Let’s Talk About Boundaries
Since there’s been an influx in followers to my corner of Tumblr, it’s time for a bit of a conversation about boundaries, namely mine, specifically regarding my Ask Box. This post is not intended to be targetting anyone in particular but targetting a sudden influx in some stuff I need to nip in the bud.
First, a low down on me, for those who don’t know. I have a full-time job, hobbies, pets, an apartment to keep up, a boyfriend, a family and of course mental health issues. My engagement on Tumblr fluctuates based on how all of the above plays together as well as various other interests. In other words, I don’t live on Tumblr.
Please remember that an Ask Box is just that, an ASK box. You are welcome, even encouraged to ask questions, share plotty nuggets, whatever but you need to do so RESPECTFULLY of me and my life. I don’t OWE you an answer to your ask.
Please do not share the exact same ask over and over, I may have decided not to answer your ask, or I may also not have formulated an answer and am saving it for later. Spamming me only ensures I will NEVER answer that ask. Ever.
Please do not follow up after asks, even weeks later. If I answer your ask, I answer it in my time and on my terms. That could be hours, days or months after you share it. Poking at me makes the likelihood of my answering that ask very, very low. Keep in mind I have epic fics on Ao3 to work on as well as Tumblr ficlets. Where my creative brain is at any time is not in your know, for obvious reasons.
Please do not randomly start some racy roleplay with me. I don’t roleplay. I write porn about robots. Just because I write explicit content doesn’t mean you should feel entitled to get explicit with me directly. That is absolutely not at all okay. Any more of that and I will remove the Anon Ask option.
If you would like a little more engagement or another place to share thoughts, or plots or whatever, you can join my Patreon and get on the Discord where there is some more of that here and there.
You can also leave me a tip on Kofi with an ask and I will at least say if I am not answering in that scenario because I still do not owe you an answer beyond that.
There we are, this is the boundary we need to stop crossing. This is Tumblr. This is fandom and while I love engaging with you all, when people start getting on my ass for their ask or their idea it makes me want to turn off the Ask box and say, fuck it. I do not owe you. What I share, I share because I want to, because it’s fun for me so don’t make it a chore because that will result in this Tumblr shutting down.
