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Children Safety: Do you kiss your child on lips & continuing as she/he grows-up?

Loving the child vs. showing the love to child, or sometime it could be simply a show-off that you love your child a lot more than someone can think of. Be mindful that your child is your and you do not need to prove to anyone that you love your child more. 

Remember, children learn these as culture & values (Samskar) from parents from childhood. If you follow a wrong way of doing things, your child will learn the same & feel that as the right way. Let me share one true story… Probably, some of you would have also seen or heard it.

A parent, Prerna (name changed) loves her son a lot and that is obvious as parent & single child. And she had a way to show the love to her son by different kisses. One of that was, she used to kiss her son on his lips from childhood, and this process continued as the child was growing. This way of showing the love to each other was enjoyed by both. Apparently, she continued as he was growing up to teen age. Some point of time she learnt about this act and stopped kissing her son on his lips. It was easy for her to stop being adult & mother but the child started missing this act. Even on his demand Prerna started to refuse. The child being a child started going through multiple thought including his mother does not love him as before etc. But he was now a grown-up school going children. Now, since he was missing the love, affection & the kisses. He started looking for a partner and he turned to be a bad boy for everyone around him.

I find this is a good lesson for us to be mindful of act & emotions we share with children. I would urge strongly to STOP any such act with your children as it would be hard for you to take it forward as she/he grows up, and SAVE your child to turn bad to other in future.

Never practice to kiss on lips and if you do then STOP before the child grows enough to understand it.

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Children Safety: Do you practice bad touches with your child innocently?

While playing with children, did you ever noticed if children also enjoy the way you play with her/him? Many times children do not like them pulled here & there or kicked or patted on their back or bums. Check next time when you play with any children.

Also, if you practice bad touches while playing with children as parents or well-wisher, then be mindful that your child may start taking all bad touches for granted, and cannot differentiate between good & bad. Also sometime they start enjoying it as well. Kids can not differentiate people good or bad intention as someone touches them, and starts tolerating such behavior due to their habit of such play with parents or well-wishers, and sometime get into trap which becomes difficult to recover. Remember, sometime children gets a habit of such touches then they start enjoying it, and some point of time as they grow they indulge into socially unacceptable sexual behavior in very early age. Then it becomes hard to control them as they would have been addicted to such touches/behaviors.

Very recently, I got to learn in my interact with one parent that her teenage son indulged into some physical behavior which is definitely a concern for parents and they have been exploring to get some help from counselor as it has started impacting his health & sturdy. When I started digging down the details in my discussion. I was told that she used to touch his gentle parts as massage in childhood when he goes to sleep; she continued this as he was growing up. Some point of time she realized & she stopped such activity. It was easy for her to stop as adult but the child was missing this experience as it had become his everyday habit. Children started demanding this from his parent, but she used to refuse and scold him but by the time it was too late and the child started exploring the options.

STOP doing any such practices or touches with your children thinking as parts of your love & care. Always practice good behavior/touches from beginning to avoid any future issues. If you are doing this without knowing the consequences then STOP before the child get consciousness as nature does. Remember, there could be some exceptions but mostly children stops getting breastfeed from mother before getting their consciousness. Lean from nature as well!

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Children Safety: Does your children know go to person around them wherever they are?

We all love and care our children; equally, we are worried for their safety & well-being everywhere, whether they are at home or away from you at school, playing at neighbor’s place or elsewhere. Considering the present family structure & life style, it is impossible to be present everywhere with your child. Children will go to all these places to meet & play with friends as they get to learn as well. I have got to see some parents discourage their children for visiting places. Also, some gets very possessive & scares them for wrong happening if they go. This technique may stop your children that moment but leaves them curios just as natural behavior of children. I strongly feel, practice & recommend spending time to lean & educate your children their safety tips & tricks. Sometime we culturally don’t feel comfortable talking on certain thing with kids and we prefer to be away & avoid some circumstances. But one should understand that need of the hour is to educate children for their safety.

So, let’s start your first discussion with your children for their safety to let them find their favorable (Go To) person around them wherever they are. Check if your daughter or son knows their go to person at home if parents are away. Do they know go to person at school, neighbor or where ever they are?  This should be topic of discussion on day-1 and keep revisiting to make sure they remember these. However, you should never push your child to choose their go to person as per your convenience. You can help your children to find but this has to be her/his choice of person. Remember we are discussing about the go to person for your children not you.

Happy leaning with your children! Stay tuned for more...

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What a date today

Ah! Fantastic date today 11-12-13 to kickoff a blog. Wish all the best to people who started something new today.