“When I first met him I had everything on my own”
“No matter how much I really wish things could have happened between us, I can’t continue to ignore what this relationship has/is costing me. I can’t ignore what this relationship is doing to me. I can’t ignore what I would have to continue to lose in order to remain in this relationship. That’s not a cost that I can continue to bear.”
“The feeling when you have to leave someone who doesn’t have any other support anywhere else. And that guilt has kept me stuck longer than anything else. Because I love him and I can see that he is struggling and somewhere in my mind, leaving him feels less like protecting myself and more like abandoning someone who’s already drowning. So I stayed. Partly because I was scared of what will happen to him if I go. And also because I was scared of who am I without him. Who am I?”
“How much of myself have I already given him trying to be everything he needs? Because I know he doesn’t have a good support system, no community, language barriers and no one else to lean on. That weight landed entirely on me. It’s not sustainable. I started shrinking my own needs to manage his. I stopped bringing up my pain/concerns/difficulties and reduced communicating my feelings. And slowly I have disappeared inside this relationship that was supposed to be a partnership.”
“Leaving doesn’t make me a bad person. It makes me someone who finally recognizes that I NEED saving too. The most loving thing I can do for the both of us is be honest about what I can’t carry anymore. I’m allowed to go. Even when it’s hard. Even when I’m scared for him. Even when im scared for me. I’m allowed to go.”
