hybrids of angels and animals

gav, 28. on ao3 as altschmerzes. jewish, native, aro butch, homesick minnesotan in ontario, lawyer, gen fic connesoir. romance repulsed to an extreme. no, your ship is not an exception. in all yr fandoms making all yr faves aromantic. hockeyblogs at @flaticeball. he/they.

[clingyduoapologist]

Your friend’s unpublished fic idea is kind of a dead wife

[swordtit]

the best thing you can do to a character make them averse to touch and absolutely starved for it

[fuck-all-governments]

[recurring-polynya]

me (crazy eyes, covered in blood): I NEED to finish writing my fanfic. so I can start writing a different fanfic.

[altschmerzes]

i love you friendship and qprs and best friends and friends with benefits and mentorships and roommates and found family and surrogate parents and chosen siblings and rivalries every single specifically and actively nonromantic dynamic that exists

[windowsvriska]

especially friends with benefits. underrated dynamic.

[altschmerzes]

ESPECIALLY friends with benefits!!!!!!

[northw0man-deactivated20201019]

I will forever be profoundly unimpressed with people who take pride in their unkindness to others

[bluerose5]

Thank you, Black people in fandom spaces. Thank you, Black creators and Black lurkers. Thank you Black artists, Black writers. Thank you, Black bloggers, Black influencers. Shoutout to those Black characters, both canon and original. Thank you, Black people, both queer and cishet.

Your perspectives matter. Your representation matters. You are not bothersome for demanding equal treatment in fandom. It is not your responsibility to make fandom more welcoming and inclusive to you. It is not your sole responsibility to create all of the Black-centered content. You are not "ruining" anyone's fun for demanding better for yourself, and anyone who says otherwise can go fuck themselves. Any fandom worth being a part of should have no room for racism in it.

Black people in fandom, you are wanted. You are needed. You are loved and appreciated. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

And since they don't get told it near enough, thank you, Black women especially!!!

[bluerose5]

A reminder on Juneteenth!

[ceruleanheaven]

honestly given my parents whole [gestures vaguely] i am actually incredibly well adjusted

[altschmerzes]

i have to write a character having a sobbing breakdown right now i Simply Must.

[altschmerzes]

picture of my sweetiepeetie babyboy to bring you peace and joy this day. look upon him and feel at peace.

[catilinas]

more benches in museums

the benches need to have backs!

[aroace-ryland-grace]

guards!!!! put The Character into Situations!!!!!

[aroace-ryland-grace]

throw her into the Dungeon of Scenarios posthaste!!!!!!

[altschmerzes]

So I have severe alexithymia and I can’t tell if I’m aromatic or if it’s just the emotional blindness? I don’t understand what romance is exactly I guess? Is it an emotion?

i'm afraid i truly cannot help you with this, my friend. i do not know what romance is or feels like, as i have never felt it. i don't know if that's very helpful to anyone else wondering if they're aromantic honestly. i do also deal with pretty serious alexitymia a lot of the time. it's not personally interfered with my ability to conclude whether i'm aromantic or not, because my personal relationship to the concept is just... i know with complete certainty that i have Never experienced romantic attraction or romantic love. i have never wanted a romantic relationship, and even when i thought i did, which i did for a while, i was very clearly misidentifying the want for companionship and intimacy - because when i made a couple of efforts at dating (a literal Couple, like, three or four times in my life) and i enjoyed the activities and the idea of having a Person who was Committed To Me, as soon as i thought about it being romantic, i felt physically sick and panicky and horrible and ended up ghosting every single one of them. (not great behaviour on my part!)

anyways. i'm sorry i can't be more help to you! my door is always open for people questioning if they could be aro, or wanting to talk about aromanticism, etc. i just wish i had more useful things to say, because my story of figuring that out was incredibly straightforward. i don't know what romance feels like, what romantic feelings are. i just know i have never felt them.

i suppose the most useful thing i have for you is this: would it help you or feel comfortable to you to identify as aromantic? if you think that it would, then the word is yours. and if it turns out that it IS emotional blindness and you somehow figure that out later, or you get on a medication that changes it, that's okay too. the word is not a permanent commitment. if it serves you for a time, and not forever, then we in the community welcome you while you would benefit from being here, and will wish you well should you decide to leave. if you want it, the word is yours. you don't have to rule out every other possibility in order to be able to use it. i promise!

[willgrahamscock]

any time I tell my mutual about the fic i'm 'writing' and they ask me where they can read it

[altschmerzes]

i love you friendship and qprs and best friends and friends with benefits and mentorships and roommates and found family and surrogate parents and chosen siblings and rivalries every single specifically and actively nonromantic dynamic that exists

[altschmerzes]

work was fucking bananapants this week. i was too exhausted to write all week and it's making me evil. AND i had to conduct a contested bail hearing on twenty (20) minutes of notice with a pretty shit plan. did i get the guy released? yes i did. did i feel like a shivering little purse dog the whole time? UH HUH.

[jessebloom]

this almost makes me want to go back to law school