Samâs body has never belonged to him.Â
A decade before Sam was conceived, Mary made a deal that impacted her son. The narrative implies that this deal, her permission, was necessary for Azazel to have access to her child. We learn from this that mothers have ownership over their children even prior to conception. That Mary could give permission on behalf of Sam. Â
With this deal, Azazel is implied to hold some rightful claim over Samâs body, a claim that he sealed by violating his body at 6 months old with demon blood. From there he manipulated and controlled his life with demons, never relinquishing his claim.Â
Sam sought autonomy, intrinsically aware of the lack of control over his own life, his own body and experiences. He rebelled, ran away, grew up and left.Â
Even so, demons dogged him. His prom date, his best friend in college. Visions, powers, migraines, nightmares â all a direct result of how the right to his body was sold in a deal by his mother.Â
And then at 22, John Winchester gives Samâs life to Dean. John Winchester tells Dean that he will either have to save his brother, or kill him. Â
This is a burden, a cruel and unusual responsibility for one man who raised Sam to place onto another man who raised him. At the same time, it is treated as a right. Dean has the responsibility of killing Sam, but also, in his fatherâs eyes, the right to. The right to make the call for if and when Sam can no longer be saved.
Samâs body belonged first to Mary. It was claimed and violated by Azazel, by demons. And John gave what claim was left to Dean. Sam acknowledges this right in Playthings, doubles down and agrees to it. Whatever claim Sam held over his own life is now given to Dean. Â
Sam dies. Dean, the true owner of the right to decide if Sam dies, did not allow Sam permission to die, and so this is unacceptable. Dean sells his soul to buy Samâs life back.Â
The narrative allows this. It allows for Sam to be bought by and for Dean. It tels us that Dean has this right (and the narrative goes on step further to imply that this decision is right. Dean is Righteous). Â
And Dean pays heavily for that purchase, ripped to ribbons and sunk to Hell. The transaction comes due, confirming his proprietary ownership is valid and true.
This relationship does not go both ways.Â
Sam does not have ownership over Deanâs body, over his life or his death. Sam is never able to save or resurrect Dean under his own power. Not in Mystery Spot, not when he kills the Crossroads Demon holding Deanâs contract, and not when Dean goes to Hell. Nothing of Deanâs can be purchased by Sam.
Without Dean, his body minder, Sam is infected by demon blood and manipulated by Ruby. He makes these choices himself, despite them being flawed. It is implied these choices were made in a direct absence of Dean. Without Dean, Samâs body is corrupted. Rubyâs claws are in deep, a claim she is staking as the owner was absent. Finders-keepers.
When Dean discovers this, he reasserts his control over Samâs body and locks him up in Bobbyâs panic room to detox. He overrides any concerns Bobby may raise, and decides that even if this kills Sam, it will be worth it if Sam âdies humanâ.
We are once again reminded that it is Deanâs right to choose if Sam dies, and moreover that it is Deanâs right to choose how Sam dies. Samâs body was bought and paid for by him, after all. Samâs life and death are his inheritance. Â
Dean may lock Sam up as he detoxes and strap him as Jesus to a cross in the centre of that space, and we may look on in horror and Bobby may question if what they are doing is right, but he does not question Deanâs authority to do it. At every step, implicit ownership is upheld â by the story, by Bobby, and by Sam himself. Upon escaping Sam doesnât tell Dean he was wrong to control him, only that he was wrong about the necessity of his own corruption. He questions Deanâs conclusions, but not his means, not his reassertion control.
In killing Ruby, Deanâs reassertion of his claim is validated. Â
And then Lucifer comes along.
Lucifer stakes a claim on Sam, millennia in the making. In the flash forward in time, Lucifer is the owner of Samâs body, and Dean is still contesting that clam, still arguing a right to Samâs life and death. Luciferâs claim is upheld when the colt fails and future!Dean dies.
We learn that Luciferâs stake is as valid as Deanâs. Â
Samâs body is still not his own.
In order to save the world, Lucifer cannot be allowed to own Samâs body. In order to make that happen, Sam must die under his own power. Sam must accept Lucifer into his body under his own power. Sam must choose his own destiny under his own power.
In order to save the world, Dean must relinquish his claim to Samâs body. And finally, he does. Acknowledging Samâs right to choose this, supporting Samâs plan to do this.
Until Season 5 episode 22, Sam has belonged to Mary, to Azazel, to John, to Dean, to Ruby, to Lucifer. He has never belonged only to himself. Â
And when he finally does? He saves the world.
(For the record, this relationship is carried through the eventual finale. Any point at which Dean dies, he is brought back through means outside of Sam, either his own power or something else. Meanwhile if Sam dies, he is often resurrected through some request or action of Deanâs. So of course in the finale, Dean must die first. Because Sam cannot die while Dean still lives, because Dean owns Samâs body and life, and does not offer permission for Sam to die except of old age by natural means. Dean gets to decide if Sam lives or dies, and how and when he dies, even then.)
