Iâve thought about making this post since April when I made a few other posts about the same topic, culminating with a much longer one about the situation at hand. Â But given the information Iâve gotten in the last month or so about it, I realize this has been a pattern of highly abusive behavior by the mun of thepropertyofalady. AKA: onlylivestwice and knowtimetodie
So, feel free to turn back now or unfollow, I wonât be offended.  But weâre about to have a little story time because this needs to end. And while I donât typically participate in call outs, Iâm making an exception this time.
So, a few years ago Bond mun, we will call her BM for short, and I followed each other. Â We interacted casually but not terribly often and chatted about the same. Eventually we started talking about the similarities of the characters and decided to try to ship them. Â They clicked well and it took off. Â It was a highly enjoyable ship and had great chemistry.
Behind the scenes, however, she was a very different person. Â It was a cycle of building abuse, usually over something small and inane, followed by an apology saying how upset she was or how stressed she was and how she didnât mean to take it out on me, she just âdidnât thinkâ. Â The quintessential abusive boyfriend.
It started off easily enough. Â She spent a lot of time telling me about how Jessie, mun of afixer, and she had been very close friends for several years. Â They also shipped their characters. Â When Jessie started shipping her muse with another muse that wasnât Bond as well, BM became upset and claimed that Jessie was replacing Bond. Â That this other mun was taking BMâs place and BM was very upset. Â This kept on with BM stating Jessie was frequently abusive in many ways, but mostly emotionally and mentally abusive. Â I wonât get into the details as thatâs not my story to tell. Â I can only attest as to what was said directly to me.
I didnât have a lot to say about this relationship as  A. I wasnât there and B. I was only hearing one side of it.  I would usually agree that whatever action had been taken or words had been spoken was pretty shitty in the beginning.  But after a while it started ringing a little false.  Also, I had no idea why, if someone bothered you that much, you didnât just block and move along.  To me this is Tumblr and itâs just not worth the time to deal with this kind of BS drama. I voiced this on multiple occasions only to hear one excuse after another. BM admitted to pretty much stalking Jessieâs blog and even going to far as to gloat when she thought Jessie and the mun of this other muse might not be getting along.  All the time swearing she wanted nothing else to do with Jessie or her muse, insisting she was not trying to contact Jessie in anyway.  BM spent a lot of time trying to convince me that Jessie had spent a lot of time bad mouthing me and my version of Natasha and bashing the Nat/Bond ship.  Iâll be honest, I donât care.  If someone doesnât like me or my version of Nat you know how to unfollow and ignore.
Eventually I stopped commenting at all aside from telling BM that she needed to just let it go and move on with her life.  That anyone who upset her that much was not worth the time, effort or tears they caused.  That if she was that miserable with Jessie in her life, she should be happy Jessie was gone and could no longer upset her so badly.  This was always met with excuses or assurances she was doing just that, only to be shown false when she admitted she was back on Jessieâs blog hoping to find something else she could gloat about. She comes up in multiple conversations that I will link to and is often referred to as Jess or âthat bitchâ.
The closer Natasha and James got, the clingier she got to me. Â As if she couldnât separate mun from muse. They closer they got the more she started dumping her personal stuff onto me. Â The more she talked about how we were such good friends and how close we were. Â How she always wanted someone to be close to because she had never had that. Â At least not until Jessie and Jessie had shit all over her and treated her so badly. Â She had never had a good friend and everyone treated her so poorly when she counted them as a friend. Â At first I was empathetic, trying to be a friend despite my misgivings. Â Now itâs clear it was just another emotional manipulation on her part.
She was also getting possessive of Natasha. If I didnât answer her asks first, or her thread first, or posted images for another person and not Bond then she would complain. If I did anything while I had stuff from her sitting she would make an off handed snide comment about it.
Meanwhile BM had a habit of getting upset any time I didnât agree with her.  Literally the first time we really disagreed was over music.  I said I enjoyed the Miley Cyrus/Billy Idol version of Rebel Yell as well as her version of Jolene.  I was told that I knew nothing about music and it was all pro tools and how horrible it sounded.  When I said I didnât actually care, I enjoyed it, BM got mad and didnât speak to me for literally 3 days.  When I told her I didnât understand what the big deal was, as it was a difference of opinion over something as simple as music, she carried on about how much I had upset her and how she had spent all night and most of a day crying over it.  A disagreement over music. Â
That was when the red flags really started popping up.  She went from telling me how much Jessie hated me and the Nat/Bond ship to saying that Jessie never said much of anything about it or me at all. That she and BM had been so close she didnât care if BM shipped with anyone else. When that didnât work sheâd wait a few days or a week and go back to the story that Jessie hated me and Natasha. Each time she seemed to expect me to have something to say and when I didnât she was at a loss.  She would keep repeating these things and it always felt like she was trying to get a rise out of me over them.  But the fact was, I didnât care if Jessie liked me or not.  I donât know if she thought I didnât catch the discrepancies in her story or if I just accepted them, but I was quietly logging them in my head.
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