There was a point in time when I looked at black people who dated interracially as being peculiar. I had an animosity toward them that I couldn't hide. Now I just don't see it the same way. The social dynamics which have pushed us toward these relationships were not controlled by us. The fact is we have been living in a system of white supremacy for the past 500 years, and all of those years of abuse up until today have resulted in the millions of black men in jail, deadbeat fathers, and broke/dusty/unmotivated brothers we complain about. They've resulted in the "hoodrats", the glorification of single motherhood, blonde wigs, perms, skin bleaching, and "bad attitudes" we complain about. It's not that it is impossible for black men and women to form productive relationships, it's just that this system has made it so hard for us to do so because so many of us have been poisoned by racism and don't even know it.












