Peace. Love. Mayhem.

Peace. Love. Mayhem. Hi there! I'm Ani! (she/her; 30s; bisexual; autistic) This is a personal blog to post about and also reblog stuff I like. Feel free to ask me about anything within reason! (And feel free to check my About page!)

[vervaincircle-deactivated202411]

slapping this badge on my blog

[tiefling-queer]

look at me. listen to me. bigots and queerphobes don’t know the distinction between a trans person, a gnc cis gay person, and a cisgender heterosexual crossdresser. all of these people are just queer degenerates to them. that is why their anti-drag bills are written so vaguely as to encompass any possible mundane gender nonconformity - so they can target as many of us as possible in one ruling. and that’s why you need to stop trying to put lines between these groups in regards to ‘who’s more oppressed’ and ‘who has the right to talk about gender’ - gender nonconformity and transgenderism are punished in exactly the same way. cut one of us and the other bleeds. our fight is the same.

[riding-with-the-wild-hunt]

a whole bunch of gazan mutual aid projects and nonprofits. if the decision of which individual fundraiser to give to feels too daunting, or if you just want to help as many people as possible in one go, these are great initiatives to support.

care for gaza - focuses on providing food and essential supplies. donate here or here.

connecting humanity - securing internet access via donations of virtual sim cards (esims). if you can't afford a whole plan yourself, crips for esims is a communal pool that will use your donation to purchase and maintain esims

gaza soup kitchen - provides food, medical care, and classes for children. also has a gofundme

glia gaza medical support initiative - provides medical care through field clinics and tents at hospitals. donations can also be sent through their website.

ele elna elak - provides clean water, food, clothing, and shelter. they also have a gofundme

life for gaza - raising money for the gaza municipality to repair water and waste management infrastructure

taawon - partners with local civil organizations to provide food, water, medical care, shelter, and basic supplies

the sameer project - running various initiatives providing tents, medical care, and necessities. they have their own encampment project focused on sheltering families with children, sick and disabled members, or members in need of perinatal care

islamic relief worldwide's gaza emergency appeal - provides food, water, hygiene kits, medical supplies, and psychological support

baitulmaal - provides a variety of necessities, including food, water, shelter, and medical supplies

gaza mutual aid fund - distributes food, hygiene products, water, and other essential supplies, including financial support. run by @/el-shab-hussein's amazing friend Mona. updates can be found on her instagram.

hygiene kits for gaza - provides hygiene supplies including menstrual products, wipes, and toothbrushes/toothpaste

anera - provides a variety of necessities, including food, water, hygiene supplies, medicine, blankets and mattresses, and psychological care

palestine children's relief fund - provides supplies and support with a focus on children. also has an initiative for lebanon

dahnoun mutual aid - provides water, food, tents, baby supplies, financial support, and other necessities. updates can be found through their instagram

certainly this is not an exhaustive list, so please feel free to add on other projects or organizations that i didn't include. and as always, please take the time to donate if you can and share. it truly makes all the difference.

[mayadile]

Plus, my friend is also trying to escape an abusive situation and I'm the only help she can reach to. It would mean so much to me to get to her so I can watch over her. She's been there for me while I was suffering and I want to be there for her. 💜

[mayadile]

TODAY IS MONDAY! MY DEADLINE IS THIS FRIDAY! I NEED TO MAKE $500-$600 BEFORE FRIDAY SO I CAN GET MY PLANE TICKET!!!

Paypal

[mayadile]

I want to get to my friend as soon as possible. She's been going through mental stress from the ER and her parents forced her to work calling her lazy and think she's faking her chronic pain. Which made her spine burn in her body and her mom made her quit her job. It's crazy so she needs me for support her parents are crazy 😭 she's been in a dark headspace, she's been crying to me on the phone for days. So please!

[nessa007]

HILARY DUFF A fan made a crochet animated Lizzie McGuire doll and gave it to Hilary at her show in Austin, Texas!

[marithlizard]

(via bsky)

In case anyone hasn't heard, the cyclospora outbreak affecting tons of people in the US right now is coming from Taylor Farms produce. Best to stay away from bagged lettuce and prepared salads completely right now, but especially the ones mentioned in the screenshot:

Taylor Farms Earthbound Farms Little Salad Bar (Aldi) Marketside (Walmart) Kroger House Brand Target private label greens Costco salads and greens etc Trader Joe's chopped salad kits and fresh produce Fast food: McDonalds, Taco Bell, (Yum! Brands), Chipotle, Subway, Pizza Hut, KFC, Olive Garden, Top Golf, Red Lobster, Burger King, etc.

This is not the first time I've heard about a Taylor Farms foodborne illness outbreak. I stopped eating their salads after reading a description of the conditions in their facilities. Doesn't sound like they've improved anything.

We need a fully funded and staffed FDA, and regulations with teeth - and that's exactly what we don't have under Trump. To make things worse, the CDC is no longer tracking these outbreaks. We're on our own.

[marypsue]

The thing is, it’s impossible to not have themes in your writing. The damn things pop up like mushrooms anywhere they detect the slightest hint of Story, even if you actively try to avoid them. And if you don’t thoughtfully choose which ones to cultivate and which ones to prune, that’s when the dry rot sets in and your whole house collapses. 

[fandomsandfeminism]

Be careful: nostalgia likes to link arms with fascism.

I've seen a lot of talk about how millennials are especially prone to nostalgia. How technology's rapid evolution left our childhoods as a distinctly different world than our present. How we cling to our childhood hobbies and IPs as a way to heal our inner children, etc etc.

And there's nothing inherently wrong with nostalgia. I still play pokemon games and am in the middle of rewatching Yu Yu Hakusho. You're allowed to love the things you grew up with.

But we need to be careful.

Conservatives, nationalists, and fascists *love* to evoke a ☆mythic☆ idealized past- when men were men, when America was great, upon which to build a fixed and solid identity. Any progress away from this idealized conception of the past is thus decay- corruption and ruin. Nostalgia underpins a fascists worldview and allows them to justify any violence against the forces that would further degrade society away from its perfect past. Protecting the past comes to justify all sorts of things in the present.

We need to be very careful about what we allow our nostalgia to mean to us, what we allow it to excuse or justify.

This is not *just* about Hogwarts Legacy, but Hogwarts Legacy is a good example of it. When you can invoke your nostalgia- that golden beautiful past where you felt safe and special- what are you willing to ignore? What harm are you willing to allow? What will you turn a blind eye to if doing so makes you feel like you've recaptured some of the magic from the past?

Tread carefully, friends. This HP bullshit may have been a test that you passed, but it will not be the last time when our sense of nostalgia may conflict with progress and morals. Always remember that you can love something from the past without letting it dictate the future.

[mayadile]

PLEASE I WANT TO GET THE PLANE TICKETS FIRST! I WANT TO GET TO MY FRIEND SO SHE ISNT HOME ALONE :( PLUS I JUST WANT TO LEAVE FLORIDA!! I HAVE UNTIL A WEEK TO GET A TICKET!!

[mayadile]

If I can get $500-$600 early I would be so happy so I can plan a flight and get a plane ticket and get myself ready to see my friend, please I havent seen her since I was homeless. I miss her and I want to be with her. 😭 I just need $500-$600!!! I'm so desperate GET ME OUT OF HERE I WANT MY OWN LIFE paypal

[mayadile]

UPDATE: READ! PLEASE!!!

I talked to my friend last night. She extended the deadline to two weeks. But she did say if I could plan a flight sooner or later it would be good that way I would be with her if she has to move from her house to an apartment. She would be placed in an apartment alone which she doesn't want to be so she wants me there with her. (Her parents ask me to room with her, so to help me they got an apartment for me and her. Their plan was to have me be her roommate since she came back from the ER, she is unable to move on her own! And I won't hesitate to be there for her.) Plus we are very close and she needs me more than ever and for her parents to be nice enough to buy an apartment so me and her can be roommates is something I don't mind doing.

Still, I want to try and get $500-$600 this week so I can get started getting a plane ticket ASAP so I can get to my friend. PLEASE! She needs me and I need her 😭 PAYPAL

[inkskinned]

y'okay can we stop pretending yet. like can we all acknowledge that eating disorders are chic again, and it's going to kill someone.

and like. do we have to keep gently phrasing things to protect naturally-thin people's feelings. in my life it has never been fashionable to be fat. "fat" is still a bad word. there has never been institutional power pushing people to gain weight; no trillion-dollar industry to "fix" skinny people. a larger body type has never been over-represented in models, influencers, celebrities. sure, people might say "i'm worried for your health," but they do it with respect and gentleness, like they're talking to a scared deer.

every single fucking time i talk about this, i have to be so careful with what i say, in case i offend even one skinny person. it is just true that skinny people have social capital across many cultures. there is a reason you almost never hear someone say "i wish i was fat," but you will constantly see people say "I wish i was thin." and yet inevitably some skinny person will tell me: i thought you wanted body positivity. it is the same fucking attitude as when a cis man says "when you say men have power, well, i've been bullied for being a man. i thought you believe in mental health awareness. don't you know men have a higher suicide rate?"

two things can be true at once: your experience being bullied for being thin was terrible. and people with larger bodies probably have it worse.

i have been big and small. i know many other people who have been big and small. trust what i'm about to tell you: being small is much easier. the world is kinder to you. people treat you better. honestly, this pattern occurs pretty much regardless of gender - my guy friends have confided that they'd rather be bullied for being thin than be bullied for being fat. if you're skinny, the pressure might be to gain weight, sure, but it's often to do so in a way that keeps you skinny - to gain muscle, specifically.

thinness is seen as innate and natural, genetic. whereas carrying any fat - that is a moral failing. it is assumed to be related to your character, your personality. i have seen people equate it to discipline, to hygiene. that bias is why we need to talk about this.

of course i want nobody to make a comment about anyone's bodies. and i think that hyper-thinness and an obsession with weight loss and a recession and a rise of conservative values... all of this is very fucking concerning. we are watching a return of "pro-ana" content, reframed as choice feminism, "health-conscious" behavior, "looksmaxxing". it's fucking terrifying.

[mayadile]

Plus, my friend is also trying to escape an abusive situation and I'm the only help she can reach to. It would mean so much to me to get to her so I can watch over her. She's been there for me while I was suffering and I want to be there for her. 💜

[sweet-suggestions]

You can be loved while you are struggling.

[t4nku-deactivated20260714]

I legit needed to hear this

[desolationlesbian]

my cat is completely obsessed with watching the bathroom sink drain and I have started calling this "her shows." as in when I'm in the bathroom and she meows and runs up I'll be like "oh you want to watch your shows?" and run the faucet for an extra few seconds so it fills a little. she will then sit there at the edge of the sink for ages totally entraptured by the drain. blorbo from her sink

[desolationlesbian]

her shows

[littledeviantsworld-deactivated]

Did you ever just feel so lucky for knowing someone you met online? Like.. I was one click away from not following you. I was one second away from never even knowing of your existence.I would never have been this happy!!!...

[oneheadtoanother]

[bophtelophti]

(In case it's not obvious to everybody, this is an edit; "they pay me in woims" is the punchline from a different Nancy comic. The original punchline to this one is also funny:)

[the-real-seebs]

that makes a lot more sense

but the edit is a solid comic

[josilverdragon]

"The horrors persist but so do libraries, books, iced coffee, sunsets, trees, the word 'fuck', the moon and the sea."