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Me @ fandom puritans:

#not all i say is something i do/like/feel comfortable with. I'm actually a lot less pRoBlEmaTiC than i appear #but i believe in freedom of expression and letting people think/feel/create/consume anything they please #I'm against any kind of moralising holy fanpol and I'd love everyone to have common sense or at least know when not to butt in

flower-cute-posts

the bookmark when chapter 3 suddenly gets very descriptive: 👁️👄👁️ (GET YOURS HERE)

Really sorry for people that come to fandoms in 2026 yall would've loved 2013. Sadly whatever desert you see now it's all u can get

#everywhere is so boring so empty so much about narcissistic yappers and not about the actual media

nondelphic

writing is just sitting in front of a computer and making up problems for imaginary people while ignoring your own. fun and casual hobby.

olderthannetfic

I'm a non-usamerican in a discord server with almost exclusively usamericans and I've run into a very weird communication problem.

Background: disagreeing loudly, complaining, and hurling low-level insults at each other reddit-style is not only normal in my culture, but also a way of bonding with people. I'm aware that this is not the case in female- and/or queer-dominated usamerican spaces (including said server) and have always been careful about that point.

Only, in this server, there doesn't seem to be ANY expressing of alternative opinions allowed. You agree, or you keep your mouth shut. How did I find this out?

At first, I was having a great time in the server, until one day another member with whom I thought I had a good relationship and even co-wrote a oneshot with said (not in the vent channel) that people who write rpf are "cruel and disgusting" and I, a known writer and reader of one historical rpf show, very politely and in a friendly way went haha yeah modern celebrity culture breeds parasociality like crazy and some people don't respect boundaries, but there are all kinds of rpf and there's nothing parasocial or cruel about most of them, like historical rpf (Hint-hint nudge-nudge like the one I don't know how she could've missed that I write/read?? Not that I think any rpf is cruel and disgusting, but this seemed to me like a gentle way to check a friend, as I assumed her to be) The conversation in that channel ended instantly. By all members involved. For the entire rest of the day. I thought, oh, well, thorny topic, must've hit a sore spot.

Another day, another person was complaining about mint-free products, of all things (also not in the vent channel), so I said haha as a mint allergy haver, those are a godsend for me, leave them all to me. Insta-end of the conversation. By everyone. Weird, I thought, but maybe it was a boring convo?

Yet another day and the exact same thing happened over a minor difference in how I see a certain blorbo's certain action. I was starting to get a bit creeped out at this point.

That same day, a mod refered to me as "confrontational" when talking to another member (where I could see) and that's when I got fully creeped out and started scrolling through the past conversations in that server and realized that NOBODY ever expressed disagreement over anything, as far as I was able to find in almost half an hour of scrolling and reading people's convos.

And no, the server's rules said nothing on the topic, so it wasn't a violation. And no, this didn't happen to me when I was agreeing with people, so I don't think it's an attempt at bullying me either.

Is this as insane and creepy as it seems to me, or am I so influenced by my culture that I literally never noticed that I shouldn't express disagreement ever and that disagreement=confrontational??

This sounds like a toxic pit of 20-somethings who need to grow spines and learn boundaries, thus allowing them to also learn to weather minor momentary discomfort in a conversation.

Yes, lots of fandomy spaces full of Americans can be broadly conflict averse. The tone in which you would naturally argue with people at home would be unwelcome, but this isn't that. This is wall-to-wall red flags.

Granted, we only have your own description to go on, but if what you've written here is accurate, no, that's not normal for us either.

#yeah it's not the nationality it's the age range and tbh sometimes the type of fandom #the younger it skews the more is some kind of cult where toxic positivity and absolute dogma live rent free. disagreement is forbidden #lmao op you're not confrontational you're normal the problem is that these weirdos are making discussions impossibile these days and try to #make you look weird

You know we say:" what were you doing at the devil sacrament?" when some new puritan fanpol preaches about some PrObLeMatIc show or actor or whatnot? Well, i feel like that it got worse. These people really see the devil in everything, especially in older shows or movies or when some famous person came out as a creep. Suddenly all their work are full of pedophilia and sex and perversion(funny that that never happens with criminals that acted in shows full of violence tho). These new puritans watch shows that are just glorified porn and refuse to admit it and then go and see sex or sexualised shit where there's none except that in their eyes but make it a moral issue for everyoneto feel guilty about. It's some ultra religious shit. It's a freaking satanic panic and a witch hunt and literally not just as a meme.

#fandom #weirdos #fanpol #puriteens

I beg you to stop throwing around the word parasocial(among others) when you don't even know what it means.

This word in cringe culture simply became another buzzword used to shame, moralise, police and bullying. It's just another tool for cringe culture used when convenient.

It's not a synonym for weirdo or freak, it doesn't mean caring intensely nor pathologically(although that can happen but it's another thing). It doesn't involve sexual attraction specifically. It's not about age or paraphilias.

It just means unilateral connection with someone that we don't personally know.

What bothers you really is fans crossing boundaries and breaking the 4th wall. Everything else is not your fucking business to psycho analyse. Caring so much about how a stranger feels about your fave is twice as parasocial tbh. Check yourselves first.

#parasocial #please shut up #cringe culture

Watching ships with so much potential go completely wasted before they even started like

#doomed ships #they're not even the titanic bc they never even sailed LIKE

I wanna read a fanfic so badly but I'm disconnected from any fandom so..yes I could read it as a story but that's not the magic I look for

#will that magic come back or I'm just old and cringe and i should go take the kids at football like the youth says #am i just nostalgic? i can't even read old ones #a part of me is like well ur not weird about fandoms anymore congrats but the other is like..eh..bit empty bit boring innit #cause fanfic wasn't instead of books or hobbies it was a plus and idk i miss it..i miss the whole package

All I know about euphoria is learn from tumblr and it's all wrong? Like what do you mean that ship/storyline was just 3 seconds long and scrapped? What do you mean the main plot is about pimps and glitters and bad chemistry and zendaya just existing at her worst?

#this show sounds like the worst season of every edgy teen show ever and it's so glorified?!#so they had jules/nate and dropped it? they had the #backstory of the abusive dad that could've been a whole show itself and a better one?

I still find fun at times to be a fan but I'm more and more aware of how odd and weird it is. Not in a omg im so cringe way more In a hyper aware way like...I know the names and relationship status of all these people I'm watching live and root for and none of this is real...bizarre...

damnfandomproblems

Fandom Problem #14,419:

Some of you guys are just mean. Some of you guys are just fucking mean.

olderthannetfic

the worst is when my brain gets overwhelmed by fandom antis and puritanism and their opinions start to appeal to my anxiety ("if i behave """correctly""" no one will yell at me" type logic)

at least i got this blog to find some reassurance in

That's how they get you!

And, truthfully, that's how those kinds of ideas have gotten most people they catch throughout most of history. "Wharrgarbl if I'm just good enough, God won't let the natural disaster get me! If something goes wrong in my life, there must be secret sin!"

It is, unfortunately, a thing brains do.

Understanding the pattern can help defang it somewhat. Somewhat.

#to me it sometimes work as in I'll shut up or else they'll come and bully me they'll all block me etc #but i saw people doing this cognitive dissonance shit: oh no i was evil and problematic! that fic i wrote was horrific that fantasy was #fucked up although i recognize it was just a thought and it was harmless and there was nothing wrong etc but now i know i did sin!#like consciously these people know they were never at fault but now they're brainwashed by some high moral like they were converted to #radical religion. one thing was calling people the r word in the 90s grow up be better and saying well that was not ok #another is writing a dub con fic and being convinced by some mormon that you're bad and inappropriate shame!shame! hell!and you #are like when u are a child and the priest says that impure thoughts about cartoons is the devil speaking

The rise of puritans and people that simply talk like ultra Christian crazy people from 1800 is concerning. Now it's the celebrity crushes turn(again). You can't have a crush and be in a relationship. It's cheating. It's real and disgusting. God will punish you, you must be faithful to your woman.

Do people fucking hear themselves?

#the world is headed in a terrible direction bc ye #this is conservative mindset but it's too spread out it's left it's right it's just a very violent majority way of thinking #how do you fight that?

It's crazy that in every fandom you must walk on the toxic positivity eggshells but there's that one popular blog that is just mean and can say whatever unhinged shit and everyone is like oh em gee soo cool so funny!

#like those fandoms in which u can't even say character x is not your fave and then there's populargirl1 that says #character is ugly and trash and they deserve bullying and only mentally ill like them like go to therapy and die #and they're 26 and everyone else think they're untouchable...they have minions actually

sufjansjoy

there actually is nothing better on this earth than a really big tree. except for maybe making two men making out with tongue. but it’s pritty close ..

allthingswhumpyandangsty

Is adding donation links in fics okay? Like fic ends, writer says that if readers want to they can donate money, and then they donate if they wish?

no. that is against ao3’s terms of service.

anything that involves money is against their site’s terms of service. doesn’t matter if it’s commission or donation or anything. on ao3, you cannot mention or link anything that involves money.

ao3 is a nonprofit site known for hosting millions of works of others’ copyrighted characters. it has to stay nonprofit and forbid any mention of money on its platform to avoid getting sued left and right. I’ve said this before, but the only reason ao3 can exist as it is today is because its main rule is “nobody can use their site to ask people for money in any way, shape or form”.

I’ve explained more here.

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