mune ga hachikire sōde

no gender binary empty

[maswartz]

[fractally]

This has been my main argument against "AI" from the very beginning.

OpenAI scraped the entire web. All of which had been a labor of love from humans. Wikipedia is the backbone of a lot of LLMs, and that was volunteer human labor. They stole it and now they're selling it back to us.

And worse, they're trying to destroy the free sources that they stole from. It's destruction of human knowledge on an unprecedented scale. The burning of the library of Alexandria has nothing on this.

[tompodowski]

that beautiful moment that passes between shane's parents where they can hear the decade's worth of love in ilya's voice and know shane is going to be okay. gorgeous.

[literaryvein-reblogs]

Writing "Interdependent" Characters

The definition of interdependency is “mutual dependence.”

In an interdependent relationship, partners recognize that although a relationship can help meet physical and emotional needs, their sense of self-worth is not wholly dependent on the relationship.

Interdependent couples turn to one another for intimacy and vulnerability while maintaining a secure sense of self and independence.

Features of an Interdependent Relationship

At its core, an interdependent relationship is about mutuality—showing equal concern for each other’s well-being. Here are some of the characteristics of an interdependent relationship:

Healthy boundaries: A boundary is any limit or mutual agreement for how to navigate the psychological, physical, emotional, and sexual parts of a relationship. “Sometimes there is this misconception that if people have boundaries, it prevents them from connecting,” psychotherapist Esther Perel says. “But actually, it is because there are boundaries between people that there is a sense of how the connection actually gets made as these people come closer to each other.”

Clear communication: The success of every close relationship hinges on communication. “Communicating is relating,” Esther says. “When we relate, we constantly are in a back-and-forth between ruptures and repairs.” Esther compares developing communication skills to learning a musical instrument: “When you learn to play an instrument, you often will play a wrong note. You’re miscommunicating. Then you learn to listen to it again. Then you learn to repeat it differently. You’re attuning your ear. You’re internalizing the sound. And you’re able to sing it or play it accurately.”

Personal responsibility: In an interdependent relationship, each partner takes responsibility for their own actions. They apologize for their mistakes and don’t blame each other when things don’t go to plan.

Mutual trust: Interdependent couples trust one another to be faithful to the boundaries they’ve established together. They support each other’s personal interests and goals and enjoy time alone or with their own friends. 

How to Build Interdependent Relationships

If you suspect you’re in an unhealthy relationship dynamic or are looking to prevent one in the future, consider the following tips for developing an interdependent relationship:

Define your personal boundaries. “I think the best image for a boundary in relationship is our skin,” Esther Perel says. “If our skin didn’t have pores and couldn’t breathe and take things in from the outside, it would dry off and die. If our skin is opened, it has wounds all the time, then it cannot function either because it gets hurt. So it needs small holes that allow the external environment to feed it. And at the same time, it is tight enough that it can protect everything that is inside.”

Prioritize your mental health. Although interdependent couples turn to one another for emotional support, they also maintain independent routines and networks. For example, a therapist can provide a safe space for working out trauma and spare your partner from shouldering that responsibility.

Work on your communication skills. Even the healthiest couples must constantly work on improving their communication skills. For starters, practice active listening, develop an awareness of your body language, and be careful not to interrupt others while they’re talking. Remember that communication is like learning an instrument: stay curious, observe your partner’s reactions, and adjust your technique as needed.

Pursue personal growth. Life doesn’t begin and end with finding a romantic partner. Make a list of your personal goals and ask your partner to help hold you accountable. This will help you establish boundaries and set clear expectations for your partner.

Codependency vs. Interdependency

Codependency

People-pleasing behaviors

Controlling behaviors

Low self-esteem

Poor communication

Emotional support imbalance

Interdependency

Healthy boundaries

Independently pursue personal goals

High self-esteem

Solid communication skills

Emotional support reciprocity

Source ⚜ More: Notes & References ⚜ Writing Resources PDFs

[importantcatpics]

[thisfeebleheart]

The book has the parental discussion with Ilya and Shane in a lounge room, on sofas - shifting this to the dining table really highlights the framing intention during the last Hollander family meal - the sad empty space where Shane's partner should be [...] "Are we expecting anyone else?" Yeah, he finally arrived. 

[psycloclo]

Do you want another best-seller?

[kuutamosonaatti]

Émile Joachim Constant Puyo, June (1899) & Two women with flowers (1902)

[1-jar-of-stars]

On Friendship.

[bebs-art-gallery]

Speak No Evil † See No Evil

© Molly Has a Chainsaw

[fordarkmornings]

Robert Anning Bell (British, 1863-1933)

Three Young Women in a Park, 1897

[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

heart handbag by ROTHBARTH

[56k-modem]

2003

From https://archive.org/details/webshots-freeze-frame

[jhonnbalance]

Tom of Finland, preparatory sketch. 1977. Model: Aarno Nurmi.

[memories-of-ancients]

Silver reliquary in the form of a hand, Belgium, circa 1250-1300

from The Victoria & Albert Museum

[oldpaintings]

Robert Anning Bell (English, 1863--1933)

[fallahifag-deactivated20240722]

[ID: a screenshot from the website Queering The Map, with a pinpoint in Palestine. The pinpoint reads “i am trans, and i am Palestinian. i will not chose between my country and my queerness and i will not let colonisers erase one half of me so the other can be free. allah's love is for all”]

[teathattast]