Sex isn't just divided into "fade out" and "erotica". Good sex writing isn't a bad thing even in YA, like idk what you think you're protecting teens from?? Not advocating for sjm's bs writing, but fade out isn't the only thing acceptable on YA. What's more important is consent, respect and not whether something faded to black. Jfc
christ i can’t believe how many times i have to say this so imma just be graphic for a bit down below the cut. fair warning, guys. and i’m not in the best of moods bc i am so fucking tired of people arguing with me about sex in ya literature. so just a fair warning to anyone who happens across this that this is far beyond what i usually sound like in my asks and i apologize in advance.
anon, i don’t mean to sound harsh, but i am so fucking frustrated that you’re trivializing all of this.
so, full disclosure so people understand that i know what i’m talking about: i am a writer of ya, i have a ya literary agent, i have mentored ya in numerous contests, i have helped authors go on to sell their ya, i have been on submission to editors with my ya, and i can guarantee that every single publisher of ya fiction will not accept explicit sex of sj/m’s caliber in the books they purchase.
i am talking about young adult literature here. literature that will be browsed by ten year olds and twelve year olds and fifteen year olds and eighteen year olds. it doesn’t matter how old the person is when it comes to publishing ya fiction because ya fiction has a standard to meet with the content no matter what, and sj/m has skirted right past that standard for the sole reason she is a bestseller with a huge name and thus can get away with that in her books (with her publisher, anyway, not fellow industry professionals as evidenced by the soap dick fiasco). if a fifteen year old wants sex in their books, there are numerous places in bookstores where they can go in search of it. that needs to be their prerogative, so the average kid who is not ready for graphic sex can have a section of the bookstore that they feel safe in.
if you were ready to read about sex at age fifteen, that’s fantastic. your opinion on this matter can not dictate what is and is not acceptable for ya. when i was sixteen i was reading adult books because i sought them out. if a teen is ready for sex in books, they can seek books out that have sex. in most bookstores, there are two aisles of young adult books and numerous aisles for adult books.
to make it clear: i am a huge advocate for positive sex representation in books. sj/m does not write sex positivity. she writes abuse romanticization and porn.
this is sex positivity in ya literature: you can and should mention lube, condoms, contraception, etc, and you absolutely can and should have your characters discuss consent, what boundaries they have, how far/fast they are willing to go, etc. but you cannot write sex through beginning, middle, and end and expect to publish your work in the young adult category, even if you are a teenage writer.
on that note, authors of young adult fiction are 99% adults. characters in young adult fiction are in their teens. an adult should not be writing graphic sexual content between two minors. this is why sj/m made faerug 19 and alien 18 (now 19), and made her male characters all either in their 20s or centuries old. she is barely passing by bc she wrote her characters as adults and thus it is “acceptable” for her to write them having explicit sex. but, again, sj/m is the exception to the rule due to her status.
and as you pointed out that “fade out” and “erotica” aren’t the only levels of sex there are, i’ll break that down, too: erotica-level sex belongs in the erotica section of the bookstore. graphic sex belongs in the adult sections of the bookstore. fade to black sex belongs in the ya section of the bookstore. go to your local bookstore and take a look around, you’ll see the divisions.
and here comes the graphic part. i’ll stick it below a cut bc, wow, i can respect people who are not ready for sex being unwittingly thrown in their faces.