rambling

I saw something online and want to say something about it

[bobcutdisorder]

keep this body.

I don't wanna be skinny,

I wanna keep this body

these fat,

this

soft 

plump 

pudgy 

stretch marks and dimples ridden body.

what I don't wanna keep is

what comes after this body 

as if it's a repercussion of being

in a fat body

why am I being punished for glorifying my fatness?

why am I antagonized for celebrating;

my one and only physical vessel to enjoy and bask in every living experience I had?

I don't want anything

just let

Me

keep this body.

[bobcutdisorder]

Women Who Support Misogyny

This morning I scroll through my twitter timeline, I saw some tweets showing screenshots of igstories (whoops, the social media cycle about to happen). The screenshots talked about the op’s distaste on feminist women, particularly those who are active on campaigning female body authority, to be more exact; those who are supporting women’s freedom on dressing preferences. The op claimed that feminist women who support women wearing ‘more open’ clothing (based on their own preferences that is) only whine when those women got sexually harassed, saying that it is the men’s fault (it is). She also proceeded to say that they know nothing about fitra, that it is men’s nature to ogle on women’s bodies. Idk, to me it sounded like she’s saying that it is in men’s nature to be a sexual harasser and/or offender.

What I want to talk about is not that screenshots in particular, but the responses to that post since we’re all familiar to the nuances of misogyny in her opinion. I want to highlight a reply:

Imho, I don't think the misogyny is worse when it's shown by women, it's the same irrational hate taught deeply into all of us after all no matter what gender we are. Patriarchy *needs* misogyny to thrive, it will be planted on anyone living under it. No one can actually run from it unless they try to unlearn it. I'm one of those who's still trying to unlearn every bits of misogynistic values internalized into them too. Maybe it looks worse to some because they expect women to support each other since they are 'the same', they expect women solidarity only because of that. 

But in reality, women never really are grown in a society which promotes women solidarity, they never really are nurtured in such supportive environment. Instead they are taught to seek men's approval. They are taught to be palatable to the patriarchy in order to survive the oppression. From submitting themselves into the patriarchal ideas of how women should be and do to trying to lick men's asses by proving that they're not ‘one of those girls’. Any ends are the same, they are obliged to tear each other down, forced to compete against each other in order to be approved by patriarchy whether they realize it or not that their decision on doing it is never their authority. And in op’s case, she’s just showing what she has been taught, what she has been conditioned to be; a misogynist.

When it comes to misogynist women; embrace them first, she's also an oppressed victim. It's just that she copes with the oppression differently in order to survive. Her statements are stomach churning, but it came from someone who’s been taught to be so vile towards women. It's not like she has control to the environment she lives in and which values are getting internalized into her, right? While it’s true that men also are conditioned to be misogynists, they will always be advantaged and gain from it no matter what. Unlike women who gain nothing and will always lose in the end even when they try to assimilate themselves into patriarchy.

I know some of the responses meant well through the replies, I try to get it, you don't want her to support misogynistic values anymore. But must you mock her, from telling her she’s stupid to the extent of saying crude and cruel things about her physical looks? Be a little kind when you’re commenting online. You could also try to understand where such statements came from. And maybe next time try to admit how you also had similar thoughts to her in the past before you criticize women like her. I can hardly believe there is anyone who’s grown up and nurtured in such egalitarian (?) environment, because if there were anyone, then they won’t even be making such statement in the first place. 

p.s. the tweet was from a man

p.p.s. yes, I use night mode and what about it

[sunchosens]

Disney Characters of Color as requested by anon 

[bobcutdisorder]

Sike

Yeah that was my other account but you get the gist, I'm not used to this app.

[bobcutdisorder]

PINK

Few weeks ago I responded to one of my friend’s instastory, saying that her pink laptop is ultra cute. And to my response she replied saying she actually likes pink but she doesn’t like it when people know that she likes pink, since people will think she’s a girly person (you know, pink is a girl color). She said that she wanted to be seen as a cool girl rather than a “cuntik-cuntik” (feminine, girly) girl.

Then she asked herself whether it is wrong or not to not like being called girly, following her question I tried to probe her, was the reason to feel so because being girly is not who she is or is it because she feels anything that is associated with being girly is something she looks down upon? And she answered, “THAT’S IT!” Though at first she can’t identify what she was feeling, I gave her my take on her issue; it is true that any feminine associated traits are deem as weak, submissive, oh the misogyny underlying it just suffocates me. I also can relate to her desire to be seen as a strong woman, but must we strip our feminine traits and replace it with masculine traits just so we can get stamp of approval as a strong woman from our society? Sadly, most likely yes, women still have to adopt masculine traits in order to be deemed as someone strong. Still, no matter how many masculine traits women try to replace their feminine traits with, they will never be seen as equally strong as men. Not until we can smash the patriarchy and bury its ruins deep in the earth.

However, I just couldn’t stop thinking why the hell do we even assign colors to certain genders, like, why? How? Why would colors have genders for God’s sake. Since that conversation, I came to wonder since when we assign gender to certain colors; why is pink a girls’ color and blue a boys’ color? Turned out, it has never been like that from the start. Pink even was deemed to be more suitable for boys because it was a strong and distinct color, well that is according to the 1918 article from the trade publication Earnshaw’s Infants’ Department. To quote them, “The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl.”

To me, it’s funny how it didn’t become the norm to have a consensus that pink is a girls’ or in this starting point; a lady’s color until the inauguration of Dwight Eisenhower as the 34th President of the United States at 1953. At the inauguration, Mamie Eisenhower wore an enormous rhinestone adored pale pink ball gown, that was quite a shake for the people since women in that era wore much simpler style in a more muted colors. And because her position as the First Lady, it was no wonder that the whole nation was influenced, manufacturers and retailers alike started to market products targeted for women in the color pink. After that you know how it went, if a diamond cartel can market a made up the obligation for people to only propose to your loved one with diamond ring because it shows them how much you love them (coughs De Beers coughs), then why can’t decades of a collective of manufacturers and retailers dictating you which color fits your gender, not to mention the pop culture trends following them?

We’ve been associating certain qualities to colors since long time ago, like how we as Indonesian generally acknowledge that the meaning behind our national flag’s colors; red for bravery and white for purity. But seriously, I still don’t reckon there’s a logical reason to assign or align gender to color, moreover assigning gender stereotypes to a particular color. In the end, it’s just a construct by the capitalists to boost their profit margin. In all seriousness, I think we should all really unlearn the social construct that certain color has specific gender or a symbol of any specific gender, because really, it doesn’t have any logical reason supporting it. It may become a barrier for some to be themselves without being looked down upon, like how my friend can’t enjoy her (super) cute pink laptop because of the fear of being judged as a weak woman, or how guys are trapped in a dull closet of for the rest of their life because splashes of colors on their outfits are just not man enough for them. Pfsh, talk about fragile masculinity, but that’s a whole other massive and utterly complex issue we can have a discussion about later.

[inconsistensiester]

Okay, here’s something I’d like to add because it’s just been on my mind.

“…women still have to adopt masculine traits in order to be deemed as someone strong. Still, no matter how many masculine traits women try to replace their feminine traits with, they will never be seen as equally strong as men.”

That part right there, officer, who am I kidding. Even when women are adopting masculine traits or even are masculine as they have always been, they will still face another oppression, they are judged negatively for not behaving, well you know, womanly. That’s utter bollock! Women really are trapped in this patriarchal world, when they are feminine, they are said and treated as weaklings, when they are masculine they are judged negatively for not behaving like what they’re supposed to. For real, sisters, we really are socialized to believe we are inferior no matter what. It’s never really because we are inferior, it’s them conditioning us to be so. I really wanna scream to the world “WELL THEN WHAT ARE WE SUPPOSED TO DO YOU PIECE OF ****!?!!”

Yeah but really, we been knew that as long as patriarchy’s still here, oppressing the ass of any other genders other than men in order for them stay superior, we can never win. (Also how many times have I said this? I’ve lost count already).

[bobcutdisorder]

PINK

Few weeks ago I responded to one of my friend’s instastory, saying that her pink laptop is ultra cute. And to my response she replied saying she actually likes pink but she doesn’t like it when people know that she likes pink, since people will think she’s a girly person (you know, pink is a girl color). She said that she wanted to be seen as a cool girl rather than a “cuntik-cuntik” (feminine, girly) girl.

Then she asked herself whether it is wrong or not to not like being called girly, following her question I tried to probe her, was the reason to feel so because being girly is not who she is or is it because she feels anything that is associated with being girly is something she looks down upon? And she answered, “THAT’S IT!” Though at first she can’t identify what she was feeling, I gave her my take on her issue; it is true that any feminine associated traits are deem as weak, submissive, oh the misogyny underlying it just suffocates me. I also can relate to her desire to be seen as a strong woman, but must we strip our feminine traits and replace it with masculine traits just so we can get stamp of approval as a strong woman from our society? Sadly, most likely yes, women still have to adopt masculine traits in order to be deemed as someone strong. Still, no matter how many masculine traits women try to replace their feminine traits with, they will never be seen as equally strong as men. Not until we can smash the patriarchy and bury its ruins deep in the earth.

However, I just couldn’t stop thinking why the hell do we even assign colors to certain genders, like, why? How? Why would colors have genders for God’s sake. Since that conversation, I came to wonder since when we assign gender to certain colors; why is pink a girls’ color and blue a boys’ color? Turned out, it has never been like that from the start. Pink even was deemed to be more suitable for boys because it was a strong and distinct color, well that is according to the 1918 article from the trade publication Earnshaw's Infants' Department. To quote them, “The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger color, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl.”

To me, it’s funny how it didn’t become the norm to have a consensus that pink is a girls’ or in this starting point; a lady’s color until the inauguration of Dwight Eisenhower as the 34th President of the United States at 1953. At the inauguration, Mamie Eisenhower wore an enormous rhinestone adored pale pink ball gown, that was quite a shake for the people since women in that era wore much simpler style in a more muted colors. And because her position as the First Lady, it was no wonder that the whole nation was influenced, manufacturers and retailers alike started to market products targeted for women in the color pink. After that you know how it went, if a diamond cartel can market a made up the obligation for people to only propose to your loved one with diamond ring because it shows them how much you love them (coughs De Beers coughs), then why can’t decades of a collective of manufacturers and retailers dictating you which color fits your gender, not to mention the pop culture trends following them?

We’ve been associating certain qualities to colors since long time ago, like how we as Indonesian generally acknowledge that the meaning behind our national flag’s colors; red for bravery and white for purity. But seriously, I still don’t reckon there’s a logical reason to assign or align gender to color, moreover assigning gender stereotypes to a particular color. In the end, it’s just a construct by the capitalists to boost their profit margin. In all seriousness, I think we should all really unlearn the social construct that certain color has specific gender or a symbol of any specific gender, because really, it doesn’t have any logical reason supporting it. It may become a barrier for some to be themselves without being looked down upon, like how my friend can’t enjoy her (super) cute pink laptop because of the fear of being judged as a weak woman, or how guys are trapped in a dull closet of for the rest of their life because splashes of colors on their outfits are just not man enough for them. Pfsh, talk about fragile masculinity, but that’s a whole other massive and utterly complex issue we can have a discussion about later.

[bobcutdisorder]

Capitalism is Dangerous for Your Mental Health – Reason in Revolt – Medium

What if it’s not we who are sick, but an entire society that is incompatible with humanity’s social needs?

As a base for myself; thank God my own thoughts ramble of how the psychology treatments felt like just a band-aid or just a quick-fix that never really address the big picture (in this case, system) which mainly responsible for the mental health problems has some solid supporting argument. And I cried while reading it because, damn, it hits close to home, so close.

[scykedelic]

[virtualrealityresort]