attraction? in my me? @aroace-flux - Tumblr Blog

I never heard of the flux term before, but it describes me so well, and your blog is amazing, you put things into words that I've thought about but couldn't get out myself, so thank you

I'm glad to know that my writing actually describes something well enough for other people to relate and understand! 🤗

#anonymous #answered #even though i haven't been writing recently because of uni really ramping up #sorry about that

i still love my partner when going through these periods, but the best I can explain it is feeling as though i wish to simply have a strong platonic relationship with them at this time (like best of friends), although I anticipate from past experiences that sooner or later this will fade and I will once again desire our relationship to involve romance. (2/3)

these periods have distressed me greatly and made me question if ive been simply faking my romantic love for my partner, although discovering this term gives me hope that maybe im not broken after all. I would appreciate any advice you have on this matter, and apologize for any incoherency in these messages. (3/3)

Tumblr ate the first version of my response, darn. That being said, sorry for the late response, real life(tm) got me again :/

Technically, you’d be (insert sexual/romantic orientation)flux if you’re mostly allo and then flux into aro, if you care about the semantics. Either way, there isn’t a hard rule on how much allo/aro you have to be to be aro flux, and you’d still be grey-aro if you choose to ID that way, so welcome to the flux community! If you genuinely loved your partner romantically during those periods when you were allo, then those periods were genuine. Even if you don’t feel romantically towards them now, that doesn’t discount your feelings before. A good way to measure if it’s genuine is if it felt forced, and since you still love your partner when you’re going through those periods then that’s still romantic love! You’re certainly not broken or alone, that’s just how you feel, and there’s a lot of us out there in a similar situation. I wish I had the first message in case there was more to it but I hope I answered this part in a satisfactory way. I hope you and your partner continue to have a lovely relationship!

#answered #anonymous #aroflux

gingermaple

Can you do a pride kitty with identities like aroflux and aceflux... Thanks

Here you go!!Hope I got them right!

Both added to the 3rd Kitter Masterpost.All Kitter and Pubby Masterposts can be found here (x)

#aroflux #aceflux #cats

Me waking up completely Allo: (insert sexual orientation here) the entire time

Me a few hours later being aspec: huh maybe I was right, maybe I was just aro/ace all along!

Me a few hours later: haha what a weird phase, maybe I was jus

#aroflux #aceflux #just grey-a things #meme

Me: *fluxes into being alloromantic/sexual*

Sudden intense romance and sex repulsion:

#aroflux #aceflux #first poat coming back is a crappy meme? yes #meme #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #if only it was that cute tho

aroace-flux

On one hand I want more people to know what being -flux means, so I don't have to pull out the ye olde dictionary every .3 seconds, but on the other hand I don't want to put up with the bullshit that the demisexual/romantics got when they became slightly more known. You know, constantly getting shat on by people who have 0 reading comprehension. I guess I won't have to worry about that though, because even our own communities forget that we exist 🙃

notanandalitebandit

Hey, OP, are there any ways other arospec people can support aroflux pals?

aroace-flux

Just mentioning us in pride posts, or having a general shout-out to grey-aros is enough for now, because we're always seen as those "cringy mogais" and as an attempt to please the exclusionists we're often thrown under the bus for being too "out there." I've seen it happen to basically every grey-aspec identity and just standing by us is enough.

Also, whenever you can, boost aroflux voices. Like what you just did. And thank you for that, by the way.

#aroflux #aroflux ally #fav #add more if you guys would like

On one hand I want more people to know what being -flux means, so I don't have to pull out the ye olde dictionary every .3 seconds, but on the other hand I don't want to put up with the bullshit that the demisexual/romantics got when they became slightly more known. You know, constantly getting shat on by people who have 0 reading comprehension. I guess I won't have to worry about that though, because even our own communities forget that we exist 🙃

#salty rant #aroflux #aceflux #sad human hours

all i wanna say is i love your blog title so much "attraction? in my me?" i love it so much

<3 tbh i’m a memer at heart

#anonymous #answered #Anonymous

Hey, lately I've been realizing that usually while I'm bi, my romantic feelings sometimes just plummet. I've been thinking thinking of using abroromantic. I feel like an awful romantic partner to my partners when the light of romantic attraction flickers but it's hard to make it not... Flux I guess? My romantic attraction fades, then goes back to biromantic in some kind of cycle. Sometimes fast, sometimes slow. Could I be abro or is this just how stuff works?

So, if I understand this correctly: you’re usually biromantic but sometimes flux into aromantic. Abroromantic covers orientations that tend to have cycles, so you can absolutely use abroromantic! Flux wise, if you think that your biromantic and aromantic states are more unbalanced and tend to happen rapidly, then flux could work. Though aroflux tends to refer to going from aro->alloro, so maybe biroflux? But I don’t want to get too much into semantics. It’s not your fault that sometimes your attraction just kind of fades and comes back, honestly I think that if you’re comfortable of telling your partners about how you feel and as long as the relationship is still positive when you’re not romantically attracted to them, it shouldn’t be much of a big deal, but that’s just me. I’ve always seen romance as a performance and that you can still perform even when you’re not attracted, and if that’s also somewhat in your line of thinking then you can just keep doing what you do before the change occurs.Hope this somewhat helped!

#aroflux #biroflux #aromantic #abroromantic #Anonymous

yourlocaldisabledgay

what’s it like to be aroflux? I’m questioning and I think it could possibly fit??

Hello!!

Being aroflux is different for everyone, because we’re all unique people, but there’s two accepted definitions as of right now

Definition 1: Someone’s romantic orientation can fluctuate between identities on the aro spectrum (demi one day, next aro, then lithro, etc)

Definition 2: Someone’s romantic orientation changes in intensity. One day you can feel 50% of an allo persons typical attraction, the next it’s 98%, then no attraction, etc.

Personally, I fit both categories

For me, I can tell when I like someone, but sometimes the feelings aren’t extremely clear cut, because my feelings change with whatever kind of attraction I’m able to feel.

When I have a crush or squish and I’m able to feel a lot or very little romantic attraction, it’s really obvious to me, but if I’m more towards the grayromantic or 30-60% range it’s a little harder to tell, since I’m also ace, which may or may not be your case.

~💚

#aroflux

aroace-flux

cw: kinda internalized aphobia here I’ve been out as ace for almost 5 years now but I’m starting to think I’m aro or aro-flux too. I love romance in concept and I’ve always wanted to fall in love and raise children with a spouse. But anyone I’ve ever wanted to date has been a close friend (maybe more of a QPP than romantic relationship). Can I have a have a fulfilling marriage one day if I’m aro? How do I embrace an identity that hinders the future I imagined?

Aromantic just means exactly what it means: no/very little romantic attraction. It doesn’t define behavior or your future, it just affects the way you feel about other people. If anything, how okay you are with romance in real life is what’ll affect behavior. So if you’re often romance repulsed or neutral it might be difficult to even want a relationship, but in your case since you don’t seem to dislike the idea you could have a romantic relationship and not be unconfortable

aroace-flux

Wow, I need to pay attention to the post settings and who I'm posting on ⊙﹏⊙. Anyways, if you want romance, go for it. It's a little different from platonic and queerplatonic in that it seems more physical (in my case), so do things that are, to you, romantic! For me, that would be things like kissing and cuddling (I don't like cuddling with people personally) but anything romantic coded to you is what makes it romantic. No attraction required! Have kids, be sappy, tax benefits, all the stuff that comes with marriage-doable. Embrace your aro-ness.

#internalized aphobia #answered

cw: kinda internalized aphobia here I’ve been out as ace for almost 5 years now but I’m starting to think I’m aro or aro-flux too. I love romance in concept and I’ve always wanted to fall in love and raise children with a spouse. But anyone I’ve ever wanted to date has been a close friend (maybe more of a QPP than romantic relationship). Can I have a have a fulfilling marriage one day if I’m aro? How do I embrace an identity that hinders the future I imagined?

Aromantic just means exactly what it means: no/very little romantic attraction. It doesn't define behavior or your future, it just affects the way you feel about other people. If anything, how okay you are with romance in real life is what'll affect behavior. So if you're often romance repulsed or neutral it might be difficult to even want a relationship, but in your case since you don't seem to dislike the idea you could have a romantic relationship and not be unconfortable

lgbt-aesthetics

Polyamory Aceflux + Art & Dance Aesthetic ~Requested by @hunterftm2016~

#polyamory #aceflux

pissedoffaroallo

I was feeling the aroflux in me screaming for some moodboards to be made so I made a few. Also every now and then I get re-bitter about the fact that my family did not let me pick what I’d wear to prom my junior and senior years and did not let me go stag like I wanted to both years, so they’re kinda promy lol

Red/Pink Watermelon Aroflux Bi Prom (with dates and solo)

Red/Pink/Yellow Aroflux AFAB Nonbinary/GNC/Agender/Trans/Genderqueer/other Prom (just happens to be solo peeps cuz finding feminine suits/outfits that I liked for nb women was kinda hard; I didn’t want to use non models cuz those are people’s personal pics)

Cacti Aroflux Bi Prom (with dates and solo; yall, I love me some flowering cacti)

Yellow (!!!) Watermelon Aroflux Bi Prom (with dates and solo; I know aroflux is the red/green gradient, but hear me out; yellow is a great aro color *AND* yellow watermelon is delicious)

All these images were pulled from Pinterest. Feel free to reblog.

#aroflux #moodboard #pretty!!