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27 year old cat mom.

[bluefiredesire]

When will you plant your roots inside?

When will your stems sprout through me?

All around us is a garden.

But my sweat-slick skin salts your fertile ground.

Shall we both remain flowerless?

[killerqueenmp3]

[laura-the-swarming]

My mans unlocked a higher level of synesthesia

[mournfulroses]

Emily Dickinson, from a letter to Susan Huntington featured in "Open Me Carefully: Emily Dickinson’s Intimate Letters to Susan Huntington Dickinson,"

[mournfulroses]

Wang Ch'ing-hui, from a poem titled "The River Is Red'," featured in Women Poets of China

[mournfulroses]

Georgia O’Keeffe, from a letter to Alfred Stieglitz featured in My Faraway One: Selected Letters of Georgia O'Keeffe and Alfred Stieglitz: Volume One, 1915-1933

[r-girl]

[mournfulroses]

Anaïs Nin, from a diary entry featured in The Diary of Anais Nin, Vol. 3. (1923-1927)

[weltenwellen]

Franny Choi, from “Catastrophe is Next to Godliness”

[achillesinhighheels]

[chillpotato]

Mieko Kawakami, from 'Heaven'

[mournfulroses]

Tove Ditlevsen, from a poem featured in There Lives a Young Girl in Me Who Will Not Die: Selected Poems

[anthonycolonthree]

(guy who's not getting anything done voice) I need to learn every skill and all information

[mckitterick]

[rip-quizilla]

[forestgreenandgray]

Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

[tikkunolamorgtfo]

Just want to add that if you're on the spectrum, you may also experience Autistic Rumination, which is distinct from the obsessive variety, despite the two having some overlapping characteristics!

[xerospaced]

Neurotypicals have ZERO fucken idea just how much grace we give you.

Absolutely clueless as to how many things you do that offend, or are dismissive, or ableist. We endure all the bullshit of being made to feel small, or wrong, or being made to be the problem time and time again.

You have no idea how often we tell ourselves that y'all "probably didn't mean it that way" or put it down to a lack of sensitivity, or not sharing the same experience.

You have no idea how dismissive you can be of our challenges and how unwilling y'all are to actually TRY to understand our mannerisms, means of communication, or intent.

You have your perceptions and that's all that matters.

But we have to adjust ours CONSTANTLY.

Y'all can really be such arseholes without even trying and at the end of the day the only thing that comes of it is one of us trying to adjust, for the nth time, to finally get it right for y'all.

[krs-kross]

[goth-queen]