Marriage // Ephesians 5
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Below are the notes I took on Tim Keller's sermon on marriage. Ephesians 5:21 (above), lays the foundation for the marriage relationship.
(1) Paul is assuming that we have reached a point where we are able to serve one another - with the help of the Spirit. It is not natural/intrinsic to think of others before themselves. We are naturally self-centered.
{Submit: refers to a soldier under the direction of a general}
Mutually submission is assumed to be the foundation of any healthy marriage.
The basic problem in marriage is self-centeredness.
(2) The essence of marriage is a commitment / a promise. The two become one flesh.
Marriage vows have very little to do with the present. I promise to be... until death. You are making a promise about the future.
(3) The purpose of marriage is companionship. Adam could not find a companion ["it was not good"], so God created woman. God created us with a deficit.
If there is some one of the opposite sex who is a better friend to you then your spouse than you have violated the covenant of marriage.
(4) Marriage takes the highest priority.
If everything around you is a mess, but you marriage is strong, you will go out into the world in strength. If everything is great, and your marriage is a mess, you will go out into life in desperation and weakness.









