15 Things I learned in 2015
1. You need people. The rain will pour, and the sun will shine, but no matter what you need people to walk along side you in this journey we call life. Doing it alone will only lead to defeat and a hell of a lot of loneliness.Ā
2. You are special. No matter what that girl who hates you says, or the boy youāre in love with says, or even someone you thought was your best friend says, you are so incredibly special. There is only one you in this entire world, and that makes you worthy of all the happiness in the world.
Ā 3. You canāt control other people. No matter how much you wish you can, you absolutely canāt. People will make mistakes, people will hurt you, and people will get hurt by you, but you can only control what you do. Keep that in mind when youāre overwhelmed by the need to change a situation in your life that you in fact canāt.Ā
4. Your love is one of the greatest things about you. You can give it to anyone, but you must be careful of who you give it so willingly to. Some people donāt deserve it. Some people need it, but wonāt appreciate it. Some people want it, but you donāt realize it. There are so many ways loving people can go wrong, but you must love them anyways because love can fix so many things. Love will hurt, but please keep loving.
Ā 5. Find your person. Find the best friend who would do absolutely anything for you. Find the person who loves you, who is rooting for you, and who is constantly in your corner. Some people may seem like they are, but find that person who is absolutely, 100% on your side. That doesnāt mean they always agree with your decisions, but they always want whatās best for you.Ā
6. Your baggage is not a flaw. We all carry some sort of baggage. Some people carry only backpack, which can fit in a small compartment, while others of us would have bags that reached the overweight limit. Find someone with the same amount of baggage. Find someone who appreciates your baggage. Find someone who can help you carry it. Your baggage is not your downfall, it is simply a part of life.Ā
7. He is not important. No matter who your he is, he does not outshine you. You are important, and donāt ever let anyone make you feel like youāre not. He does not deserve your tears, he does not deserve your time, and he definitely does not deserve your love.Ā
8. Donāt fall victim to your own life. Life happens. Tragedy happens. Sadness happens, but you canāt wallow in your self pity. Itās yours to decide, so take the wheel and be the captain.Ā
9. Take care of yourself. Allow yourself to sleep in. Pamper yourself. Love yourself. Give yourself permission to take some time off. You are the only person who truly knows how you are doing, so you must take care of yourself as best you can.Ā
10. Change is scary but necessary. When faced with a big opportunity, do not run from it without taking another look. You may be given the opportunity to move halfway across the country for college. Please do it. Do not worry about leaving home. Do not worry about losing your friends. Do not worry about losing him. Those who matter will stick around, and those who donāt didnāt matter to begin with. Take each opportunity for what itās worth because change can be the beginning of an incredible life that you werenāt even expecting.Ā
11. Find your happy place. At first, it may be hiding from you. It may be wearing a mask of unhappiness and terror, but if you stick it out you may find you are truly happy somewhere. Surrounding yourself with people who love you can make a lot of places your happy place. Find it. It will help you thrive and grow in ways you never expected.Ā
12. Itās okay to cry. Cry when youāre sad. Cry when youāre happy. Cry when your best friend isnāt your best friend anymore. Cry when you lose your dog. Cry when you graduate from high school. Cry when you see your best friend for the first time in four months. Cry when you have to leave her again. Cry when a boy breaks your heart. Cry when you find a new one that fills that broken heart with joy. Cry because you want to.Ā
13. Learn to spend time alone. As stated before, you need people, but you also have to learn to rely on yourself once in a while. Your best friend can be busy. Your mom may not be around anymore. You may have to deal with things on your own. Spending time alone helps you figure out how to cope with your feelings. You know you the best of all, so spend time with your own thoughts. Spend time exploring that vast space that is your mind.
Ā 14. You do not need another person to complete you. Yes, it is nice to have someone to be your crutch in life, but that is not how you learn to stand on your own. Support is necessary, but not all the time. You are totally complete on your own, and another person is simply there to complement you. Donāt rely on others for your happiness, it will just leave you unhappy in the end.Ā
15. Being content is not a bad thing. There is so much emphasis on being incredibly happy that it is often forgotten that being content is perfectly fine too. Liking you job is fine. Liking your school is fine. Liking your friend is fine. You donāt always have to be jumping for joy about everything that is happening in your life. Of course, you donāt want to be simply content forever, but being content is not a bad thing. There are times where you just have to look around, sigh with relief, and realize that youāre making it. Youāre surviving, and that is good enough.
-Excerpt from a book Iāll never write // #129Ā // to a year of making more mistakes and learning new things
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