Babblings of a Queer Ace

(pronouns: singular they) A sideblog for the rants, rambles, thoughts, opinions, frustrations and so on (often discourse-y related) of a white, queer, NB, trans, bi/pan ace. To keep things off my main blog. If you bring bigoted shit to my askbox my default response is to block not engage. I often operate under a 'backlog'. I will stick posts in my drafts to mull over, sometimes for quite a while, so if you see me 'resurrecting' an old post, that's why.

[dog-teeth]

[oddsbobs-deactivated20200310]

happy pride to people for whom sexuality is fluid, gender’s ineffable, people who exist in in-betweens and not-quites and beyonds. people with no labels, changing labels, people who have settled into “queer” because they like it or because it’s the closest thing to true. people who aren’t sure if they were born this way. questioning people. people who have given up seeking a niche and are comfortable with floating. float on, babes.

[chesh-ires-deactivated20210426]

also happy pride remember that:

cishet was coined to mean cisgender heteroromantic heterosexual

aces can’t be cishet, as they are asexual

aros can’t be cishet, because they are aromantic

aces and aros deserve to be loved, accepted, and understood

aces and aros don’t deserve the nasty things aphobes say they deserve

troll blogs love demonising ace and aro people by pretending to be one and y’all fall for it every god damn time

aces and aros aren’t confused, incomplete, or broken

aces and aros aren’t cringy

feel free to add onto this if you want

[biggerb0at]

it doesnt matter what you think if we should or shouldn’t be in because we have been in this comunity for a long time longer than you finding out about it.

[yamchass]

cishet is literally a term created by trans straight people to point out the differences between us and cishets and misusing our terminology to mean ace/aro people to further ur exclusionary agenda is disgusting

[realtransfacts]

Hope all my trans siblings and friends have a great pride month this year!!

[bullgod1997]

Shout out to all the queer people out there.

The ones who are bold and loud, the ones who are quiet about it.

Those who can’t quite put a finger on anything more specific than queer.

Anyone who’s experimenting with queer as an identity.

I see you and I hope you all get the respect you deserve.

[the-queer-and-beloved]

god i love queer people

[mad-dyspunktional]

Something I tossed together quickly for those of us who’ve been told we’re ‘acceptably queer’ for our other identities while being told that an important part of our queer identity is not queer enough on it’s own.

[allacesarelgbt]

[Images: The ace and aro flags, each with text on the middle lines reading “Not queer despite being [ace/aro] / Queer because I’m [ace/aro].]

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re gay, you’re doing GREAT and i will die for you

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re a lesbian, you’re doing AMAZING and i will kill for you

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re bisexual, you’re doing SPECTACULARLY and i will fight for you

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re pansexual, you’re doing WONDERFULLY and i will guide you on your journey

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re transgender, you’re doing GLORIOUSLY and i will climb a mountain for you

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re asexual or aromantic, you’re doing INCREDIBLY and i will walk through fire for you

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re nonbinary, you’re doing BEAUTIFULLY and i will defend your honour

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

if you’re queer or questioning, you’re doing EXCEPTIONALLY and i will protect you

[trender-sylveon]

Idk when tru///meds are going to realize that root causes and symptoms are different.

Autism is the root cause of someone being autistic. Depression is the root cause of someone being depressed. A broken bone is the root cause of a broken arm.

Dysphoria is a symptom of being transgender. Feelings of emptiness are a symptom of depression. Sensory overload is a symptom of autism. Overwhelming pain is symptom of a broken arm.

You don’t have to have dysphoria to be trans. You don’t have to feel empty to be depressed. There are other symptoms. You don’t have to have sensory overload to be autistic. You don’t have to have overwhelming pain to have a broken arm.

Dysphoria is a symptom not a root cause!!

“Then what do you need to be trans? What is the root cause of being trans?”

Well, it’s the disconnect babey! As long as you don’t feel like your gender identity fits your ASAB! The root cause of being trans is the disconnect. And for some, that disconnect causes dysphoria. But for others their body feels fine, it’s the labels that don’t fit.

TRUSCUM/TRANSMEDS, TERFS: DONT YOU DARE TOUCH THIS POST!!!!

[trender-sylveon]

Reblogging again to accompany other recent posts

[vaspider]

Queer is the label we used when we weren’t sure. Queer is the label we used when we were sure no other label would do. Queer is a gender that is my own and only my own. Queer is a sexuality that defies definition. 

Queer is the label which became genderqueer, and from which non-binary and genderfluid sprung. Queer is the label which is the un-box, in which everyone who is not cishet (including ace people!!) fits. Queer is community.

Queer is activist. Queer is in the streets screaming ‘we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!’ Queer is not ashamed.

Queer was ours from the beginning. Queer was ours a century ago. Queer was used against us, and we said ‘fuck you,’ and we took it BACK. Queer is butches and bears with bats, protecting our community.

Queer is blue-collar. Queer is working-class. Queer is poor. Queer is people who can’t afford to sit out Stonewall quietly and then go fight for marriage equality when the tax bills come due. Queer is a distinct identity, and queer is the un-box.

Queer makes TERFs and exclusionists angry, because it doesn’t let them define people by gold stars and terms like 'SGA’ that come from conversion therapy. Queer doesn’t give a shit about historical revision to exclude members of the community who have always been here, because queer has always been here and always will be.

Queer is the life raft onto which we climb. Queer is community. Queer is important, and people will have to pry it from my cold dead hands. I’ve been queer for thirty years. My community is queer, and it is opt-in.

If you tag my fucking posts ‘q slur’ or any variant thereof I will immediately fucking block you. Don’t fucking do it. If you feel obligated to tag my posts ‘q slur,’ don’t interact with them. My identity is not a bad word and does not require censoring.

[bye-bi-birdie]

Queer positivity post: *exists*

Someone (there’s always someone): um ok but you know not everyone has to reclaim the word queer? Some people don’t want to identify as queer and that’s ok! I just think it’s really insensitive how you’re not considering how your post could be upsetting to all the people who don’t identify as queer have you considered just shutting up about your identity forever?

[queerlection]

[Image description - Images of the trans, neutrois, nonbinary and rainbow pride flag with the text: Nondysphoric trans people exist. End description.]

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[orchidvioletindigo]

I want to make a a separate post to reiterate that the “Only being same-gender attracted or trans makes you LGBT” line is biphobic. Straight up.

I’ve talked before about how this implies that biphobia as a form of oppression distinct from homophobia does not exist or at the very least does not matter, but more than that it explicitly means that certain bisexual people do not belong in the community at all. There are more than two genders and bisexual people can be attracted to any two or more genders, meaning that people can very well be bisexual and not experience same-gender attraction.

Members of the sga-and-trans-only crowd either do not believe that such bisexual people exist or are perfectly okay with shutting them out of the community entirely.

[squirrelstone]

the term “cishet” is so frustrating cause in theory, it should accurately describe non-queer people and provide us with a short, easy term to use when discussing them, but in reality, it’s got the really insidious implication that aros and aces are included in that term. even if the op isn’t openly, blatantly aphobic, they’re frequently “neutral” on the subject and follow aphobes and reblog memes about how aces and aros are cringey or trying to be special snowflakes. i’ve seen the term “cishet” used by someone who supports aces and aros maybe twice on this site, and it’s absurd because it should be used to describe people who are actually cishet, not people who disagree with you online.

[babblingqueerace]

That’s what it used to be. It was a trans specific term actually to describe a specific subset of our oppressors and the interaction/combination of Cis and Straight privilege.

‘Ace discourse’ absolutely butchered the term, got cis people to seriously misuse it and turned it into an aphobic dog whistle and I’m never gonna stop being angry about it

[themadcapmathematician]

Honestly it doesnt even matter if bi people experience same gender attraction. Im tired of framing it that way. A lot of nonbinary bis dont. Some cis bis into nb people dont. We’re marginalized because we’re attracted to more than one gender. Our potential same gender attraction can make us have a sense of solidarity with gay people, but it isnt what makes us queer or what makes us bi, and its time everyone remembered that

[babblingqueerace]

I swear to god I will never understand

This strict linearly, binary, static view of gender dysphoria/euphoria

That shit can get complicated

Sometimes my dysphoria around one thing/set of things fluctuates between ‘effectively non existence’ and ‘omg can not deal with this’ in the space of 10 minutes or less

Sometimes my euphoria around a particular thing only turns on in specific situations but not in others

Sometimes things that seemingly ‘shouldn’t’ alleviate my dysphoria (like often strongly gendered things) totally do

Sometimes things that trigger my dysphoria actually fit better with the way I personally view and relate to myself/my gender

Stuff that alleviates my dysphoria doesn’t always raise my euphoria and stuff that raises my euphoria doesn’t always alleviate my dysphoria

Sometimes my euphoria and dysphoria are triggered by the exact same thing... at the same time....

Shit is complicated

[babblingqueerace]

Trans culture is communicating exclusively in cat noises