Things I Wanted to Say But Never Did

A blog about letting go and saying the things that have been left unsaid

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To be freed from her unhappy past, the inadequately loved daughter must accept the possibility that there is something profoundly wrong with her relationship to her mother.

Victoria Secunda

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There’s a hellhole of anger that a lifetime will not erase from me. -From When You and Your Mother Can’t Be Friends by Victoria Secunda

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And people often assume it is an easy decision when it is anything but. 

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You brought the flames and you put me through hell I had to learn how to fight for myself And we both know all the truth I could tell I'll just say this is "I wish you farewell"

Kesha, Praying

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My mother was disgusted that I had my own opinions and my own friends, that I wanted anything but to bask in her shadow until we merged into a single entity. I was furious because... well, she was angry, isolated, and miserable, and I was terrified of becoming her.

Gabrielle Moss, Bustle

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No contact can hurt everyday but it is less painful than the alternative.

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All I ever prayed for every day

Was to resent my mother in a regular way.

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Sometimes I feel like I’m losing my mind.

[praying]

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But if I had just told her-" "That what? She would have loved you? "I don't know. Maybe things would have been different.

Kerry Kletter, The First Time She Drowned

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She has done the worst thing. She has made me doubt myself.

When You and Your Mother Can’t be Friends, Victoria Secunda

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The power of no contact is one of the greatest tools in your recovery arsenal. Don’t be afraid to use it.

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You have to kick people out of your head as forcefully as you'd kick someone out of your house if you didn't want them to be there.

Sophia Amoruso, #Girlboss

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My mother was all-in, always. So my only option was to be all-out.

https://www.bustle.com/p/what-no-one-tells-you-about-breaking-up-with-your-mother-8587968

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