Bevie BAMM

Keeping my thoughts in order.. Intersectional feminist, social philosopher, millenial mom

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Something I learned from paying attention to social interactions and dynamics. If you open the conversation to a large group of people, there will always be : people who like what you're doing ; people who criticize what you're doing (some for valid reasons) ; people who don't understand you ; people who think they understand you but really their subconscious is trying to get their attention about their own personal issues ; people who didn't even question the validity of what you're doing just because they like the version of you that they know so they approve ; people who didn't even question the validity of what you're doing just because they dislike the version of you that they know so they disapprove; people who want to be you (some in passing, some in a weirdly intimate kind of way) ; people who want to get on you or in you ; and people who honest-to-God fail to see the humanity in you and you should critically beware of.

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Loving this color combo, not sure how to build up the look though

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Something i really appreciate about the place I grew up is the ability to escape people

How do you know yourself if you're always focused on socialization?

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My biggest critique of white settler capitalism is that it promotes betrayal.

People are considered clever of they are able to successfully betray the trust of someone and victims are blamed for their stupidity or apparent moral failings. It is nearly impossible to be a protected victim - meaning there is backlash for you being wronged.

This is supported from by an individualist culture that forces people to think of themselves as individual persons and punishes community loyalty. Being able to have a community is a privilege afforded only to those with vast amounts of money. Others are given conflicting schedules and drained of resources like money, time and energy to uphold the comforts of the few

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So many victims of abuse become abusers because of the vultures that circle victims. There are people who specifically look for the vulnerably traumatized to screw over and frame. If this happens enough times in a tow or severely enough, they will send the victim into a spiral.

Then there is almost no one to save them and most people who get sent down this path are left to die alone whether it is by some type of mental health crisis or just in isolation.

I have had a hard time seeing the good in this world as I have experienced and witnessed certain people being marked as disposable punching bags.

AND God help you if you're a pretty woman who gets put on this road by life. It feels like being the only one living a zombie apocalypse so you can't even form a solid set of allies (because it seems like everyone is the zombies looking to digest you for their own benefit/satisfaction)

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Just remember that when people centre money, sex, and/or attention, they have given up knowledge, passion and creative curiosity.

That right there is why it is said, "money isn't everything".

Some of you have given up the building bricks of personal identity to instead focus on immediate pleasure. Self-evaluate. Regulate. Evolve.

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Sorry if you were expecting my normal content.. I'm focused on writing a book

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Apparently tiktok doesn't like it when you call out inappropriate hashtags... i found a very obvious pedo favourite and my video calling it out got pulled but not the hashtag itself 🙄

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I am so sick of the Canadian political system.

Like it's a failure in so many regards but at this current time they have failed me on so many levels that I am stuck here being asked to do the impossible.

First, I had an abusive on-again-off again relationship and technically the man was never my common-law but they are accusing me of such and coming at me financially. He has fled the country as of last year to avoid parental responsibilities. They want me to prove it through documents that don't exist (bills with his name on it then when his name was taken off.. he was never on the bills).

So they cut all benefits and are trying to come at me for money I do not have.

Then there is no real childcare choices so I am stuck with one with very limited operating hours. Thus making it impossible to find a job because someone has to be there to get my kid.

On top of all that, I have diagnosed PTSD and getting proper medical care is impossible.

I am so fed the fuck up.

I am tired of having a bunch of nepo babies for politicians.

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God I missed summer

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I am so sick of Canadian politics

It's just a bunch of nepo babies, raised within historic systems of injustice, pretending to be good advocates for the working class (of which they have never really engaged with outside of campaign settings).

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How to build a family from scraps

If you're anything like me, you did not have a sense of loving, supportive kin growing up. In many of the major moments of your life, you were left by yourself to figure it out.

The thing is, while you may not have had that kind of community in the beginning, community is one of those things you can build over time.

You have to be present though.

You can not expect people to be loyal to you in relationships if you are always thinking about something else when you are with them. Real relationships are when you are thinking about that person while they are with you.

Once you find a group of people that you are each thinking about when you are with them (and not what you have planned next, or what you seen online, etc.) and they prioritize you in the same way, you have a community. From there you can figure out ways to cooperate and ease each other's lives with mutual ease.

Over time, bonds will form as people have a tendency to start liking the people they do a lot of things for to justify the time they put into that person. Which can eventually become a family.

In your journey, never forget that people don't always like the people that do stuff for them. Bonds are formed in energy and some people are not capable of acknowledging the effort put towards their satisfaction. Some people can form attachment to another just from receiving, but others may just pretend to like you to see if they can receive more, and some will not even register anything other than the direct gift.

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The start of something new? Check out my youtube channel for the start of some Brilliance & Brutality

(And other social media too while your at it. My links are available through beviebamm.com)

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One of the pretty depressing things is watching people be heralded as intellectual superiors merely because the average population is not at a level of education capable of questioning them

And then can we stop acting like that happened because of nature's favoritism or because the general public is incapable of analytical intelligence.

We live in an era of crappy cultures.