as a freind, is there something i can do to help someone with a tc? Its not toxic or anything right bcuz its kindof treeted as a taboo subject where I am

First of all, it’s kind that you’re showing concern for your friend. It’s an awesome thing to be doing, especially with the public perspective you’ve mentioned.

In relation to toxicity, I believe it only becomes as bad as the person makes it. For me, it’s a motivator for me to do better and to do more, but for some people, I know it can turn toxic when they let it consume them in negative ways. Personally for me, the line starts getting drawn when jealousy consumes people from simple actions with other students, to simply writing off what is meant to be a happy day or event because they didn’t see their TC, and this is from personal experience. I went through a time thinking my TC hated me due to things beyond my control, where even a congratulations managed to turn sour, and in the end, it felt like it was crushing me until I got myself and my thinking together.

Things you can do to help a friend with a TC:

Definitely make sure this crush isn’t negative on your friend’s mental health. If they’re judging every interaction with their TC and thinking the absolute worst, it can become horrible really fast. Making sure that they’re aware that a bad mood isn’t due to them, or being ignored isn’t because the teacher doesn’t like them can be so fundamental, because I know it can seem so huge when you have a crush. Keeping them grounded can help a lot in the long run, even if it’s just telling them that there’s other external factors like stress or marking.

Make sure they know pursuing something isn’t realistic. You mentioned the teacher being married, and so while this isn’t unusual with TCs, it means taking everything off the table. Any relationship beyond friendship in the future should be off the table. A student coming between a marriage is something they shouldn’t consider, especially due to the major repercussions it can have for all parties.

Hear them out. This sounds kinda basic, but it’s so good. I have a small circle of friends who know about my TC, and a smaller circle who I talk to about it. If you friend is willing to open up about their TC, let them. Being able to talk about the feelings is one of the easiest ways to process them and eventually lose them. Plus, since it’s seen as taboo, letting them talk to you will make them feel better, if all else fails. 

In saying that, don’t rush their feelings. I know it can be tempting to tell them to get over the feelings fast, but letting it go with time is easier. Their crush on a teacher is like any other, and suppressing it doesn’t mean it disappears. If anything, it sticks around longer.

Finally, support them. Sounds simple, but TCs will cause the same emotional ups and downs that any normal crush will cause, and supporting your friend will help them feel better. It ties into hearing them out, but being able to smile along and say that it’s good if they’re being friendly is always nice. Personally, my friends just sigh at me, but their support as well makes things feel more natural, and it’s always good on bad days when things don’t go to plan.

Good luck with your friend! Hopefully things work out for them!