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Technodad defending Dream

This is so important to me

We Won This, guys. If after this Techno's fandom still say ignorant, ill things toward Dream it means they are not real Techno's fans.

tizzymcwizzy

im ill about them. for the record.

animetrashmuffin

Kakairu Valentine's Week 2023 Day 4: Speed dating Family

Hosted by @kakairu-rocks!

an3-nome

Dream and Techno make out during doomsday reblog if you agree

glcharm

silly masked dream

creature-crow-deactivated202512

brb trying this

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blue-the-flyingpyrochef

chromegnomes

#WHAT THE FUCK IM BEING DEVOURED

boss make a dollar i make a dime so I scroll through yaoi on company time

javaclown

🌈🌈🌈

#this just came up on my fyp and i #HUH??? WHAT????

shamebats

Oh come on lady, you can't deny a man his gaycation

shamebats

You must surrender yourself mind, body and soul to the gaycation or be destroyed

shamebats

Someone on reddit already suggested a sapphibbatical

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Someone on reddit

already suggested a

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Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

glowingghosty

here is the link to the original post and I've went ahead and copied the body text to put it under a read more jic it gets removed (though I'm sure wayback is gonna get this one) including her update

"champion flight" is a user who is constantly commenting on relationship_advice posts but basically what he said was that the husband was trying to use magical thinking and technicalities to cheat on op and explore his sexuality without admitting to the reality of it

at one point op does call it "sissy stuff" but generally doesn't seem entirely homophobic (she kept calm during the discussions, she said if he were gay or bi that's fine, they'd just need to figure out what that meant for the marriage and she didn't want to be cheated on regardless of the other person's gender) the husband is not in the right here at all lol

Hi there, I really wish I didn't have to make this post but...here goes. So me and my husband have been happily married for about 16 years give or take. We both have stable careers, good family life and are fairly fortunate despite the cost of living racking the UK right now. We have two boys (15 and 10) and up until this Sunday, thought we had it pretty good. We argue sometimes of course but never gotten too bad and we have a pretty decent sex life with some exploration but I won't get into that. Long and short is, on Sunday, just after I dropped our boys off at their friends, my husband asked me if we had the house alone and more importantly, do I have a minute. I said yes and he sat me down then got out this printed poster for some sort of orgy and started explaining to me the concept of a 'gaycation'. How it's where straight men go to somewhere with "sun, sand and booze" and "become gay" for the duration of the trip but that's fine because it doesn't actually count, because "what happens on the gaycation, stays on the gaycation". I was just completely silent and mortified, even moreso when he said he was looking into booking a trip to Ibiza next year with his BIL (his sister's husband) to experience it for himself. When he finally let me speak I just said, I need him to be clear with me, is he gay? Because if yes, that's "okay" but we need to figure out what happens going forward. I didn't let myself get angry or upset, I was just...stunned. He swore up and down how he's not gay and he's 100% attracted to women and of course still loves me and our boys. So I said well do you think you're bi maybe and he got very defensive, saying how I need to drop the accusations and that this is the beauty of the gaycation, it allows straight men to "experience" gayness without actually being gay and how it's like going to an aquarium??? And again he was adamant he doesn't find men's bodies or genitalia exciting at all, but he needs to experience this apparently. I said well I'm really not comfortable because even if he was bi, this would be explicitly cheating on me and he got angry and reiterated he's not, because "that's the beauty of the gaycation" etc. I just had enough and left the room.

mysteryteacup

Thank you for posting the whole text of this post.

Especially since the bit the OP here on tumblr left out that goes between the screenshots completely reframes the situation.

This is what was went between those screenshots, for those who couldn't keep track: picking up from end of first screenshot "I was just completely silent

...and mortified, even moreso when he said he was looking into booking a trip to Ibiza next year with his BIL (his sister's husband) to experience it for himself. When he finally let me speak I just said, I need him to be clear with me, is he gay? Because if yes, that's "okay" but we need to figure out what happens going forward. I didn't let myself get angry or upset, I was just…stunned. He swore up and down how he's not gay and he's 100% attracted to women and of course still loves me and our boys. So I said well do you think you're bi maybe and he got very defensive, saying how I need to drop the accusations and that this is the beauty of the gaycation, it allows straight men to "experience" gayness without actually being gay and how it's like going to an aquarium??? And again he was adamant he doesn't find men's bodies or genitalia exciting at all, but he needs to experience this apparently. I said well I'm really not comfortable because even if he was bi, this would be explicitly cheating on me and he got angry and reiterated he's not, because "that's the beauty of the gaycation" etc. I just had enough and left the room.

So.

Yeah. Funny haha quotes OP, but this lady is not some evil villain trying to enforce heterosexual monogamy on a poor innocent queer who just wants to explore his sexuality, like you framed it and most of the reblogs are repeating.

Sometimes queer people can be assholes. This guy sure is.

He's homophobic (jumping through hoops to pretend he's not gay).

He gets defensive when his wife suggests he might be bisexual (so she's actually cool with all us queers, even though if he's gay her marriage is over).

He talks over and at her ("when he finally let me speak" is a big red flag).

He refuses to acknowledge that this is still cheating on what was an agreed monogamous relationship (polyamory is cool! but only when all parties involved agree to it! otherwise it's being an asshole and making your partners take risks with their sexual health that they didn't agree to - and that's true in allocishet cheating as well as queer cheating). Anyone who is serious and genuine about polyamory knows damn well that it's not a unilateral decision! It has to be unanimous!

Oh, yeah, and HE'S PLANNING TO TAKE THIS TRIP WITH HIS BROTHER-IN-LAW, MEANING THAT HE'S PROBABLY PLANNING THIS "TOTALLY NOT CHEATING" HOMOPHOBIC EXPLORATION OF HIS SEXUALITY WITH HIS SISTER'S HUSBAND.

So he's not just cheating on his wife, he's cheating on his sister. Which is generally not something that happens without incest involved, but holy shit this ahole managed it!

And his sister's husband, the update proves, HAD TOLD HIS WIFE JACK SHIT ABOUT THIS. So the OP's husband gets exactly one point in his favour: he at least told his wife his plans. His boyfriend/brother-in-law did not. Two assholes.

*sighs*

Sometimes marriages don't work.

Sometimes you figure out you're queer later in life and it sucks for you and your previous partner because the time has come for you to go separate ways.

Sometimes allocishet partners to queer people are shitty about it when it happens.

THIS IS NOT THAT.

This is a queer (might be gay, might be bi) with massive amounts of internalised homophobia who has decided to use that as an excuse to cheat on his partner with his SISTER's partner. His sister's partner who did not tell his sister anything. And the OP's husband is using manipulative tactics to try to convince his wife that she's the bad guy for *checks post* being totally chill with him being queer but not wanting to be cheated on.

I hope this woman and her sister-in-law get good divorces and can continue on with life without too much pain.

I hope the husband and brother-in-law figure out their orientations and do the work to unpack that internalised homophobia enough that they can eventually admit that their behaviour was shitty AF.

I hope their kids are okay.