Transmeds Are Good, Actually

Call me Avery. He/Him, dysphoric trans male. Anti-Mogai exclusionist. NB folks are valid, identifying as a dog is not. Header by librius.

[verilybitchie]

Them. cites the I am Pansexual livejournal community as their only source for the early pansexual community before 2010 (though they don’t link to it), and I think it’s worth checking out the early archives, because there’s a lot of, “I could fall in love or be sexually attracted to anyone whether they be male, female, TV/TS even a hermaphrodite”, and, “ Pansexuals love people of all genders, male and female, but unlike bisexuals, pansexuals love transgendered, androgynous and gender fluid people, people who don’t fit into the categories of male or female”. It’s very focused on attraction to transness, androgyny, and sometimes intersex people, all of whom it’s claimed no one else is capable of attraction to. It’s interesting to see how things have changed.

[cowardly-bisexual]

it’s a well documented fact that pansexuality was born from biphobia and trans fetishism

[averymed]

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[discourse-of-course]

Bisexual is the only valid mspec label. All of the other ones are just different flavors is bisexuality. Learn to get over your internalized biphobia if you identify as pan/omni/whatever else. 

[discourse-of-course]

Thanks for proving my point! You’re internalized biphobia is shining with these tags.

Bisexuals do not have to have a preference. Some do, some don’t. They are still all bisexual. The only thing that makes a bisexual person bisexual is having both same sex attraction and opposite sex attraction. Anything else doesn’t matter. Trying to push the idea that all bisexuals have to have a preference is incredibly biphobic.

Also, the fact you can’t even come up with a different definition for omni and pan is laughable. “They are similiar” Right you are! Wanna know why? Because they are all the same. You’re just biphobic.

Thanks for being a fool on my post, have a good one.

[jdnhshd]

I can't fucking stand trans assholes who belittle and piss on other trans people for being unhappy or insecure/just generally struggling with being trans. like seriously what the fuck is wrong with you?

" just stop being insecure and accept your transess blah blah blah cis standards blah blah" god go fuck yourself

[yiikstuck-deactivated20230104]

Cis men ansd Transmen cant b lesbians ur just heterosexual. You are literalyly heterosexual and thats okay. You dont have to be lesbophobic AND transphobic abt it. Lesboy is not a real thing i will kill u.

[missbaphomet]

Shit pansexuals say and what they don't realize they're saying:

"Hearts not parts!" > everyone else only cares about their partner's genitals, making me more virtuous

"Pansexual means I'm attracted to trans people too!" > no one else could ever love a trans person because they're a special Other category that you need to include instead of just being men and women

"I'm more comfortable with the term pansexual." > I don't give a shit about the history of the term pansexual and I am actively trying to erase bisexual history. I spout transphobic and biphobic bigotry disguised as "wokeness" and I don't even realize it, or if I do, I simply don't care. I value the warm, fuzzy feeling I get more than the history and goals of LGBT people and what they have fought for decades to accomplish.

"I don't see gender." > I am making an effort to ignore something that is pretty integral to a person's identity.

"I need to get to know someone before I have sex with them." > I think I am Unique and Special. I am more pure than those filthy, sex crazed bisexuals who will sleep with anyone. I am incapable of comprehending that most normal people desire emotional connection to a person they're sleeping with.

"I identify as pansexual." > I am no different from someone who is bisexual, except that I'm more special because my internalized biphobia makes me think bisexuals are icky.

"Let people identify however they want!" > I have not thought critically about the impact of this because I don't care about anything beyond my immediate surroundings.

"It's not hurting anyone." > I have likely read many accounts from people who have been hurt by my label, but I am choosing to ignore that because thinking critically about it makes me uncomfortable.

"Pan means all and bi means two." > I'm not clever enough to realize that there are only two kinds of attraction: homo (same as me) and hetero (different than me). I am also actively ignoring the meaning of the purple stripe on the bisexual flag.

[perfect-bi-paradise]

Not sorry, I don’t remember asexuals dying or being killed to make asexuality legal. If there’s one group that’s in anyway more coddled than the biphobic pannies, it’s the more often then not homophobic, biphobic, transphobic, and self entitled asexual community.

This quote is very important “We invited you to pride when it was a fight and you didn’t show up. Now that it’s a party, you want to come” since this defines asexual people so well and why they think they’re oppressed when we shun them. It’s not that we (well, most of us) think you guys are ‘broken’ or ‘wrong’ - even if that’s what you think when you assume you’re not being allowed to have pride in their identity. It’s just that it’s still a fight for survival and you don’t have anything to fight for while standing with our homophobic and transphobic oppressors ready to cast stones to shame actual LGBT people for having a sexual component to our sexuality and lives.

Not having sex doesn’t “make you UwU kweer” you’re not a “victim more than actual LGBT people” as we’re actually getting hate crimed, killed, and kicked out of housing to become homeless especially now in America as the Supreme Court is working overtime to strip myself and actual LGBT people of our rights to marriage, and outlaw loving the person that we love for being the same sex or gender.

Asexuals with you’re messed up need to feel “oppressed” doesn’t entitle you to our spaces, or resources. Yeah, I know aces are going to see this and cry “aphobia”, except it’s not “aphobia” to point out how if you’re not L, G, B, T you’re NOT part of the community, grow up.

[theonehitwonder]

What you seem to be forgetting is that we weren’t allowed when pride was a fight.

We were chased out of queer spaces and told we were just straights pretending for attention.

We didn’t show when pride was a fight because you drove us away.

[perfect-bi-paradise]

Hey look another cishet ace missing the point. The reason you were chased off was BECAUSE you are straight. Not having sex doesn’t make you LGBT or a q-slur. All aces have been doing over the last 15 years is appropriating the real oppression that actually happens to LGBT people. Because yes you ARE and have proven again and again that with the exception of very few individuals, the asexual community has been nothing but attention seeking on the backs of suffering LGBT people and our life or death issues.

Y'all didn’t give a shit about gay people when news of monkey pox hit. You made your feelings clear when y'all got online saying “not your problem” because “that’s a gay disease” or “good thing I’m ace and not a gay allosexual”. Yet your assessment changed your tune when you started to realize “it’s not a gay disease” and hurried to make appointments for shots and thought we’d just forget about what aces said and acted. NOPE! We remember and will continue to remember the asexual communities actions.

So how about instead of bitching about how you’d rather eat cake than have sex, you actually do something helpful and constructive like off… the top of my head… doing local fundraising for LGBT youth homelessness for Gay, Bi, and Trans youths that have been actually kicked out by their parents for their sexuality that involve same sex attractions or gender identity. You know… actions involving something other than online whiny bullshit y'all are pulling.

Until y'all ACTUALLY SINCERELY SHOW through your actions that you do support the LGBT, instead demonizing LGBT people for having a sexual component to our sexuality and crying about how LGBT people who are out here fighting for our lives and civil liberties every day aren’t coddling you’re oppression obsession at our community’s expense, then maybe we can talk. Not before. Grow up and get over yourselves. Parties over 🤡

[theonehitwonder]

First of all, I’m not a cishet ace. I’m aro and trans.

Second of all, name one way aces are hurting the community. I double dog dare you.

Third of all, I completely agree that the asexual community has a problem with sex negativity, but it’s something that is being worked on. Don’t take a few bad apples and say the whole community is bad because of them.

[perfect-bi-paradise]

Imagine thinking aromantic a.k.a ‘woke fuck boi with commitment issues’ is an LGBT-RELATED sexuality. If you don’t experience same sex or gender attractions then sexually you’re straight, even if you are transgender.

Name one example of how are asexuals hurting the community? You mean how asexuals have appropriated the term “corrective r*pe” from lesbians. A term invented by lesbians to describe the sexual abuse and assualt they’ve suffered from men trying to “correct them” for not being sexually attracted to them. But hey f*ck lesbians and a genuine issue for their community right? Asexuals need that term for themselves and not dirty lesbians because they’re gross for having sex but not with men right?

I also find it VERY telling that you read what I wrote about asexuals publically coming of the woodwork when news to demonize gay and yet practiced some typical inclus mental gymnastics to not link the sex negativity that is a common practice in the asexual community to blantant homophobia, because that what it is, homophobia.

Also I got receipts of asexual homophobia!

This is LITERAL bigotry and homophobia on display by asexuals and their shitty community on public display. Twitter, Facebook, TikTok, asexual forums are ALL FULL OF THIS HOMOPHOBIA! This is the same homophobic and biphobic behavior a lot of asexuals displayed during the AIDS crises in the 80’s and 90’s as well. I know this because I was alive for all that too! This is proof of asexuality and their homophobic and biphobic attitude directly harming the LGBT community and people like you expect us to just let it happen at the expense of the well being of LGBT people.

Asexuals haven’t gotten better at addressing their sex negativity and the fact it’s more often than not in relation to homophobia. What’s happened is people like you are just willing to down play this bigoted behavior as “a few bad apples” and “not all asexuals”. That is bad faith on your part. It shows your willingness to look the other way and inappropriately try to demonize LGBT people who dare speak up because of bullshit toxic inclusivity. Fuck you for trying to minimize this bigotry you 🤡

[andthentheywilleatthestars]

Absolutely wild that “being GNC is fine and normal for anyone” is controversial in places that aren’t, like, far right wing churches and incel conventions. How does it feel to be less progressive than a movie from the 90s about a girl who likes sports?

[overlyactivepingpongball]

Welcome to the funniest set of memes I’ve ever seen thank you

[bathbombbaby-deactivated2022062]

ALSO if u think TERFs bigotry ONLY affects transwomen: you hate transmen. Period. Full Stop.

Like yeah, keep on denying TERFS view us as delusional girls with nothing but internalized sexism. Keep denying that TERFs have groomed so many transmen into calling themselves “Dysphoric females.” Keep denying the fact transmen are still victimized even if transwomen are the main target.

Remember kids. Just cause an issue affects someone else more, doesn’t mean it doesn’t fucking affect other people!

[bathbombbaby-deactivated2022062]

To ignore and deny the opression and discrimination we face is not caring. Not caring about the discrimination and opression we face is cruel, unloving, and not a trans friendly attitude. Literally just SAY you hate transmen. Just say it.

[draganishere]

Omg I actually never thought I’d agree with a transmed! We need to support our trans bothers, sisters, and siblings!

[averymed]

Absolutely -- regardless as to whether I agree with people on mogai stuff, the truth is that (most) tucutes and (most) transmeds are genuinely trying to help the other side.  TERFs are just malicious, and it’s seriously something that the trans community should be banding together against.

[averymed]

Maybe pan means like, wanting to date people with DID because "attracted to personalities"?

...This joke was funnier in my head. Sorry if it didn't make sense, English isn't my first language. Love your blog, have a good day.

One of my partners claims that they're pansexual because they'd "get it on with a pile of sentient goo if the goo was into it". Aside from that they agree that it's just an unnecessary, fancy word for bi.

[equiship-deactivated20220724]

Just saw n image that was the gay man flag and lesbian flag with the caption “They’re dating” which is obvi a joke to me at least, then I saw a comment saying “WELL ITS TECHNICALLY POSSIBLE CAUSE NB MLM AND NB WLW C-” like shut the fuck up shut up you ae homophobic lsbophobic and nbphobic all wrapped up in one ugly little bow!!! NB ppl aren’t men or women, Gay men are men (CIS AND TRANS) and Lesbians are women (CIS AND TRANS)

this post was brought to you by transman ANGRY TIRED of transphobia homophobia lesbophobia nbphobia and biphobia that wasnt even mentioned there DANNY…..SEETHING……..

[kal-skyte]

people who say that nbs are gay because theyre not binary would literally never be caught dead saying that nbs can be straight too, they literally only ever say gay or lesbian

they do know they DONT HAVE to have a label, right?

[frauchun-racun-deactivated20220]

if you wanna use a slur to talk about yourself, go ahead. but don’t fucking use it for others who have made it clear that they don’t like the term — especially if you’re talking in reference to an entire community. reclaiming a slur only goes as far as you, and there are a lot of people who have shitloads of trauma related to it.

[averymed]

I’m confused that you say you support non-binary but yet you reblog anti-non-binary stuff?

What did I reblog? I'm anti-MOGAI but pro-NB, that's probably why.

[bathbombbaby-deactivated2022062]

ALSO if u think TERFs bigotry ONLY affects transwomen: you hate transmen. Period. Full Stop.

Like yeah, keep on denying TERFS view us as delusional girls with nothing but internalized sexism. Keep denying that TERFs have groomed so many transmen into calling themselves “Dysphoric females.” Keep denying the fact transmen are still victimized even if transwomen are the main target.

Remember kids. Just cause an issue affects someone else more, doesn’t mean it doesn’t fucking affect other people!

[bathbombbaby-deactivated2022062]

To ignore and deny the opression and discrimination we face is not caring. Not caring about the discrimination and opression we face is cruel, unloving, and not a trans friendly attitude. Literally just SAY you hate transmen. Just say it.

[mmelonheadd]

HEADS UP

If you have any kind of artistic, musical or writing skill and you’re not using those abilities to help and lift up people of color, the LGBTQ+ community, the mentally ill, spiritual minorities - you are wasting your talent and I’m not sure if I can really trust you.

I’m not saying you can’t make art for yourself, too. Art is self-expression - but I guess that’s the thing. If your self-expression doesn’t include works that aid and lift up the oppressed, what does that say about you? Even Lady Gaga had her hit “Born This Way.” (As problematic as that well-intentioned song and its lyrics may be.)

I suppose there are other ways. You can support black businesses with the money you make from your work. You can use your platform, your influence as an artist to educate your audience… but if you’re excluding oppressed communities from your art? If you’re not making art and poetry and music for those who need it the most? It honestly just rubs me the wrong way.

- Melonhead

[averymed]

Pro Tip: Make the content that you enjoy, and stop judging people for doing what makes them happy. I guarantee that OP is the kind of person to call realistic, flawed minority characters "offensive" for not being perfect cardboard cutouts of purity.

Art is in the eye of the beholder, and what one person finds upsetting can be empowering for another member of the same demographic. People enjoy different things, and nobody is entitled to anybody else's effort.

If that pisses you off so much, then maybe you're just selfish.

[averymed]

Okay so after a fairly fucked up conversation on another server, I don't give a FUCK about how much you dislike someone. If a guy comes out as MLM -- AFTER BEING PRESSURED TO, MIND YOU -- You don't get to say "oh but he's homophobic" when HE'S LITERALLY NOT. DID YOU MISS THE PART WHERE HE'S MLM.