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Pink aesthetic 💕

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“Possession” (1981) by Andrzej Żuławski

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♕ barbie: princess charm school

femmefatalevibe

Femme Fatale Booklist:

Books to become your dream girl. This list is curated to unleash the empowered woman inside, tap into your dark feminine energy, and help you succeed in every area of life. Sections are listed below:

Self-Development/Mindset

Seductive Psychology

Femme Fatale/Dark Feminine/Feminist Reads

Business/Finance/Entrepreneurship

Productivity

Mental Health

Physical Health

Fashion & Beauty

Get educated. Expand your mind. Enjoy xx

Self-Development/Mindset:

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck

The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz

Atomic Habits by James Clear

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay

Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen

The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery by Brianna Wiest

Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole

The Confidence Formula: May Cause: Lower Self-Doubt, Higher Self-Esteem, and Comfort In Your Own Skin by Patrick King

The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

Choose Your Story, Change Your Life: Silence Your Inner Critic and Rewrite Your Life from the Inside Out by Kindra Hall

When You’re Ready, This Is How To Heal by Brianna Wiest

Hunting Discomfort: How to Get Breakthrough Results in Life and Business No Matter What by Sterling Hawkins

The Four Pivots: Reimagining Justice, Reimagining Ourselves by Shawn Ginwright

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Seductive Psychology:

48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

Mastery by Robert Greene

The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Power vs. Force by David Hawkins

Femme Fatale/Dark Feminine/Feminist Reads:

Unbound: A Woman’s Guide To Power by Kasia Urbaniak

Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer

Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov

A Single Revolution by Shani Silver

This Is Your Brain On Birth Control by Sarah Hill

Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler

Regretting Motherhood: A Study by Orna Donath

Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Me by Caroline Criado Perez

Women Who Run With The Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

The Second Sex by Simone De Beauvoir

The Ethics of Ambiguity by Simone De Beauvoir

A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf

Women & Power: A Manifesto by Mary Beard

Spinster by Kate Bolick

What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind by Debra Ollivier

Living Forever Chic: Frenchwomen's Timeless Secrets for Everyday Elegance, Gracious Entertaining, and Enduring Allure by Tish Jett

Business/Finance/Entrepreneurship:

Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

The 2-Hour Cocktail Party by Nick Gray

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

Girl On Fire by Cara Alwill Leyba

Women, Work & the Art of Savoir Faire: Business Sense & Sensibility by Mireille Guiliano

Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Joseph Grenny

Living On Purpose: Five Deliberate Choices to Realize Fulfillment by Amy Eliza Wong

The Earned Life: Lose Regret, Choose Fulfillment by Marshall Goldsmith

The High 5 Habit: Take Control of Your Life with One Simple Habit by Mel Robbins

Building a Second Brain: A Proven Method to Organize Your Digital Life and Unlock Your Creative Potential by Tiago Forte

The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups by Daniel Coyle

Rich As F*ck: More Money Than You Know What to Do With by Amanda Frances

Rich Bitch by Nicole Lapin

Like She Owns the Place by Cara Alwill Leyba

So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport

The First Minute: How To Start Conversations That Get Results by Chris Fenning

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman

Build: An Unorthodox Guide to Making Things Worth Making by Tony Fadell

The Hard About Hard Things by Ben Horowitz

The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel

Productivity:

The Science of Self-Discipline: The Willpower, Mental Toughness, and Self-Control to Resist Temptation and Achieve Your Goals by Peter Hollins

Free Time: Lose The Busy Work, Love Your Business by Jenny Blake

Vision to Reality: Stop Working, Start Living by Curtis Jenkins

Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success in A Distracted World by Cal Newport

Finish What You Start by Peter Hollins

Mental Health:

Becoming The One by Sheleana Aiyana

Attached by Amir Levine

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns

Whole Again by Jackson MacKenzie

Take Your Lunch Break by Massoma Alam Chohan

Stop Overthinking by Nick Trenton

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture by Ryan A. Bush

Radical Acceptance: Awakening The Love That Heals Fear and Shame by Tara Brach

Recovery from Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse, Codependency & Complex PTSD by Don Barlow

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

Inner Child Recovery Work with Radical Self-Compassion by Don Barlow

What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey

Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

Physical Health:

The China Study by T. Collin Campbell

The Blue Zones by Dan Buettner

How Not To Die by Dr. Michael Greger

Befriending Your Body by Ann Saffi Biasetti

Brain Over Binge by Kathryn Hansen

The Power of Self-Discipline by Peter Hollins

Fit at Any Age: It's Never Too Late by Susan Niebergall

French Women Don't Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano

The Archetype Diet by Dana James

Fashion & Beauty:

The Lucky Shopping Manual: Building and Improving Your Wardrobe Piece by Piece by Andrea Linett & Kim France

Dress Like A Parisian by Alois Guinut

Parisian Chic by Ines de la Fressange & Sophie Gachet

Why French Women Wear Vintage: And other secrets of sustainable style by Alois Guinut

Ageless Beauty the French Way: Secrets from Three Generations of French Beauty Editors by Clemence von Mueffling

Skincare: The Ultimate No-Nonsense Guide by Caroline Hirons

becomingthatgirl111

start investing in yourself 💅

what to invest our time and money in to look better and better ourselves, here are a few tips

you are the greatest project you will ever work on

apparence and health

skin: medium/high skincare products, products suitable for your skin, to help you improve, moisturize…whatever you need! essentials: moisturizing cream, serum, exfoliating scrub, etc

hair: hair treatments such as hyaluronic acid treatment (provides strength and shine) organic straightening (suitable for all hair types, shiny and straight)cut the ends every so often

nails: take care of your nails with good products or go to a nail salon

make-up: medium/high-end products, i don't use foundation, but i invest in other products like mascara, face palettes (illuminating/bronzer) lipsticks…

clothing and accessories: it is not necessary to dress from head to toe brand name, invest in accessories, such as a high-quality coat for the winter, shoes, bags, jewelry, also a belt, the small details are the ones that elevate your look (i can talk about clothes in a future post)

body: set your goals according to what body you want to achieve or continue to maintain your shape, invest some of your time in exercising, eating healthy, and using moisturizing creams/oils on your body on a daily

perfume: this for me is very important, find your ideal scent, the one that best suits you, there are people who only use a good perfume on special occasions, you should use it every day! you deserve it and you are worth it!

good food: buy good food to nourish your body, fresh fruit, and vegetables, avoid buying white labels (products that imitate others with a lower price)

vitamins: for your hair, skin, nails, etc

mental

a new hobby: spend some of your time doing something you love, learning a new language, or something that can be useful for your future or daily life

read, research, discover!: similar to the previous point, research and discover new topics to nourish yourself intellectually

self-esteem: work on your self-esteem and self-esteem, there is no one like you and you deserve to have the confidence to achieve great things

learn about psychology and emotional intelligence: it will help you understand many things and people's attitudes

be polite: be polite to everyone and don't use bad words or slang

education: invest in your studies or in courses that can be useful not only for your academic training but also for your daily life, for example, a cooking course

go to places of interest: for example, a conference related to a subject you are studying or would like to learn about, museums, art galleries...

free time

go to new places: make reservations at good restaurants, try new food from another country

friends: spend your time with real friends, who spread their positivity and make you have a good time, become that kind of person too! positive, cheerful, with good topics of conversation

cooking: look for new recipes on the internet, buy a recipe book, experiment!

travel: visit new places inside or outside your country, get to know their customs, their gastronomy, their inhabitants, their nature, take a nice souvenir, a good trip is one of the best things you can invest!

visit spas or beauty centers: invest your time in taking care of yourself, give yourself a massage every so often, a treatment… pamper yourself a little!

excursions or activities in your city: surely every so often in the place where you live there are events of any time, for example, book fairs, you can go alone or accompanied.

meditate: the time we spend alone is also very important, meditate at the end of the day, reflect, think about what you can improve every day, and connect with yourself

becomingthatgirl111

some of my habits to stay healthy (body and mind) 🧘‍♀️🌿✨

have a set routine for every day (as i love it i always stick to it and i'm used to it)

exercise 5 days a week

rest from exercise 2 days

stretch before and after exercise

do at least 5 minutes of yoga every day (simple but effective exercises)

keeping track of my exercise (i like to be organized)

go for a run or walk in the evening, after lunch

incorporate to my diet foods such as: salmon, avocado, chia seeds (which i usually take every day) quinoa

always carry a bottle of water with me

drink a cup of tea a day (red, green, matcha, black, white, among my favorites) after meals

keep a record of my days, emotions, and feelings, in a diary (written and virtual)

meditate when I wake up and before going to bed

always keep my environment tidy as i like it

light incense (helps me to relax)

a lukewarm shower before going to sleep (helps me with the stress of the day or to feel better)

listening to positive affirmations and writing them down (i write down 5 for the morning and 5 for the evening)

spending time outdoors looking for new things to do

listen to or watch videos of people who inspire me and help me to keep improving my life

in the next post, i will share with you other habits that helped me to transform myself and change my negative ideas to much more positive ones 🤍

becomingthatgirl111

my first compilation of inspirational content 🧚🏼‍♀️✨

some of you have sent me questions for me to recommend books, blogs, and others to help you with your improvement, so i have decided from time to time to collect the content that i use and inspires me to share with you 🤍

blogs

counselling blog

frachella

voguekiss111

sonasi

m.nella

angeldairy222

posts

self care after having a panic or anxiety attack

time for a digital declutter

the start of a new month

how to be that girl

10 non-cosmetic methods to become beautiful

increase your pretty privilege

things you think every woman should learn

shifting your story exercise

a high value woman

youtube channels

hannah adkins

sanne vloet

vita sidorkina

romee strijd

rowena tsai

thewizardliz

activation vibration

leeor alexandra

bailey brown

kayla chandler (healthy recipes)

alexandra andersson (healthy recipes)

gainsbybrains

conagh kathleen

lisa alexandra

workouts and yoga

pamela reif

eylem abaci

getfitbyivana

train with gainsbybrains

mary braun

madfit

angelakajo

move with nicole

the bare female

yoga with adriene

yoga with bird

podcasts (spotify)

morning rae

guide me glow

80/20

the wellness cafe

habits of a goddess

and my last recommendation to you, love yourselves very much and try to give all the good you have every day, you can fulfill your dreams ✨

want some recommendations on makeup or self-care? if you have recommendations for me i would love to share them with you have a beautiful day and lots of good vibes 🧿✨🤍

becomingthatgirl111

you won't believe it but this affirmation changed my life!

you wouldn't believe it if i told you but with just one affirmation i was able to get rid of all my negative thoughts in a few days

i decided to spend a whole month recording my emotions in a diary: how i felt, how i wanted to feel, how the day had been, 3 things i am grateful for and what i consider most important now 3 affirmations and 3 i deserve

so as i was dealing with negative thoughts almost every day i started to write day and night "my mind is always focused on the positive"

at first, i didn't think much of it, after writing affirmations i continued with my routine then after a few days i felt like i was more motivated to do the things i liked and it was like all of a sudden i stopped thinking about those negative things that i used to worry about a lot

so with this i want to encourage you that if you are in a similar situation, that something worries you, you think a lot about a subject, you have a limiting thought or simply want to attract anything to your life then write or repeat affirmations it should not be the same one that i use but one that you invent that works for your situation after doing this every day and night forget and focus on what you have to do during the day, you have already done part of the work, leave the other part to the universe

i repeat that it is really powerful that the affirmation you use is your own, not taken from a video, for example, try to create the perfect affirmation for you

summary 🤍

identify what you want or wish to let go/change

write or say the affirmation you have created, upon waking and before going to sleep

take it as a habit and start your routine or in the case of the night get ready for bed

becomingthatgirl111

tips to look expensive 💎

my posts on how to look elegant are your favorite so in this post, i'm going to refer mainly to style many times we don't need a big budget to look elegant and elevate our personal image remember that elegance is not a style of dress is an attitude

invest in branded accessories: sunglasses, handbags, shoes, belts, jewelry

in autumn/winter invest in a good jacket or coat

fine jewelry, minimalist, and if you like gold, gold plated silver is a good option

total look in black or white is always a good option

a red total look is a very elegant choice

handbags preferably in light colors, for example, beige

a basic outfit with good accessories is better than an extravagant outfit

blazers in colors like beige are a good choice

pale pink, beige or red heels

if you are not a heel wearer basic white sneakers or with some accessories can be a good choice

in summer go for colors a little more colorful, like green, blue or orange, combine them especially with white

jeans are elegant if we combine them well, with a corset, satin shirts…

invest in brands but it is not necessary that they are well known by everyone

other tips:

maintain very good hygiene (this is obvious)

an oval nail design

yes to use make-up, make it natural but give your skin a juicy look, my favorite products for this are charlotte tilbury's products

take care of your appearance and your interior, nourish your mind with knowledge, books, new teachings…

do not gossip

invest your time well, in learning new things, doing activities that you like, having time for yourself, having appointments for massages, nails…

find a perfume with your signature scent, it can be from brands such as jo malone, byredo, maison francis kurkdjian or niche perfume brands

use different types of hairstyles every day (ponytails, straightening, waves in your hair, etc.)

invest in good hair products, including straightening iron and blow dryer

remember you are your biggest investment, you deserve to look the way you want and pamper yourself

captain-kampari

Devon Aoki

2productive

eat well and exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it

sugarybisous

how to live your life like the BRATZ ♡

self love & confidence!!

living life everyday with self-respect and self love will take you such a far way in all aspects of life, and will make your life more enjoyable and easy. make sure you take the time out of your day to remind yourself just how amazing and capable you are. be your own best friend. understand that what you focus on grows.

self care !!

you deserve to be treated with the upmost care. schedule times to pamper yourself and also check in with yourself.

taking care of your mind and body goes hand and hand.

for caring for your mind:

meditate, journal your thoughts down, do some yoga, connect to your religion/spirituality if you follow one, make affirmations for yourself that cater to your needs, practice gratitude.

for caring for your body:

create your own spa! indulge in a bubble bath or relaxing shower where you can use yummy scented body washes/soaps/exfoliators and body conditioners, do a hair mask, give yourself a manicure and pedicure, do your eyebrows, have a set skincare routine that is catered personally to your skin problems/goals, give yourself a head massage, wear matching or yummy scented lotions and perfumes, work out, try new delicious recipes and make sure you are eating good for your body.

hobbies !!

all of the girls had their own hobbies they were into! explore new hobbies or start the ones you’ve always been wanting to do but have been putting off! not only are they fun but they enhance your life! you get to learn more about yourself and find out possible hidden talents or grow new ones, you meet new people and make new friends too whether it’s you doing the actual hobby or running across someone who enjoys the same things that you do! some hobbies to consider:

any dance class: ballet, hip-hop, k-pop etc.

photography

any sport: tennis, ice skating, golfing, etc.

gardening

reading & writing

camping

crafting

blogging

cooking & baking

school and personal goals !!

one thing i love about the bratz is that they took their education seriously and helped each other whenever one of them needed the help. nothing is more fabulous than being educated and ambitious. you can do anything you put your mind to.

create a study schedule for yourself and limit your distractions, when it’s time to study put your phone away and remove anything that you know will serve as a distraction to you, give yourself breaks from here and there too!

create a vision board! cut and paste pictures of things you want for your future onto a poster board or be creative and draw and color everything out! this is a great reminder everyday for yourself if you put it somewhere you’ll be able to see whenever you wake up or a spot in your room that you’re always looking at for example. (what you focus on grows!)

jot down all the things you want to do or improve on, whether thats creating good habits for yourself, learning a new language, etc.

have a passion for fashion !!

would this be a how to live your life like the BRATZ without it? explore and find your own fashion sense! find out what colors and patterns make you happy, express yourself through your clothing, shop until you drop and have fun!!

sugarybisous

leveling up to your dreamgirl version of yourself 2022 ♡

upgrading by recognizing your self worth!

- value and self worth go hand in hand with each other.

a wise woman once said “if you want to know what your self worth is like look at all the things you are tolerating in your life right now, this will show you what you think your value is, what your worth is and how you are undervaluing yourself.”

when you don’t know your value you will sell yourself short. ask yourself this question right now, where does your self worth come from and will your self worth change because of that if it were to disappear?

- your self worth should not be external, so it should not come from the opinion of others. the moment you allow that to happen what other people say about you becomes your reality. your self worth also shouldn’t be measured by your accomplishments or the things you are able to do. your self worth is not your physical appearance, how many followers you have, or how much money you make. you were worthy the day you were born, your self worth comes from your spirit it comes from connections to yourself. your self worth will show in the way you interact with people, the way you talk to yourself, and the way you treat yourself and other people. so make sure you are constantly reminding yourself just how amazing and precious you are.

- now your value. your value has to meet what you are settling for in life, so if you know you are amazing and have high value why are you settling for less? do not let other people bully you into having lower standards.

- do not lower your standards to make other people comfortable, when you leave room to do so people will take that opportunity to value you at ANY price and that’s what we don’t want when we know just how much we are worth. a wise woman also once said “louis vuitton does not go on sale. fendi does not go on sale. prada does not go on sale. why? because it costs what it costs.”

- boundaries and standards also show your value to others, when people come into your life and see no boundaries and standards they will treat you how you treat yourself. boundaries keep you safe don’t be afraid to make them. standards will also keep you happy if you obtain them.