Ever since I was a child, my parents have always made their presence felt, and made sure that it would reach me. By always involving themselves in my own matters, by always trying to give advice, and
even just trying to help when there’s an opportunity to do so. They made sure that I had a good and normal upbringing, that would certainly guide and develop my behavior, thinking, and rationality as I
grow up. My drawing brings these experiences to life by representing my attachment, which is the secure attachment, with the color of a leaf’s growth, and the growth of a tree. Starting from fresh green
leaves, to mature, dark orange leaves; but it isn’t just a normal tree growth. Instead of the heart growing from the roots, the roots emerged from the heart, and shows stability as I have developed an
accomplished heart from my upbringing. The lines emerging from the above of the heart, as well as its radiant color, and curvy lines, are leaves, which shows my growth as leaves start to grow, curvy and well-extended lines show my openness in attachments, not having trust issues, not being overly anxious, and negative thoughts towards relationships as a whole. People change, and it’s a nature that can never be changed; it can happen consciously and unconsciously, which is why experiences affect present perceptions towards relationships. If one’s experiences were good ones, then they might most likely have a positive view upon attachments but may also be the opposite when have experienced bad ones. There are different types of love languages, and mine seem to be different from the known ones, I express my love and commitment for the people I love through understanding. While it may seem shallow, I personally think that it is normally difficult for people to understand each other, people at most can only sympathize, not understand; and when people understand others, they develop a bond, then trust. There’s only a number of people I understand and trust wholeheartedly, and that alone shows that they are special to me. While there may be different approaches in improving socializing skills, I personally think that showing one’s natural personality to others is the key to good relationships. Because, if people come to like an individual who shows their true personality, then they be genuine in befriending them, which can also aid in gaining one’s trust. Moreover, it improves one’s relationship with themselves, lying to oneself can most likely end up with negative effects.
