Could you please continue your lilith series with lilith in the 4th house? Your blog is really good, all your observations for my placements and were 100% correct 🎉
Ofcourse I'd be more than happy to help you out<3 It has been a while since I did a Lilith in the houses culture post hehe 🌞
For my full Lilith in the houses series, click here
TW: mention of s*lf harm and trauma.
The 4H - ruled by the Moon(Cancer) talks a lot about the same sex parent, reflects the home setting, family life and ultimately, the womb.
The 4H is the foundation of our personality operations, since without a place to stand emotionally, the personality does not function properly.
Lilith, having air as her element, combining with her fiery approach, is not as joyful here as she would be in other houses. The 4H, with waterty and maternal influences from Cancer, makes Lilith uncomfortable to a degree here as the house forces Lilith to look back to her origin, to recall the beginning of time.
In fact, many astrologers argued that having Lilith in the 4H is one of the hardest houses Lilith can be in. Personally I believe that trials and errors make a willful person, as long as 4H Lilith natives learn how to work with their darker sides, there shouldn't be any issues at all🖤
Lilith here will talks to you about trauma and repression relating to your ancestors and your capacity to dig into the past to uncover the origins of your being.
The natives mother/mother figure or parental figure in general could have been very much of a Lilith. She'd rather indulge in sex, lust, parties, alcohol or drugs or any additive patterns of behaviour rather than providing the native a stable home.
^ or 4H Lilith could have felt that this was the environment they grew up in. Their root or origin are not necessarily ideal, they grew up feeling alone and constrained yet also felt unseen and invisible.
4H Lilith usually don't like talking about their family, they consider it as a very sensitive topic for them and they keep a lot of painful memories about their childhood home to themselves.
These individuals felt that their childhood was ripped away. They had no choice but to grow up. They may have also become very numb in general, if badly aspected, this can even indicate self-harm tendencies and a hopeless search for their true "home" out in the world and in people.
Like I've said, traumatic experiences create the most vulnerable yet also create the strongest people. These native can be surprisingly business-oriented or very focus on their career, very much like the 10H Lilith, they use material as a way to fill the empty hole inside them.
I'm not going to lie. Harsh aspects can indicate extremely complicated relationship with parental figures. Would go even as far as indicating abusive patterns. Harder ones can suggest that the natives witnessed one of their parents in the act of abuse or they could have experienced it first hand.
They fall for either the fearless type of people, ones thats strong enough to protect them OR they'd take on the role of the nurturer (the moon) and seek for ones who they deem as damaged because they sense the familiarity between. they'd rather heal others than their own wounds.
may work pretty young, they just needed some kind of an escape away from their family/childhood home.
this placements indicate wounds regarding one's origins, could have been adopted or raised by someone else who are not their birth parents. if this is true, the native have a deep need to understand where they come from yet they felt as if they were rejected since the beginning of time.
lost souls. they just need something or someone that they feel safe with. but due to their natural detached nature and spectacular social abilities, they attract all kind of people, but they'll put people through tests to see if they're worthy of their time.
the kind of people that will leave you before you could leave them. they fear abandonment and rejection to their core.
4H Lilith suggests loss of a family member, this contributes to their younger self during the development phase. Complex relationships with deaths. might even suggest an early birth or issues while during their mother's pregnancy.
Lilith 4H gives off very similar energy like Lilith 7H, but they're more fixated on the idea of the fallen angel who was left behind.
Issues with intimacy. Crave it but fear it. They're simply not used to it and if no one has yet teach them compassions and utmost loyalty they would not understand the concept well. Can become very generous with their partners in term of materials to "make up" for their lack of attention, air of detachment and carelessness.
Their partners are drawn to their authentic energy, these people go out to the world and show their more stable and harmonious aspects yet kept their chaotic, suppressive pain very deep down.
Issues showing their nurturing side if badly aspected, they may not be able to tap into their more maternal side if they have hard aspects.
Aloof. if there are no socialable aspects can have a harder time understanding deeper connections, feel as if it's hard to confide in people.
Power issues. Might get very annoyed when people try to go on a power trip to make a point. It's like kinda triggering for them some times.
Vague sense of belonging. Never rly feel "at home"(~very similar to 10H Lilith) but they also are more prone to moving constantly too. Might even want to emigrate to another country.
they really get scared of by intimacy. its like sometimes when people open up to them all of the sudden (somehow this happens often), they get freaked out with this new dynamic.
^ this probably happens because people can sense that they've been through a lot, as if nothing can surprise them anymore, hence they don't feel judged sharing their feelings with these 4H Lilith
sometimes they trust their instincts and randomly overshare their personal trauma and issues to a complete stranger. they enjoy being able to freely open up without any baggage.
Believe it or not, they have the ability to detach during sex. This can even be explained by the complexity of their early childhood. if their lilith square the native sun, they can strongly reject their assertive side and chose to be very secretive with their sex life.
Lilith is in a water house at the end of the day. These natives are naturally intuitive, but they can even go as far as finding the reasons behind others actions. They understand why people react the way they do.
Mysterious and moody sometimes. Sex with them feels as if you're embracing the moon, their energy is so lustful yet they seem so numb? It's like their will always be one side of them that you can't see, and the more that you try to figure them out without their permission, the more they pull away.
Lots and lots of emotional baggage, ones that you probably can't handle or imagine. Yet they carry this with them til the very end and it is this that made them stronger.
They are that type of people that may cut off every family member the second they turn legal. When younger it seems like they were always renewing themselves and finding a new, temporary home.
They act like they simply grow out of people. But in reality they never truly did. They just cut them off and put the memories away in a small safe, one that sometimes when they're alone, they will take these memories out and look at them.
Personally I think 4H natives need someone who they can show their more playful, childish and innocent side. The side in which they have buried so deep down that they forgot they once were, their partners have to be understanding of their polarizing nature and bad habits of retreating when problems surfaced. The child in them never left and they need someone to create enough stability and intimacy as well as trust so they can be vulnerable.
Plutonians/Mars dominant or Aries/Scorpio dominant people have this effect on them like no others. They may strongly dislike them or find themselves gravitate towards these individuals subconsciously.
They care about their reputation. So they'd work hard for it. Would also keep themselves busy all the time too!
Here are a few lines I drafted up for Lilith in 4H, I have a lot of friends with this placement as I'm a cancer sun with Lilith 7H haha, but while they experience a lot of hardships, I have to acknowledge how they're one of the most well-rounded people i know:) Lemme know if you have any more qs boo!
