- men, considering none of my posts/reblogs are for you.
things i like/hobbies:
- photography has been the most consistent hobby of mine. i love taking pictures, but i also just enjoy seeing what others take pictures of.
- i love all types of art, but that being said, "ai art" is not real and should be banished forever.
- i'm really into women's ice hockey, specifically the PWHL. (if you ask me about it, i may never shut up)
- i'm almost always listening to music. been a big fan of billie eilish for years.
- tv shows are my shit, (arcane, i'm looking at you) but a movie here and there is great too. (the scream franchise, i'm also looking at you)
things to consider:
- my dms are open but unfortunately my social anxiety controls me more than i control it sometimes, (i'm working on it) so it can take me a while to reply. if you're kind and respectful and you don't get a reply right away, i promise it's nothing personal!!
to every butch. every masc. every stud reading this.
you deserve aftercare.
i know that’s not always the narrative. i know a lot of you have been conditioned to believe that your job is to take care of everyone else and then quietly put yourself back together after. that needing reassurance makes you soft. that asking for tenderness after makes you too much. that your role means you don’t get to need things the way your partner does.
that’s not true. and i need you to hear that.
the amount of presence you bring. the care you put into making someone feel safe and seen and taken care of. the way you hold everything together and pay attention to every small detail. that deserves to be acknowledged. that deserves to be met with the same tenderness you gave.
you are allowed to need to be held after. you are allowed to need someone to look at you and tell you that you did well. that they felt good. that they felt safe. that you were exactly what they needed. you are allowed to have those questions racing in your head and need them answered out loud.
there is nothing weak about that. there is nothing wrong with you for wanting it.
and if you’ve never had it. if you’ve been giving and giving and leaving empty every time. i want you to know that the right person will not let you leave empty. the right person will pull you close and hold your face and make you look at them and tell you every single thing you needed to hear.
being the sleepiest butch ever and wanting to wrap my arms around your waist, pulling you closer. your back against my chest. pressing a soft kiss to the nape of your neck and laying my forehead against your shoulder afterwards. falling asleep with you in my arms once more.
