The Adventures Of B & J.

Brandon & Jaymiee AUS ⇆ USA 10,000 mi/16093 km est. 2011

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After 13 Yrs of Hella Long Distance | August 18 2024 🌿🦋🖤

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happy 2025 y’all

here’s the quarterly j b life update:

We got our wedding pics back (they’re cute but I hate my face lmaooooo)

Brandon had his biometrics appt today ! One step closer to his work and travel permits. Our friends say he’ll most likely get approved very soon. Immigration is a lot of paper work and I’m so greatful to be close to the end of it for a little lol

Oh ya we made some friends! They’re my nieces friends parents but one of them also adjusted status so it’s been cool to talk to them about it. They’re also just super cool people and it’s been nice getting to know them

We’ve started setting goals instead of just vibing. Going from long distance for sooooo long to like married has been a major adjustment goal wise for sure

Brandon snores a LOT which I can usually sleep thru but not tonight ig

Our life is simple and same as before just without the flying and it’s very nice

All is well, as I hope it is for everyone here.

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lmao we got married today!!!!!!

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We officially closed the distance!

Brandon arrived on his k-1 last week, we just applied for our marriage license today, and will be married next month!

No more months apart, no more dropped calls, no more exhausting plane rides. We get to live together, no return tickets for the foreseeable future! Still doesn’t feel like real life but it is lol

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brandons visa appt is in 8.5 hours y’all wish us luck

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Brandon’s medical appt for his visa went well I think lol I spent the day walking around Sydney with his fam while he got a ton of tests done and had to get like 6 vaccinations, boy is a trooper fr

I leave for the US on Saturday. Very bummed out but I need my medication and until it’s available here it is what it is.

On the bright side I’ll be back for two weeks in april/may to help Brandon get everything together for his interview! And then fingers crossed, if he gets approved maybe I won’t be going back alone next time

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actually feeling very sad about having to go back to the us without Brandon next month. though the first part of his k-1 was appproved the earliest interview date is end of april, which means the earliest he could join me in the us is like may if he gets approved at the interview. and i won’t be able to join him in aus again for longer than like two weeks bc of the issue with getting my meds here which sucks. international long distance is so hard. i know we’re so close to the finish line and normally i can focus on that. we’ve been doing this for 13 years, what’s a few more months ya know? but ughhhhhh

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BRANDON’S FIRST PART OF THE K-1 WAS APPROVED BUT HE’S ASLEEP BC ITS 2 AM SO I CANT TELL HIM YET BUT Y’AAAAAAALLLLLL

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our apartment building has cockroaches and i am not doing well y’all lmfao

any tips appreciated bc im losing my mind

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welp gotta love being chronically ill lol. turns out I can’t get my migraine meds here in Australia, so I’ll be headed back to the states in march.

a little bummed but greatful for the time we have been together in Australia so far, and for the time we still have ahead of us.

if y’all could send good vibes would be much appreciated. hope our k-1 will get looked at soon. we applied legit a year ago and it’s so disheartening seeing ppl who have applied after us get responses 😭 or if my meds became available in aus that’d be sick too but I don’t see that happening in the next few months lol

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Is there an Instagram where we can keep up with you and Brandon???? I miss you guys and I'm rooting for you!!

Not really, I’m sorry! I just have my personal one (j444444y) that you can follow if you’d like but I don’t really go on it much at all

Really kind of you to think of us and very much appreciate your words of support and encouragement so thank you

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I hope your enjoy living here in Aus! my partner moved here from Minnesota 8ish yrs ago, and always says it was their best decision

I am enjoying it a lot, thank you!

Glad that your partner is so happy in their decision, immigrating to a new country can be so difficult!

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nine years ago today I bought my first plane ticket to vist Brandon in australia, and today I bought my ticket to go live there. we officially close the distance in august!!!!

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Hi Tumblr, It’s been a long time…. Again lol

Today is Brandon’s 29th birthday (happy birthday hehe) and I’m feeling a little nostalgic looking through our pictures together. I really do miss blogging some days, but I’m still struggling and I don’t really have the stamina for social media anymore. I’m going to try to post here once a year though I think.

Anyway here’s the big update, Brandon and I are officially engaged! Lol

We had a lot of growing up to do before both of us were in the same place. And we went thru so much ( y’all have no idea I just started talking about it in therapy LMAO). It’s funny to say that at my age tho. I feel so young and inexperienced but also so fucking old and tired. Time is weird. Grief is weird. Life is weird. But we’re doing our best.

As of right now we’re still doing the long distance thing. Planning and waiting and saving. Y’all know- the usual. I’ll be joining Brandon in Australia on a work visa in the next few months, and then if (not jinxing that with a when) his k-1 is approved we’ll come back to the states to get hitched. We decided we wanted to start our lives here because the visa is a lot cheaper, and I help with my niece a lot. That little baby is the light of my life, and we both want to be around to watch her grow up like Brandon got to watch his nephews grow up. I’m so very excited for that chapter of our lives.

Sooo ye that’s kinda it for us right now. Hope y’all are doing good. Get some sunlight, and some fresh air, and be kind to yourselves.

With love always, Jay

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Hi Tumblr, it’s been a long time.

I think I owe you all an explanation.

In the beginning of 2019, I tried to pretend that everything was okay. That I was okay, but I wasn’t. My Mom was not doing well at all. And when I came home from my last visit with Brandon my Mama got very sick. We almost lost her then. My depression got worse and anticipatory grief just took over. It was like I had tunnel vision. She was all that mattered, nothing else was important. Like it all faded away. I faded away from everyone but her. Even my relationship with Brandon was a bit strained, I had nothing left to give to him at the end of the day. I had nothing left to give anyone. I was spent. But through it he never held anything against me and was supportive and loving the whole time.

Things went on like that for a year or so. And then we lost Mom. MS is a bitch of a disease. Sometimes I wish it was a person or a thing so that I can rip it apart, take revenge for the pain and havoc it used to wreck my mothers body. It took my Mommy away from me way too soon. It stole her from all of us. She was young and now she’s gone and I will have to live my whole life without her.

It sent me into a deep depression and made my obsessive compulsive disorder worse. I’ve always been very open about my struggles with migraines but these other things are something I kept to myself for a long time. I am still trying to claw my way out of it all. Finally after months of therapy and medication I am in a much better place. Still devestated, I miss my Mom more and more every fucking day. But little by little I am rebuilding everything I shattered within myself and with others. One of those things is this blog and the relationships I made with many of you through it.

I ran away from my grief for a long time, and with it I ran away from everything else. I deleted all my social media apps, and stopped responding to basically everyone because I was just shutting down. Ive kind of always done that whenever things got to be too much. But I guess I’m finally rebooting now, and am trying not to run away anymore.

I hope that you are all well, and that covid has not touched you or your loved ones.

I’ll be around for a bit if anyone wants to ask anything or reconnect but after a while I probably won’t be on here blogging and reblogging, as I don’t really use social media anymore... if you stuck around or even just checked in I thought you all deserved an explanation.

With love always, Jay

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