Normalize disliking people and avoiding them without starting a conflict and insisting that they're bad people. You don't actually need to be able to call someone toxic and abusive in order to justify that you're not vibing with them.
It took me decades to truly FEEL and believe I don’t have to torture myself being around a family member just because that toxic person is a “Family member”. Family can be such an over used word. It can create joy AND pain. The latter is what many of us in therapy are trying to release.














