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thelonelybrilliance

Pink progressions.

[NYC, April 2026]

#spring things #photography #nyc

cinematicnomad

DROP DEAD GORGEOUS (1999) dir. michael patrick jann

#drop dead gorgeous

sophsun1

The X-Files – 3.04: Clyde Bruckman's Final Repose

#the x files

vigilskept

really i think the most insidious part of white supremacy is the way it will convince white people everything is actually About Them. being called out isn’t about you. poc expressing frustration at your behaviour isn’t about you. it’s about how you are affecting others. step one is literally just de-centre yourself from the conversation. anyone who’s not white has already had to learn this lesson the hard way and it gets tiring waiting for the rest of you to catch up

nothoardingifbooks

Not to derail or belittle this but I think that (on the internet especially) there's this expectation that after being called out on some behaviour/thought/stereotype/etc that is racist/sexist/homophobic/etc the person in question can/should be able and willing to completely reject that position and change to the new position in an instant with no mental processing.

As someone who has had to actively unlearn things from the benign and kind of funny to the truly harmful, I can say that most times my immediate response is "I'm sorry. I didn't realise that was bigoted." Then I go home and spend 7-12 business months unpacking what I've just learned, how it was woven into my life, and how I'm going to reframe my identity given that taking out that one thing has caused a whole lot of stuff I thought I knew to shift sideways.

Then AFTER I've finished unpacking and reorganising my brain I still need to actively police my thoughts and interactions in light of the new knowledge. Particularly with language where something that was not fraught when I was young has moved on and now has implications that I had no idea even existed. (Tranny anyone? depending on your generation and location it could mean anything from "bloke likes wearing lingerie with his wife" through "drag" to "transgender" and could be anything from affectionate to violently homophobic)

I am trying and I do actively attempt to not be a dickhead but I'm in my 40s and have a LOT of unlearning still to do. At least 3 times per year I get smacked in the face with a thing that "everyone should know" but I don't because I'm simply not interacting with this particular group of people regularly.

So all this to say that if it takes someone a while to grapple with their privilege it's not because they are actively or even passively resisting. Sometimes examinemyprivilige.exe has a long run time.

ikarons

hey, so, this response is derailing and belittling.

op is talking about how exhausting it is for people of colour to deal with the way that discussions about racism and the effects of racism end up being recentred around white feelings & the impact of the discussion on the perpetrator at the expense of those trying to discuss the racism in the first place. in light of that, this is probably not the place to talk about how long and complicated and arduous the journey of unlearning racism is.

like, do you see how this response does exactly what op is calling out? we've gone from "it is very hard to bring up racism with white people about racism because we will end up being forced to manage their feelings about it" to "but it's really hard for white people (and any other privileged classes) to unlearn racist attitudes (and other bigotry), please have patience and grace for the time it takes to learn better" — which is centring the struggle of the perpetrator and putting responsibility on the victim/marginalised person in the dynamic.

like. this probably should have stayed an inside thought, lmfao

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