Aplatonic Safe Space

A safe blog for anyone who identifies as aplatonic or apl-spec to talk and vent about their experiences. Please read the pinned post before sending in an ask!

[aplatonicsafespace]

Howdy! Welcome to the blog.

Managing pages is difficult on mobile, so here I'll list some clickable tags that may be helpful for everyone's convenience.

Please be aware that older posts may contradict newer ones, particularly on contentious subjects such as queerness.

General tags

#art - aplatonic related artwork

#definition - asks and posts relating to the definition of aplatonic. I recommend looking here before sending in a question about the term.

#flags - all types of platonic attraction flags, with other types of attraction potentially mixed in due to the nature of masterposts

#icons - I occasionally make fictional character icons on request

#moodboards - aesthetic posts based on apl-spec flags

#posi - feeling down? have a look at some uplifting posts.

#terms - other platonic attraction terms either on the aplatonic spectrum or related to it

#userboxes - small boxes designed to be placed on a profile page

Ask tags

#chat - off-topic chat and/or nonsense :)

#feedback - community experiences

#help - users who request help or advice

#vent - users who wish to vent

[aplatonicsafespace]

I was gonna reply to that anon asking what platonic attraction feels like, but I'm sending it via an ask bc I'm feeling a bit shy 🙃

To me it's when a particular person's very presence makes me happy, and I want to bond with them specifically. Sometimes the feeling I get is very similar to how people describe crushes, but I don't really want anything other than being friends.

I hope this is helpful to someone!

Thank you!

[aplatonicsafespace]

hey! i’m allo (as far as i know lol) but i just wanted to say that your blog is really cool! i saw the term aplatonic and didn’t know what it meant, and was very lucky to find your blog and all of the info you have, so thank you! it’s always nice to see someone so dedicated to their community.

This is so sweet of you! Thank you :D

[aplatonicsafespace]

Okay, I'm freaking out a little bit. I'm definitely aroace. And today I realized I can be aplatonic. Maybe? I don't know, because I care about my friends, I really really like them, and to this day I was sure I love them in platonic way, but now... I'm not so sure. Because after all this nice feelings I feel emptiness? Can I be cupio aplatonic? Or maybe I have bad day, but why, why it feels also empty. I hate it.

Hi there,

I think sometimes it can be hard to tell the difference between a bad day and a lifetime experience. (Also, it has been a while since this ask was asked, so I apologize for that.) Even if you call yourself aplatonic now, and after the bad patch has passed you realize it was just that, it doesn't matter. All that matters is going with whatever feels comfortable in the moment, while allowing yourself room to change.

I hope this is mildly useful? Still, I wish you the best

[aplatonicsafespace]

Can I just briefly talk about the weird experience of fluctuating between aplatonic and hyperplatonic (I'd probably use the microlabel grey? Maybe also abro.) and being a system as well?

Like I'm also demigrey aroace, so it's not like I'm not used to fluctuations in attraction. But the one day going 'I am so full of platonic/queerplatonic love for this person I feel like I might burst' and the next being like 'I am aware that we are friends and want to continue being friends but have no platonic feelings currently' can still be a bit of a whiplash. There's shades of grey too but I struggle with those in general. And then the added component of 'are these actually my feelings? Or another headmate's?'

That being said, finding the label was an enormous relief. Just like my other aspec labels, it made me no longer feel broken or like I was a bad person for the 'low to zero attraction' times. If I'm being honest, it's one of my favorite labels in my label hoard. It's - I don't ever have to feel platonic attraction! If I do that's fine, I enjoy it when I do, but I also am happy now when I don't! That's just the vastness of the human experience, babeyyyy!

Anyway thank you for your blog. I feel like I've mostly managed to unlearn... is there a word for like internalized allonormativity/amatonormativity but for apl identities? But I didn't realize how desperately I needed a blog just purely about positivity until now. I hope you have an awesome day/night! :D

Apologies for the late response, anon

You may, thank you for your input! You are welcome, I'm glad that this blog has helped, despite the irregularity of my online-ness. I'm not sure if there is such a term for aplatonic-phobia, perhaps internal aplphobia? Honestly, the way language has evolved even since 2017 since I started this blog, leaves me quite blank sometimes!

Thank you very much for your message, I hope you are also having a good day/night :)

[vesicelestial]

✧ avoidplatonic ✧

Avoidplatonic is an aplspec term for one who is aplatonic or aplspec due to having AVPD. The user may have some level of platonic attraction, fluctuating platonic attraction or none at all.

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[aplatonicsafespace]

Hey, um. I have a question. It might be stupid.

can you be aplatonic and want a qpr? Because I know some aros want relationships, but it might be different.

I’m asking because I think I might be aplatonic but I want a qpr.

thanks in advance! :)

Yes that's possible! Attraction is slightly different to the desire for a relationship. Besides, you said you feel this way therefore it is possible :)

[lovesthecure]

You know, it's always been like. So what if being aplatonic is because of my NPD? What does that change about it? You learn to cope with NPD, but you cannot cure it. That's there forever now. So what, am I just supposed to force myself through the motions of platonic shit? Am I meant to force myself to make friends I don't care about, talk to people I could give less about, and I'm just meant to be okay with that?

I don't care why someone is ace, aro, or aplatonic. I don't care how long it lasts. I don't care if they find out they aren't later. I don't care if they always are that way. For as long as they identify, that's their reality. You have no right to tell them otherwise.

[aplatonicsafespace]

@entropy-sea-system

This isn't supposed to be hostile, but I truly think someone describing their own feelings doesn't have to be inclusive. That's how you feel and that's fine, but anon can feel their way about it too.

[aplatonicsafespace]

I just have a random question?

Can some aplatonic people essentially “skip” platonic attraction and only feel romantic? Idk how else to describe this.

This makes perfect sense actually, yeah!

[neopronouns]

everique | lunarian aegosexual | angelgender prettyboygender | princessboy aplatonic 1 | aplatonic 2

‘pride is for me’ edits for @shadowstarlightwitch and anons! requests for these are open!

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[aroreanimator]

aplatonic people. have an epic day

[pressedflorals483729]

drawing aspec mikus is like my thing so here’s an aplatonic platonic

less eyestrain version under the cut !!

Keep reading

[anaroacephysicist]

Happy aplatonic visibility day!!!

Is this the only day you can see me? I don't know!!

[positivelgbtqvibes]

I'm thinking of starting an Aplatonic Day Of Visibility, I don't exactly know how to plan something like this, but tomorrow on May 4th, I'll be making a post that I'll want everyone on the Aplatonic Spectrum to reblog with a pic of themselves or their flag! All kinds of apls are welcome to do it!

[quiet-the-alloaro]

Aquaplatonic

Aquaplatonic - Not feeling queerplatonic attraction or not wanting a queerplatonic relationship

A long time ago I had the idea of shortening “aqueerplatonic” to “aquaplatonic” since aqueerplatonic was kind of a mouth full, so here’s a flag for it! (yes, it’s completely necessary that I include some form of pink in every flag I make, it’s the law /j)

[aplatonicsafespace]

thank u for ur entire blog being like a massive aplphobic blocklist

Oh no problem haha