#sex repulsed

[apothicary]

I also never really got the "fuck you", "fuck me", "go fuck yourself", etc brand of cusses. Like yes I get they're not meant to be taken literally but… for the typical allosexual isn't "getting fucked" a good thing? I've always been shocked that it's so rare for someone to jokingly fire back a flirt ("you wish" or similar)—in reality but especially in fiction where quips are so common.

[sex-repulsed-culture-is]

sex repulsed culture is having to see people use the "aces can still have sex" and "stop enforcing shipping rules" to ship/sexualize aroace/ace characters. like yeah, aros can still date and aces can still have sex, but it's just a bit disappointing seeing people use that argument (which I assume was used originally to include real life aros and aces who do those things, which is awesome!) to put characters you can relate to in scenarios that make you uncomfortable. I don't necessarily think it's wrong to do that sort of thing but it just upsets me whenever I come across it and I needed to talk about it

-Mod Scott

[apothicary]

Tangently related to this post, but I did an opposite thing where I knew just how common sex jokes were and so kind of just… automatically assumed that anything I said could potentially be taken as one. As a sort of preemptive bracing for it, in case someone did twist my innocent words for a cheap joke.

Once you hear a couple of dumb sex jokes you very easily figure out the pattern to them and so I kind of ended up with a sort of "dirty mind" as a result because I was purposely reading into everything just to stay ahead of the curve (I'm a pretty oblivious person overall so I very much overcompensated in this regard when I realized I was sex repulsed)

I like to think that I'd be great at making sex jokes, if I was so inclined to do so

[sex-repulsed-culture-is]

s** repulsed culture is being hyper aware of how people online are prone to making nsfw jokes when certain words are used even in an innocent context so you specifically format your message to avoid those words… and then immediately getting hit with a different nsfw joke because of a different part of your message you didn’t even consider😭

(like seriously, I always think I’m overthinking and my anxiety is messing with me and I don’t actually need to be so careful and then something like this happens when I was already being careful… am I supposed to never talk on the internet again?🫥)

-Mod Scott

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

I hate the “asexual who passes out water bottles at the orgy” thing. There is so much aphobia in that statement to me. Because to me it reads as “asexuals are cool and valid ONLY because they don’t make a fuss and stay quiet.” Our lack of attraction doesn’t mean we have nothing to say or experience no oppression or prejudice. People don’t realize aphobia is happening because it’s so covert. It’s so baked into society that we are all sexual beings who must behave certain ways.

It is ok for asexuals to want NOTHING to do with sex. To hear nothing about others sex lives. To skip through sex scenes. Not listen to explicit songs. It is OK to NOT pass out water bottles at the orgy.

[rabbitheatedgrrrl]

Being sex repulsed and having sexual intrusive thoughts with OCD is a hellish combo.

[princessbunnyzelda]

how the hell is s3x like a normal & accepted thing??? from lil bits of info i unfortunatly come across it sounds like... abuse? like torture? like a horrible way to die? why is that somthing u sickos want?? /nbh

[acespaceemzgalaxy]

knowing I don’t got the right to make such demands but also knowing that my feelings are valid like

some info for context: I am aceflux and mostly repulsed

the local aspec community is so small 🤏 and even the number of aspec people I saw at pride that aren’t even from my country was also rather small

it’s one of the biggest cities in my country and one of the biggest pride events with people even traveling from other countries to attend

however we still attended pride as a group

and walked as a little international community

but oh boy

I saw so much stuff I clearly didn’t wanna see like

so many body parts

not even genitalia (thank goodness)

but

well

I saw dick pic pins

anyways

I didn’t sign up for so much ass, dick prints and boobs almost spilling out

I saw so many revealing/kinky outfits like

I mean I knew that it’s gonna happen and be there in my view but I didn’t think

A) it would be so much

B) that I didn’t even have the opportunity to look away like what I mean is that it’s permanently in my view and I can’t look anywhere without the possibility of getting jumpscared, yk I can handle seeing that stuff on a screen because a) I can look away/pause it anytime and b) it doesn’t feel as close and “invasive” bc it is on a screen and this kinda acts as a barrier

I feel lowkey traumatized

and that’s not me hating on these people in their outfits

that’s not my intention

I just need to vent about this terrifying experience now

and I thought like

what about a family zone?

1. I don’t wanna hang out with kids

2. they didn’t have that

an official zone for repulsed aces and other people who don’t wanna engage in that stuff?

1. they didn’t have that either

2. how do you ensure there’s no contact between this zone and other groups during the march (groups naturally mix bc of the different walking speed)?

3. where do you draw the line? what is modest enough? what is too revealing? what is too kinky? what if an ace wants to dress revealing?

I was wearing shorts and a slightly cropped top. I saw another ace woman wearing a dress that basically consisted of two stripes of fabric being held together by a string and faith. Most of the ace dudes wore a t-shirt and full length jeans. I was dressed more modest than that woman but I was dressed more revealingly than those guys.

Where do you draw the line?

these are questions that logically and morally cannot be answered

you could setup a safe “ace” (and for other people who don’t feel comfortable) zone in theory.

but in real life you can’t (bc of said problems I just explained). that’s why I won’t even poke the organizers about it

and that’s why I decided to not attend any pride parades anymore