My wife and I have been using male chastity for about 4 years. My wife is very vanilla and it has taken her a very long time to become confident and comfortable with expressing what she wants with our intimacy and her sexual needs. For the record, I love my vanilla wife with all my heart and wouldn't change her for anything. She sees your post and I think they have helped her a lot knowing you guys are real. She sends me some of your memes to tease me during my workday. Our definition of permanent has become any time she doesn't need me out for her; the time has become longer and longer. She has moved my time locked from 3 to 4 days to 1 to 2 weeks and immediately after needing me, she tells me to put my cage back on.
I have been gently urging her to enjoy the vixskin I bought for her from your recommendations. From the first time I took it out of its new packaging I knew once she learned to enjoy it, this would change the game and I better be ready for that change when it happened. She has been slow to let herself enjoy it. Now the 2 times we tried it, I could tell physically she liked it, but I think it scared her. In fact, we have left it in the drawer because it makes her feel uneasy. I think her head game about not wanting it was that it did look and feel so real. I picked the bandit because it was the closest to me and I figured it would suit her best not switching what she is used to. and maybe she would accept it sooner than later. Our bandit has been in my bottom drawer for close to a year with us only trying it once or twice before, she just wouldn't have it. It has been in the drawer for about a year now. A few months ago, I told her I would enjoy her teasing me about using a strap on even if she didn't want to really use it and I wouldn't take it as her asking me to use it. I have no idea if that helped her to accept it and not reject it or not but looking back how did it not.
I was shocked last night when she acted like she wanted me to try it. She seemed more serious over the weekend the way she teased me about using it. For the first time last night, she laid back and just let go and enjoyed it. Watching her "O" face was very satisfying within itself to me. She came so hard. After we were done, she told me she was too tired for anything else and just laid on my shoulder and went to sleep. Before she went to sleep, she told me smiling it was pretty obvious that she enjoyed it.
For the 1st time I understood what Tom says all the time, pleasing her is plenty to sexually satisfy him. I was just fine staying locked and holding her. I do not feel replaced at all but glad I can satisfy her in a way that she deserves. Wives have a hard time understanding how much it means to her loving husband to please and satisfy her, until they do.
First, thank you so much for writing in. We love to hear from regular couples who are not doing anything crazy, but just into locking up their man to enhance their intimacy and enjoyment.
I do feel that women, especially from my era (lol ) learn early that they must "satisfy their man" and often have a difficult time just learning to enjoy being cared for, pleasured, and satisfied without feeling the need to return the favor. I've often said that my husband was the first boyfriend I had who made a point of making sure that I was taken care of before he allowed himself to finish, and was always ready to snuggle afterward. So if your wife had a hard time getting used to the idea of keeping you locked and just focusing on her own pleasure, I'm not at all surprised.
And I also understand what you mean by the idea that the Viskin may have scared her. The idea that I could keep my husband locked and just have him give me orgasms the way I liked was already almost too much to believe. Having him use the Vixskin Tex - close to his own size - at first was very intense for me. What if I liked it? What if I liked it a lot? What if I liked it so much that I liked it better than my husband? How would my husband feel about me enjoying it so much? What if he couldn't make me come as hard if I unlocked him? So many questions that seemed about our relationship and no real way to address them. There was nobody to ask, and no good way to talk about it with him if it meant he might feel badly about it.
I think that you were smart by stocking with a model that was close to your own size. I absolutely love the Ranger and can't imagine having anything else anymore. But I don't know if I would have been as comfortable starting off with it so I'm glad that he suggested the Tex to start with.
It sounds like your wife is on her way to feeling comfortable both with the new toy and with herself. You obviously did well taking your time and letting her go at her own pace. I that this works as well in your relationship as it has for my husband and I.
And also, if she's already sending your our memes, then please ask her to drop me a note. I would love to know what made her comfortable enough to get started and what she finds that she is getting out of this.
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