Keep your chin up and be positive

I love all things pretty. Dream big. Work hard. Be positive. Enjoy my blog of randomness. xoxo

[mournfulroses]

Agnes Obel, from a song titled "Familiar," featured in her album "Citizen of Glass,"

[neil-gaiman]

Some of your books make it seems like you believe in actual literal magic, do you? ()

I can write down a few words and make people thousands of miles away, whom I have never met and will never meet, laugh tears of joy and cry tears of true sorrow for people who do not exist and have never existed and never will exist. If that isn't actual literal magic I don't know what is.

[thezenangel]

a beginners guide to pilates

🎀 what is pilates?

pilates is a form of strength training exercise that focuses on low to medium impact movements to improve muscle tone, stability, endurance, and mobility. pilates also focuses more on the smaller muscles of the body compared to traditional strength or weight training.

🎀 benefits of pilates

including the benefits that exercise generally brings, pilates:

improves mind-body connection and body control

improves active flexibility and mobility

works the core, improving stability

improves coordination and balance

reduces mental and physical stress

works muscles that can be neglected in our daily lives

treats and prevents body pain, including menstrual pain

teaches you how to pair your breath with your body

keeps the joints healthy without putting pressure on them

🎀 where to start

while you can absolutely start with studio or reformer classes, you can also do pilates routines on youtube! i recommend move with nicole and dansique fitness. if you want to get your cardio in as well, i absolutely recommend eleni fit. her workouts are some of the best i’ve ever tried!

🎀 personal tips

keep your core in mind. core strength is a major benefit of pilates because each movement requires at least a mild amount of core work to keep your body stable, so do your best to keep the engagement throughout.

start slow. pilates movements can take a while to fully understand and it can take a while to build the mind-body connection, so don’t push yourself too far in the beginning. your coordination will improve over time!

don’t underestimate it! while the movements are generally slower than other types of exercise, you will work your muscles just as much and in a way they may not have been worked before. sometimes i even find pilates more difficult than hiit or weights!

[kat-escapingreality]

[inabigworld]

[honeytonedhottie]

simple ways to improve ur diet⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🍈

the saying "you are what u eat" is TRUE. a quote that rly resonated with me and inspired this post was : you are what u eat, so dont be fast, cheap, easy, fake and not enough.

drink water - buy urself a cute water bottle and DRINK WATER. water is literally life. literally just drink water, its so worth it, for ur skin, hair, nails, immune system etc

TAKE UR VITAMINS

start drinking teas - i started drinking peppermint tea before bed every single day and its so PLEASANT and it literally improves ur health on multiple different levels. drink herbal teas, find one that u rly like and indulge in it. one that i rly loved was peach and strawberry oolong tea. one that i also rly recommend is green tea

peppermint tea : its so refreshing and easy to drink if ur someone who dislikes tea. it improves digestion, reduces pain, eliminates inflammation, relaxes ur body + mind, and boosts ur immune system

green tea : great for ur metabolism, rich in antioxidants etc

start eating fruit - FRUIT IS BETTER THAN CANDY and i'll stand on this till i die. especially if ur someone who has a massive sweet tooth (like me) stock up on fruits and enjoy them. i like to eat my fruits frozen (like green grapes or watermelon)

eat ur vegetables - it doesn't even have to be drastic but you need to be incorporating vegetables into ur diet every single day. i usually like to eat a small serving with every meal, or i'll have one meal a day where its purely veggies (like a salad). snack on vegetables, vegetables r so delicious and so good for u.

u can get vegetables into ur diet without having to eat them by themselves, you can eat them in pastas, put them in smoothies, turn them into sauces, dip them in sauces etc, just EAT THEM

cut out soda - if u can't cut out soda entirely pls minimize it because its so bad for u + it throws off ur pH balance

treat urself - always remember that ur diet should be like : 20% what u crave and 80% whats good for u. dont deny urself the foods that u wanna eat. eating healthy doesn't have to be boring and eating healthy doesn't mean that u can't enjoy the foods that u love. literally let urself live.

meal prep - if ur someone that often forgets to eat or u just dont have time to make a meal, try meal prepping. make urself snack boxes so that then u can stay eating consistently and if u haven't eaten yet, go eat something 💗

[thezenangel]

this is your reminder that if you want to start new healthy habits in 2024, you should start incorporating them now so by january, they will be part of your routine and you won’t have to worry about going from 0 to 100 all at once 🫶🏼

[pleaseeeimjustagirl]

Weekly Affirmations 

♡ I am worthy of what I desire.

♡ I have everything I need to be successful.

♡ I am open to limitless possibilities.

♡ I believe in myself.

♡ I choose faith over fear.

♡ I am aligned with my purpose.

♡ I am open to receiving unexpected opportunities.

♡ I am ready to share my gifts with the world.

♡ I am my best source of motivation.

♡ I am grateful for the abundance that I have and the abundance that’s on its way.

[becoming-thebest-of-myself]

[simplyjustkate-deactivated20240]

That Girl Habits, 2024

2024 is coming up faster then we think it is, it’s time to become that girl now.

- Five minutes of mirror work everyday

Mirror work can benefit your confidence levels. This is where you look at yourself positively in the mirror.

- Work on your goals a bit each day

This is self explanatory but it’s a good way to show improvement with yourself. Great habit to build.

- Add more fruits/veggies to your meals

I have an entire post dedicated to eating healthy, make sure to check it out. This is good for nourishing you.

- Treat yourself in small ways

Examples: coffee, sweets, skincare, baths, etc.

- Think of what you’re grateful for

Think about the good things you have in life. Tell yourself you’re grateful for how far you’ve made it.

- Get 7-8 hours of sleep each night

The standard sleeping time is known as eight hours but seven works fine. Nothing less, nothing more.

Thank you for reading! Hoping you become the best version of yourself for 2024.

[filmgifs]

Roman Holiday (1953) dir. William Wyler

[aiyamai07]

Healing from betrayal

Just because someone else didn't choose you doesn't mean that connection wasn't special. I was, for a few months three years ago, the happiest I'd ever been in the longest time. I felt adored. I felt like someone had found me special.

He made me feel beautiful and appreciated. Yes, things didn't work out in my favor because money money, money, but it was a tremendous lovely experience. It was a beautiful era. For a time, someone made me feel like I'm worth calling up all his friends to impress me for our first meeting. Someone felt like teaching me how to skate with gentle, soft hands that I will never get to hold again. Someone did exert extreme effort to impress me. And he performed beyond my expectations. He was extraordinary to me. When he wants something, he excels like no other. It just sucks that he didn't want me enough to choose me over money, money, money. He chose the more convenient path. It's painful but it is what it is.

Honestly, despite calling him Sauron, I am grateful that someone made me feel beautiful. Things didn't work out for me but I was so happy. It was the happiest I had ever been. But it wasn't meant to be. He doesn't love me enough to choose me. Money money money. It hurts but that's life.

Someday, someone else will give me the love I long for. Someone will give me the one thing noon e has ever given me...consistency. That person must be something else because the Lord is saving me for him. His prayers must be powerful because it sends people to California to marry someone else. I am positive that it will be the most beautiful love story of my life.

XOXO

[chichiscloset]

[femmefatalevibe]

Femme Fatale Playbook: How To Embody Queen Energy

Living in your queen energy requires you to stand in your power and look after yourself to the highest degree in every area of life. When tapping into this higher frequency, you realize that putting yourself first allows you to show up at your best – both for yourself and others. Here are some tips to embody the queen energy you’re meant to live in: 

Put Yourself First: Remember – your self-perception becomes your public image. You need to believe in yourself before others will. Believe that you’re worthy of living your dream life which includes achieving your loftiest goals and indulging your deepest desires. Reframe any resistance. Identify as someone who lives a life of abundance where all of your manifestations enter into your orbit with ease. 

Be Honest With Who You Want To Be: Sit down with yourself (and some writing utensils – whether it’s pen and paper or a keyboard) and journal to describe your ideal self. Don’t hold back. Indulge in your wildest dreams, goals, and fantasies. Become conscious of any limiting beliefs that come to mind as you write out these aspirations. Jot them down – they’ll give you some insight into what’s holding you back, so you can bridge the gap between who you show up as today and who you’re going to be once you put in the inner work. 

Make A Deliberate Effort To Discover Your Values, Passions, & Boundaries: Figure out what matters most to you in life. What activities, topics, aesthetics, art, clothing, hobbies, sounds, movements, books, television shows, movies, songs, and types of conversations most light you up inside? Here are some resources to guide your self-discovery journey HERE, HERE, and HERE.

Build A Strong Personal Brand & Cult of Personality: I have more tips on building your personal brand, creating your persona (or ‘Dream Girl archetype’), and an ultimate Femme Fatale playbook linked HERE, HERE, and HERE.

Prioritize All Aspects of Your Health: Physical, Mental, Emotional, Sexual, Spiritual. Celebrate your needs – they make you human. Eat a healthful, plant-based diet, exercise and walk daily, meditate, read at least 10 pages a day, journal, make to-do lists, declutter your space, self-pleasure, recite your affirmations, lean into shadow and mirror work, create morning and nighttime routines. Feeling in alignment is essential to allowing your magnetic aura to shine through. Find all of my tips to cultivate self-regard in every area of life HERE.

Read, Study, & Build A Strong Skillset: Designing the life of your dreams is an inevitable aspect of living in your queen energy. Stay informed, read books and articles on your industry, interests, current events, cultural happenings, history, and any other topic that brings you joy or you would find intriguing if someone brought up the subject at a dinner party. Mastering an evergreen skillset is essential for succeeding in your career or building a business. Living in your queen energy means living in abundance. While queen energy is a mindset, it is impossible to fully live in this dream reality without having passions and your finances in order. Start with my entire Femme Fatale booklist HERE and guide to building your dream career HERE.

Learn The Art of Detachment: Acknowledge what's out of your control. Living in your queen energy means you understand that it's important to work your hardest and smartest to determine the outcome of anything you can control. Otherwise, you have to let it go – people, professional opportunities, possessions. Projection, misalignment, or an undesirable fit does not deter you from striving toward your goals and relishing in satisfaction. Others' contempt and rejection serve as a cue for self-reflection and redirection.

Become Extremely Discreet Yet Utterly Shameless: Do as you please, but keep your business (or pleasure) to yourself. Privacy is peace, power, bliss, and radiates quiet confidence – the greatest telltale sign that someone is living in her queen energy. Learn to hold your own. You will be guaranteed to earn respect within seconds of gracing anyone's presence.

Maintain Proper Posture: Shoulder back, chest open, back straight. Don’t be shy about taking up space. 

Accept Compliments With Grace: A smile and ‘thank you’ pairing is the most confident and elegant response. Some more confidence and social skill tips are linked HERE and HERE.

Live Unapologetically While Displaying Radical Empathy: Uphold your boundaries. Live your truth. Never beg or settle for less.

[theambitiouswoman]

You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are. Anything you’re chasing is out of alignment for you. You’re forcing something that doesn’t work and that’s how you end up hurting your own feelings. Stop chasing and start attracting. Don’t like what you’re attracting? Work on getting better. Settling for less, is also chasing and forcing. Overlooking red flags and things you’ve outgrown because you’re ignoring the things you need to work on. Life doesn’t respond to who you pretend to be, it responds to who you are. Give yourself all the things you admire in others. You are the architect of your life.

[brazillianprincess]

The disciplined. That girl. The attractive one. The most feminine. The cultured, well read one. The girly and extra one. The one who's always put together. The sensual. The kind hearted. The alluring. The happy, warm, sunny person. The classy. The elegant. The graceful belle.

[becomingthatgirl111]

small details that make you more elegant

listen without interrupting

choose a perfume that is your personal brand

know something about art

be a good conversationalist

keep your shoes clean

always remember important dates

simplify your life, your house, your agenda

practice a good posture

be punctual

keep your house clean and tidy

don't point out other people's mistakes

learn another language

don't shout when you speak

always remember your courage

always keep your hands groomed

have a positive attitude

always have a pleasant scent in your home

take care to make others feel comfortable

your manners must be impeccable

educate yourself on a good variety of topics

keep your phone away when you are eating at the table

be wholehearted

say please and thank you ALWAYS

apologize first and sincerely

practice empathy

give sincere compliments

dress appropriately for every occasion

do favors without expecting anything in return

take responsibility for your own happiness

less is more

enjoy the moment

remember elegance is not only based on the way you dress, it is the way you interact with yourself and with the world 🤍