A place to talk about, learn about and hear about the Aroace spec community! Please ask or tell us anything!! MOD LIST Jamie uses any pronouns, but is masc leaning! They are Aegosexual/Romance-repulsed Aromantic! Noah Oats uses they/them pronouns and is aroace! Ray goes by any pronouns and cupioromantic and aegosexual! Fizz is agender, preferring to use they/them, and are a proud aegoaroace! Remember it's your box!!!
We’re here for all your Questions, Rants, Vents, and Confessions!
Ask box is always open and we’re always here for your asks!
We are here to educate, explain and help with anyone who needs it!
Stay safe, remember you are valid and it's your box!
LOVE U ALL YOU'RE VALID
Commonly asked questions!
Link to my Aro-spec post
Link to a post containing most Ace Spec identities
Asexual Wiki, Aromantic Wiki,
the Asexual Visibility and Education Network -Asexual resource
AUREA — the Aromantic-spectrum Union for Recognition, Education, and Advocacy
List of Aroace Spectrum resources
Amazing post by @styrofauxm "So...you're questioning if you are aromantic and/or asexual..."
The comments section link to a helpful article on how to educate/beat the acephobes
Meet the Mod team:
I’m Jay, I also go by Jamie! I’m gender queer and use any pronouns, but I sometimes swap to preferred pronouns, don’t be afraid to ask! I’m aegosexual-pansexual and a romance repulsed aromantic! I am neurotypical and the OG owner of this blog!
Hey people, my names Noah (or you can call me Nicola as that is a name I also go by :D) and I use they/them pronouns :) I have a long list of labels because I'm a complicated human being lol. I'm non-binary/genderqueer, lesbian/sapphic oriented aroace (I use both labels), with a handful of microlabels (greyromantic, aceflux, apothisexual and aegosexual). I have diagnosed ADHD, and I'm an INFP B)
My name is Ray! I go by any pronouns, and I’m an Agender Cogirl. I am cupioromantic and aegosexual (and many other things, just ask if you want to know!). I also have diagnosed autism, and I’m an ISFP.
Hiiiiii!!! I'm the new mod :3 I’m Fizzamess, you can call me Fizz. I’m agender and prefer using the pronouns “they/them” but I don't get mad if you call me any other pronoun. I’m a proud aegoaroace (aegoromantic and aegosexual) and I'm also caedsexual. I have OCD, lol
This user acknowledges that the land they stand on always was and always will be Aboriginal land. Sovereignty has never been ceded. This user recognises the past atrocities against Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples of this land and that Australia was founded on the genocide and dispossession of First Nations people.)
The Blogs
Thank you to @knowable-entity for drawing (most) of our profile pics!!
Banner art by @pride-flag-planets, thank you for letting us use it!
The forces:
A collection of multi member blogs dedicated to one country of aspecs… all against Denmark
Proship is anti harassment, ship and let ship, don't like don't read don't interact, proship =/= incest, it means "i don't ship it but its fine if you ship it" its the original "don't yuck someones yum" (though im not sure of the timeline of those two sayings). I am proship; go wild and free.
Queer rights are not my top priority, ill help ofc, vote in favour of rights, march if needed, run this blog etc, but I'm not organising anything personally. my top priorities are women's rights and climate action.
Pro choice, if that wasn't fucking obvious. Until a baby is born I don't honestly care, if a pregnant person doesn't want it, it should be removed like a parasite. fairs fair. Breathing is the start of life not for religious reasons but for "fuck you thats why" reasons.
You don't have to be nice to be kind.
Just bc you don't understand it, doesn't mean it doesn't exist or isn't valid. I, and you, don't speak many languages, doesn't mean they're not spoken.
Burn tiktok to the ground.
final gun shot:
Sometimes US americans need to shut the fuck up. Even the 'left wing' ones. USA left wing is australias centre right, so yeah, you don't know what the fuck is going on. Not everything is about you and I'm fucking sick of every situation, not matter what, being turned into a USA-issue. Australia bushfires? well actuall USA has fires! GLOBAL climate change? well USamerica is leading (its not its reallyreally not) the way in climate action! Like a sport? actually USamerica has a it better/more popular/more interesting/had it first!
just shut the fuck up.
anyway thats my gun shots, clear out!
edit: one more bc I love u
RPF needs to be done in private. I know, were human, we've ALWAYS done this. but its done in such a way that is just creepy and gross now that the internet exists. Speculate privately in group chats or private areas, discord for instance. Block the people youre shipping ffs, don't tag them, don't speculate in a gross-creepy way, don't try and get them to address it, don't approach them in public. KEEP IT PRIVATE AND AWAY from them. PLEASE.
look, shipping canon!aroace characters, as much as it pains me to say, is not wrong. I do hate it and will block you, but no personal hatred or harassment here.
The issue comes when people try and claim theyre NOT canonically aroace. Its fine to be like "This character is aroace but im making them X for this fic". Weird but fine. It is not okay to say "actually character is not aroace theyre actually X canonically idc about the source material". The second one is erasure, plain and simple.
Most important to address is the hypocrisies. IF YOU WOULDN'T DO IT TO GAY OR LESBIAN CHARACTER WHY ARE YOU DOING IT TO AN AROACE?
That needs to be addressed; do you value aroace people less? do you see our identity as less worthy of respect or acknowledgement? is there a reason you would change a canonical idenitiy when its an aromantic or asexual idenity, but you would loose it if someone shipped your favourite yaoi with a woman or yuri with a man?
If you're okay with shipping a canon!aroace character with another character, but lose your shit, if I, for instance, ship Shane Hollander with a woman?
Why is that any different? Both are identities acknowledged in the media are canon, and they show no attraction/attraction to women, so why is me shipping Shane with a woman "so bad and gross" but shipping an aroace character is "normal and fine"?
Is it maybe because you value these identities differently?
Something to consider, that's all.
If you don't care about shipping canon gay men with women, this post is not for you. Its for those who scream about shipping a gay man with a woman saying its "erasure and gross" but turn around and turn a canon!aroace straight/gay/bisexual and say "but this is fine to do".
look, shipping canon!aroace characters, as much as it pains me to say, is not wrong. I do hate it and will block you, but no personal hatred or harassment here.
The issue comes when people try and claim theyre NOT canonically aroace. Its fine to be like "This character is aroace but im making them X for this fic". Weird but fine. It is not okay to say "actually character is not aroace theyre actually X canonically idc about the source material". The second one is erasure, plain and simple.
Most important to address is the hypocrisies. IF YOU WOULDN'T DO IT TO GAY OR LESBIAN CHARACTER WHY ARE YOU DOING IT TO AN AROACE?
That needs to be addressed; do you value aroace people less? do you see our identity as less worthy of respect or acknowledgement? is there a reason you would change a canonical idenitiy when its an aromantic or asexual idenity, but you would loose it if someone shipped your favourite yaoi with a woman or yuri with a man?
look, shipping canon!aroace characters, as much as it pains me to say, is not wrong. I do hate it and will block you, but no personal hatred or harassment here.
The issue comes when people try and claim theyre NOT canonically aroace. Its fine to be like "This character is aroace but im making them X for this fic". Weird but fine. It is not okay to say "actually character is not aroace theyre actually X canonically idc about the source material". The second one is erasure, plain and simple.
Most important to address is the hypocrisies. IF YOU WOULDN'T DO IT TO GAY OR LESBIAN CHARACTER WHY ARE YOU DOING IT TO AN AROACE?
That needs to be addressed; do you value aroace people less? do you see our identity as less worthy of respect or acknowledgement? is there a reason you would change a canonical idenitiy when its an aromantic or asexual idenity, but you would loose it if someone shipped your favourite yaoi with a woman or yuri with a man?
Asking for touch as an aspec is so weird like “hey, please touch me, but not in a sex/romance way, just in a human contact way. Interact with my body’s touchscreens. Punch me in the face or something. Please. I’ll take anything at this point.”
Edit: of course everyone here has blanket permission to tag this as Blorbo from their Shows. We love seeing representation, implicit or explicit.
Nebularomantic is a romantic orientation on the aromantic spectrum. Much like platoniromantic, those who are nebularomantic are unable to distinguish the difference between romantic and platonic attraction. But in the case of nebularomantic individuals, that is due to one's status as neurodivergent. (source)
Pretty flag!
this is one I don't understand but respect lol! You guys are always valid, regardless of understanding, I don't understand french, doesn't mean it isn't spoken <3
AROMANTIC HEART!! glad they updated it to now change with the tags! Also an asexual one, but its randomised if both are tagged and I only got it once (and i missed the screenshot)
previously, the bipoc pride flag would appear only on pride month tagged posts (less then 3 hours tho and then they snapped and updated it... GOOD. you didn't even have the trans or intersex flags included.... but they now have a separate animation for both of those!!)
TUMBLR ISTG. It is pride month, get your head out of your asses for ONCE please
Like did they mess with the progressive pride flag here?? Is this another flag?? Where is my blue/pink/white?
Edit: I knew this was a bipoc flag wasn’t sure which so didn’t label it as anything, by “is this another flag” I meant does this flag include the trans community and I just don’t understand/know this one?
edit 2: they changed it yesterday and i didnt get a chance to edit this but now it goes by most tagged/top tag of the post! aromantic, intersex, trans, asexual, lesbian, bisexual and many more all pop up now!! Good job on the correction tumblr!
edit 2 cont.: (For the record; on this post originally, although its tagged trans, no trans flag would appear only the above flag. Same with all other pride posts. they quickly updated it so that just pride tagged posts would show the bipoc followed by an intersex/trans flag now! not just the bipoc!)
edit 3 FINAL EDIT: pissing on the Poor website read this edit if you're not going to read any ffs:
Originally it was only the flag in the clip above on mobile and PC no matter what you liked, they updated after like 24/48 hours. PC AND MOBILE.
Mobile is NOW updated to have the above followed by the intersex/trans flags and PC now can do randomised based on tags. THIS IS POST UPDATE after 24/48 hours. Jesus fucking christ.
If i get one more ask calling me an idiot for "not reliking it" im going to scream! I do, in the video actually? Did you bloody see? I did it twice, I filmed it on mobile bc I can't screen record easily on my PC but it was the same no matter what I liked in that time frame.
