🎀🍰 erotiquadoll’s sex kitten bible: PT. I
you’re a fucking princess and princesses don’t do SHIT!
my guide to dating a man you ACTUALLY wanna be with.
[*DO NOT USE ON YOUR ROSTER OF SPACE FILLERS, THIS IS ONLY FOR A MAN YOU SEE TRUE COMPATIBILITY, LONGEVITY AND BENEFIT FROM*]
men only want you when they think other men do. always hint at other men’s pursuit of you… HINT! don’t fully expose. “got you a lil date?” “that’s so cute… what are you up to though?”
use passive aggression to enforce boundaries. never passive passivity. never aggressive aggression. a man should never see you as aggressive even if he just pissed in your cereal. and you should NEVER be a pushover. for ex: “hey i’m sorry i’m late for our date” *you with a neutral face and maybe soft smiling tone of voice* “that’s ok! i understand stuff happens but i’d really appreciate if we don’t make this a habit though.” basically be a sweet little strict princess. never emasculate him. save that for your venting sessions with TRUSTED PEOPLE.
use your eyes. this is seduction. stare. hold eye contact and do not break it. i guarantee he will. undress him with your eyes. works perfectly during silent moments. then when he asks what… because he will… lay it on thicker. “you’re just so sexy.”
“i don’t know I’m just making connections… i’ll know what i want when i see it” never tell them that you want a husband children and the white picket fence when they ask what you’re looking for. even if it’s true. hint that you could be looking for them in a flirtatious way. look him up and down. bite your lip. etc.
even if you are available 100% with NOTHING to do, make him feel special to have gotten time with you. for ex: “what you doing this weekend?” “just a couple of things… what’s going on?” “just wanted to see if you were free this saturday” “hmm, i should be, what time??” “maybe 8…” “hmm, what about 9?” “yeah that’s perfect.” “okay great i’m looking forward to seeing you! 💋”
please don’t give a fuck what he’s doing when he isn’t with you. men can sense when you start worrying about them talking to other people. learned this the hard way. don’t check his shit. don’t look at his story. DO NOT text him asking why you haven’t heard from him. even if you wanna hear from him. but this is all a sign of you needing to be more busy. find a hobby, other men to date casually, a second job, school, clean the house, anything. NEVER let him know you want something he has.
if you want this man, make him feel like the biggest apple of your eye… in your presence. compliments constantly. constantly touch him. even avoid your phone or whatever other physical distraction you may have from him. masculinity craves an ego boost. this even works during sex. make him feel like he has the best dick you’ve ever had in your life. get him accustomed to the idea that you want no one else but him. speak your adoration. physically express it also. then the second he’s away from you engage in other things to where he’s no longer in the forefront of your mind. they’ll start to chase after that ego stroking you gave them before and will be itching to you again and craving your attention. and every time you see him, dial this back but like 3% each time…
… which at that point you should never be just super readily available. “oh you wanna see me again tonight? aw baby. i miss you too but i have plans… maybe we can a little later in the week” do not ask him if he can see you on another night. let HIM carve that out. for ex: “okay what about tomorrow night?” “okay that’ll work much better, i’m looking forward to seeing you! 💋 alright gotta go handsome!”
when out with him, don’t deflect male attention from others. you’ll get it. but don’t directly acknowledge it. for example if you’re at dinner and the MALE waiter seems to be showing some signs that he thinks you’re pretty don’t deflect. don’t shrink yourself. order your food confidently and sweetly. EVEN acknowledge your date while ordering “hmm everything looks so good, bae what are you thinking of getting?” he’s gonna accuse you of flirting and when he does… distract him with your sensuality. “oh you’re so crazy, i wore this for you though… you like it?” GIRL. it’s so simple.
sometimes don’t text his ass back. period. SOMETIMES. a consistent lack of replies and engagement however will read as a lack of interest and that’s not gonna work. you want to feign femininely scarce, not uninterested. and when you do, ALWAYS sound happy to hear from him!! always! it’s intoxicating and makes their testosterone bubble over. make his dopamine receptors be on edge waiting for you.
always turn it back on them. learn to answer a question with a question to increase his vulnerability. for ex “what are we doing together” *you, smiling, sweet voice engaged* “what do you want us to do?”
stop talking so much. stop defending your actions. stop oversharing. stop explaining. listen to him talk more than you do. and when you do speak tell him what he wants to hear. for example if he asks how your past relationships were TELL HIM THEY’VE BEEN WONDERFUL. (if he just needs to know why talk broke up, all you need to say is that you grew apart and he was a great guy) this sets a precedent that you are, indeed, a princess. you need a character or persona that you embody in your love life. use your representative self, the same way they do.
i’m a fragrance girl so please understand when i say you NEED a signature “seeing him” scent. even if you wear 1000 different fragrances on a regular basis. during the dating stage WEAR THE SAME ONE!! and make sure it’s something with sillage and longevity. something that damn near seeps into your skin. he needs to sniff his clothes and wanna see you again. get in his car and think of you immediately and that’s kinda hard to do with different scents every time you see him.
always prioritize your looks. always look better and better every time he sees you in person. this doesn’t mean you have to always have makeup on or a cocktail dress. but you must be put together at all times. i’m so sorry but this is reality. hair done 100% of times, nails should always be manicured at the very least, clothing should appear put together and pretty. and the basics should never be neglected. take care of your skin, health, and shape always. and i know people feel a way about the “send me a pic” shit. annoying yes i know. but you should. and this is why one reason i always preach to stay ready so you dont have to get ready. always look like you’re busy. for ex. pretty selfies in a pink athleisure set in the drivers seat of your car. prepare for the “oh where you at, what you doing?” texts so you can reply with a reminder of how pretty you are.
switch when you walk. move slowly. not like a snail duh but with intentional movements. i love doing this on dates because i can practically feel a man’s eyes on me when i “go to the restroom for a moment.”
let’s say he gets wind of you dating other people. don’t get defensive. you’re not doing anything wrong and if he brings it up that’s a good thing, not a punishment. for ex: “i didn’t know you were going out with other people…” “oh, i’m not in a relationship with anybody” “oh ok ok… well i’m not. i kinda wanna focus on each other” rattle his anxiety a tiny bit.
go out without him and let him know you’re out and not readily available, covertly that is. no man will believe or give a fuck about a text that says “I’M BUSY EVERY NIGHT BECAUSE MEN WANT ME SO YOU SHOULD WANT ME TOO”
always keep him on his toes never let him know 100% your routine. and if you do don’t stick to that routine 24/7… throw him off. and you know what else keeps a man on his toes (i only recommend this after a couple of dates but before you have sex) sexually flirt with him. for example my favorite thing is when he says something is tight that he maybe trying to open or something etc. i’ll say “like me” in the softest sweetest voice ever and he’ll for sure respond something like “what did you say?” “oh you should have heard me! *giggle*” will drive him INSANE.
answer questions with questions. for example “what you’re going on a date?” *while getting dressed, applying gloss, knowing you look good asf* “why you think that? can you hand me my purse right there… mhm… thank you… yeah what makes you say that baby?”
never reach out first. that’s relationship privileges. period. don’t answer his first call of the day. let him call again.
while in the dating stage, always reference the FACT that he isn’t your man whenever he asks for relationship benefits. for ex. (if you met in a club that singles frequent highly) “i haven’t been to [insert club name] in a long time, you still be going?” “oh you haven’t? why is that?” (notice how i don’t say yes or no. answer his question with a question.) “i haven’t been for real because i don’t want to right now. kinda don’t want you to either.” “aww why you’re trying to be my man?”
should you have sex before the commitment (which is okay in my opinion as long as you’re safe because the issue with sex isn’t the act itself it’s how you act afterwards.) YOU CANNOT STAY THE NIGHT. girl i don’t give a fuck how bad you want to. “stay the night with me, you need some clothes?” you should already be getting up putting your underwear back on. and yes put a small show on for him while you dress *soft sweet voice again, FULLY COMPOSED though* “oh i gotta go baby i have to work in the morning, but i had fun! gimme a kiss” same thing if he came to your house (i don’t recommend), put his ass out. “oh i’m about to get ready to go to sleep but i can’t wait to see you again, tie your robe up, give a kiss and see him on his way… WITH A SMILE. and don’t do the typical laying it on thick after you have sex with this man. and DON’T be catching feelings. the only thing that should trigger feelings is some sort of investment. don’t necessarily pull back but become a tiny bit more busy than you were before but whenever you DO engage with him make sure you’re maintaining your same sweet little princess self. don’t change your energy. don’t escalate. don’t completely retract. let him become sprung.
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