”Why I Love my Working Wife”
I remember the look that fell onto my wife’s face, when we saw on the ultrasound that we would be welcoming two bundles of joy into our family, not just one. The look she had was one of excitement, surprise, fear and joy all at once.
My face shared similar sentiments, but there wasn’t a mirror, so I can not be 100% sure - for all I know I looked like I had just stepped on a nail.
As we have been preparing for our twins to arrive (in December) for the past few months, we have been entertaining the same questions over and over: “How are you going to do it? Is your wife going to quit her job?”
When my wife and I met in 2012, our goals were very aligned. We knew we wanted a family, and we were willing to work hard to provide them with a great life. Through a series of lucky circumstances and blessings from those surrounding our lives, we were finally ready to begin building out family, this year.
The one thing I knew I always loved most about my wife was her ability to embrace struggle and overcome. When she couldn’t find a job in the rotten economy following college, she decided to go back to school and educate herself until the right opportunity came along. Luckily for us, that situation arose sooner rather than later. Through a few job title changes and years of hard work, she has grown into an employee that her company values.
So when people ask me, “Is your wife going to quit her job?” my answer is simple - “No.”
This answer is usually followed up by “How are you going to do it?”
This is where the job is placed upon my shoulders. Raising a family is not soley the wife’s job, any longer. Raising a family takes compromise, it takes patience, and it take support. My job, as a loving husband, is to embrace my wife’s success and support her in any way possible.
While my wife is at work, being the superstar leader she has become, I will be focusing on making the right decisions for our children. While my wife is with the kids and I am at work, it will be her role to mentor and guide our twins towards success.
See, I don’t feel as if my wife working will be a detriment to our family. As we welcome both a boy and a girl into our lives is it as important a time as ever to show both children what strong, powerful women, and men, do to be successful. The role model that my wife will be for a children will be one of love, one of power, but overall, one of discipline and hard work. While I originally felt it best for our children to have a full time stay at home parent, I have come to embrace and cherish the notion that my wife is willing to sacrifice her time away from the children and the home to ensure financial safety and success for our family.
For everything she is, and everything she does, I will always cherish and love my working wife.